Come to my house, we will fight with sausage. Little finger reconciliation tradition

Make peace, make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
Then I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends

Let's all make peace

Let's all make peace
Share toys.
And who will not reconcile -
Let's not deal with that

Girlfriends

Let's not quarrel girlfriends
We are so sad without a friend!

Don't fight

Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly

Stop being angry

Stop being angry with us
Hurry, let's make up:
- You are my friend!
And I'm your friend!
We will forget all insults
And be friends, as before!

warm ray

The sun will come out from behind the clouds
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't fight
Because we are friends.

Let's be friends

How to swear and tease
It's better for us to put up with you!
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
Therefore, let's be friends!

Finger for a finger

Finger for a finger
We'll take it tight
Used to fight
And now for nothing.

Peace-peace forever

Peace-peace forever
Can't fight anymore
And then grandma will come
And kicks in the ass

Make up, make up - don't fight anymore

Make peace, make peace
Fight no more.
If you fight
I will bite.
And biting - nothing to do with it,
Let's fight with bricks.
And the brick breaks
Friendship begins!

How to swear and tease

What to swear and tease,
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance
swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Sculpt a grandmother, play snowballs,
Sharing sweets for two
All problems and secrets.
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!

Do parents need to intervene in conflicts between children, and if so, how to do it right? How to teach a child to resolve disputes peacefully, but bringing things to a fight?

Children quarrel easily and make up many times a day. There is nothing terrible or surprising in this. With the right attitude of parents, a quarrel can become for the baby great lesson, the key to the ability to find a way out of any conflict in the future.

Right now you can form an algorithm of actions in a child in such situations. There is different ways solutions: complain to adults, cry, step aside, get offended, join a fight. Or try to reconcile. How to teach a child to choose the right option?

Origin of controversy.

Preschoolers can literally quarrel out of nowhere. Something was not shared, for example, during the game. They get angry easily, but they make up just as quickly. They still do not know how to restrain their emotions, so they often act impulsively. The norms of behavior have not yet been formed, and the baby can quarrel and even fight with someone who until recently considered his best friend.

Perhaps the main quality of any child, egocentrism, plays a big role. And this is not the result of bad upbringing, but a natural stage of development. The baby is not yet able to put himself in the place of another person, to feel his pain and resentment. And this is not selfishness, but it still prevents the kids from living together.

Children are children! Their mood changes at the speed of light! Either they do not spill water, they are friends and adore each other, then everything changes dramatically and they are already fighting and offended. Children's conflicts occur very often. Usually it happens because of the little things (as it seems to us adults). But for a child, the cause of the conflict is the most real and serious. Children really don't know how to get out of conflict situations, they use force, scream and cry, complain to adults. Our task as loving parents is to help the kids find a way out of this situation, to set an example on how to resolve conflicts correctly and how to remain friends after this conflict.

In addition, to find a solution, we must also make peace. And it's best for this folklore. Namely - funny children's poems-mirilki. We have collected for you the 10 best poems created specifically for putting up. Choose a few of them that you and your child will like the most, and memorize them so that you can recall and use them at the right time.

Usually, during the pronunciation of the mirilki, the children hold hands or clasp their fingers (two little fingers) and hold the “lock” until the end of the verse. But these movements can be invented by yourself. The main thing is that after the mirilka, the children run on to play together!

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The sun will come out from behind the clouds
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't fight
Because we are friends.

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Once! - make peace!
Two! - make peace!
And don't fight me!
Three - they asked for forgiveness!
At four - everything is forgotten!
Five! - you can not be inflated:
We are now friends again!

***
I make peace, I make peace, I make peace.
And I don't fight anymore.
Well, if I fight
I'll be in a muddy puddle.

***
What to swear and tease,
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance
swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Sculpt a grandmother, play snowballs,
Sharing sweets for two
All problems and secrets.
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!

***
Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly!

***
Finger for a finger
Let's take it hard.
Used to fight
And now it doesn't matter.

***
Make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends.

***
Make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
I will bite.
Mom will come
We both get it.

***
Make peace, make peace
Fight no more
And then grandma will come
Your ears will prick.

***
Let's make peace with you
And share everything.
And who will not reconcile,
We will not deal with that.

***
To make the sun smile
We tried to warm you and me,
You just need to get better
And put up with us soon!

***
Stop being angry with us
Have fun all around!
Hurry, let's make up:
- You are my friend!
- And you're my friend!
We will forget all insults
And we will be friends as before!

and fight no more"

Prepared by:

educational psychologist

Dosaeva V.M.

Engels

2016

Target: develop in children feelings of kindness, empathy and tolerance. To form the ability to find methods of interaction.

Material and equipment:sheets of paper, paints, cartoon, multimedia equipment.

Stroke:

Educational psychologist:welcomes children.

And here we are together again.

Are you happy, kids?

We greet each other:

And you, and you, and me.

Educational psychologist:We have gathered today to talk about friendship, how to do everything together, live in harmony, negotiate, love and respect each other. And now let's see a part of the cartoon, (cartoon "Bear - bully"). After watching the conversation on the cartoon.

Educational psychologist: And all people in the world sometimes have situations when they quarrel with their relatives or friends. At this moment, they are very sad, offended, sometimes they are even angry with others. Do you think quarrels are necessary?

Children: Quarreling is bad. When you quarrel with someone, it is unpleasant.

Educational psychologist:How does a person who quarreled with someone feel?

Children: He worries, does not want to do anything, is sad, maybe even cry.

Educational psychologist:And the one with whom he quarreled?

Children: He is also bad and not happy. He thinks he needs to reconcile somehow.

Educational psychologist:If both are bad, is it possible to make sure that quarrels do not occur at all?

Children: You can ask how the other wants, how he likes to do, how he likes to do.

Educational psychologist:Why do we do everything differently?

Children: Because we are all different, not the same.

Educational psychologist:That's right, we are different in behavior, in character, in mind and other qualities. And how can you reconcile two quarreled friends? How can they be reconciled?

Children recall children's comic "mirilki":

Make peace, make peace, make peace and don't fight anymore,

And if you fight or call names...

I I'll bite, but there's nothing to bite

I will fight with a brick

And I don't want to fight

Because I love.

Matches, matches, we are sisters,

Mom red sister - reconciled forever.

Educational psychologist:Many mirilok you know. I I will introduce you to another mirulka called Drozd. Children are divided into pairs.

You're a thrush and I'm a thrush

Then to a partner.

I have a nose and you have a nose Touch your nose and then

Partner nose.

I have smooth cheeks and your cheeks are smooth

Then with a partner in the game.

I have sweet lips and you have sweet lips

Lips with fingers.

I am a friend and you are a friend, together we are friends. They point to themselves

Then to a partner.

One, two, one, two

You and I are now friends. Embrace.

Game "Tender words": Guys, do you know affectionate words, let's now say affectionate words to each other in a circle. The teacher-psychologist shows a sample.

Game "Compliment"Well done guys, they did a great job. And now we will say compliments to each other, which of you knows what compliments are. We wake up to compliment the neighbor, he will thank and compliment his neighbor on the right.

Educational psychologist:conclusions - now you yourself can call love to yourself, create good mood to himself and to another - speaking pleasant words, doing good deeds. You are strong, reliable, skillful! Friends are those who are always close to you and with whom it is good to be together. It's good to have friends around!

Educational psychologist:Guys, I want to tell you a story about friendship of 2 colors.

It was a long time ago. Once upon a time there were two colors in the world - yellow and blue. Yellow was very proud of the fact that he was the same as the sun and like the sand on the seashore on a clear day. sunny weather. Not far from the yellow vein Blue colour. He also considered himself very important and did not want to yield to the yellow color in anything.

So they lived, arguing with each other, which of them is more important.

I the most important, because the sun is the same color as me!

No, the most important me! Look - and the sky is blue, and the sea is blue. Can't do without me!

So they argued, argued, and one day they almost had a fight. But at that moment the wind blew and mixed the yellow and blue.

So born green color, and from it - grass, flowers, trees! And it became so good in the world: now the sea, and the sun, and the sky, and the grass - everything is colorful! And yellow and blue realized that they were wrong, that each of them is good in its own way, and that if they are friends, a green color will appear, and now no one can do without it! (During reading, the teacher psychologist shows the “monotype” technique)

Educational psychologist: I I suggest you yourself try to make friends yellow and blue and see if they really make friends.

(children do practical work)

Educational psychologist:Well done guys, today we talked about friendship and how to be friends, how to put up, even made friends colors.

Parting.

It's good to have a friend next to you

I love his smile and the warmth of his hands.

A friend always plays with me

Understands and forgives.

I miss him so much!

It's good to have a friend with you!

Happily and long live not those who do not know how to swear, but those who know how to put up.

Think back to your childhood...

When the trees were huge, when mother's smell was the most fragrant in the world, when tears had the ability to evaporate from one mother's kiss, when it was so easy to put up with friends ...

You just had to take each other's little fingers and be sure to utter the well-known spell. This:

Make peace, make peace and don't fight anymore.

And if you fight , then I will bite .

And don't bite , I will fight with a brick .

And the brick will break , friendship begins

And even if before that, resentment simply burst you, and tears flowed in a stream, this ritual instantly produced a magical effect: tears dried up, resentment evaporated, and a smile of reconciliation appeared on their faces.

With this little ritual, we dedicated ourselves to "friends." After that, it was impossible to pout, be offended, just like offending. Real friends don't do that.

Still baby concept decency and honor always fascinates me. There was no need for papers signed by lawyers, here it was enough to swear together and shake hands with little fingers.

Yes, childhood is golden .... Everything was so easy.

So where did this tradition of little finger reconciliation come from, and why does it have such an impact on people?

According to experts, the heart meridian passes through the little finger. Therefore, an oath that is given in this way is given from the heart.

Now it becomes clear that the tradition of tying the little fingers of the spouses with a red ribbon. For life, two hearts together.

Astrologers, on the other hand, say that the little finger is under the auspices of Mercury, the planet of trade and business.

Therefore, in ancient times, this particular gesture was like a seal on an agreement between merchants. They took an oath to fulfill the agreement concluded between them in this very way - grappling with their little fingers. And it was impossible to break such an oath in any case.

If this promise was broken, then no one else wanted to deal with the merchant. It was said that such a merchant was not worth a little finger of honor.

Time passes, we grow old, we are already watching how our grandchildren put up with the help of this time-tested method.

And the question arises ... why before, in order to comply with something, it was required just a given word, uttered just directly looking into each other's eyes. And with age, we try to protect ourselves with a bunch of papers .... Yes, just in case.

Either promises have become cheap, or something is wrong with us.

And why then, with nostalgia, we recall our serious childhood oath:

Finger for a finger
We'll take it tight
Used to fight
And now for nothing.

In life, sometimes it happens that you feel guilty, but something prevents you from approaching a person and asking for forgiveness. Probably our pride, which we have nurtured over the years of life.

Then you can try to extend the little finger to the person for reconciliation ...

Do not be afraid, the memory of childhood is the strongest and fairest. This person, probably in childhood, also put up with his little finger.

This does not mean that his resentment will immediately pass, but believe me, this gesture will help soften this resentment, make it not so sharp and piercing. And if he stretches out his little finger to you, you are lucky, childhood has become your assistant and peacemaker.

I would like to say one such wonderful Leopoldian banality: let's live together, guys.

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