If you fight, I will bite. Little finger reconciliation tradition

25. Make peace with your opponent quickly, while you are still on the way with him, so that your opponent does not hand you over to the judge, and the judge does not hand you over to a servant and throw you into prison; The thought of verse 24 about speedy, immediate reconciliation is repeated; but the case is viewed from a different angle.

Rule number 18

Rule #18 Everyone considers himself right and does not want to back down. But you must! And probably to you. By coming first, you will win in everything: you will prove that you love, show your compliance

Children are children! Their mood changes at the speed of light! Either they do not spill water, they are friends and adore each other, then everything changes dramatically and they are already fighting and offended. Children's conflicts occur very often. Usually it happens because of the little things (as it seems to us adults). But for a child, the cause of the conflict is the most real and serious. Children really don't know how to get out of conflict situations, they use force, scream and cry, complain to adults. Our task as loving parents is to help the kids find a way out of this situation, to set an example on how to resolve conflicts correctly and how to remain friends after this conflict.

In addition, to find a solution, we must also make peace. And it's best for this folklore. Namely - funny children's poems-mirilki. We have collected for you the 10 best poems created specifically for putting up. Choose a few of them that you and your child will like the most, and memorize them so that you can recall and use them at the right time.

Usually, during the pronunciation of the mirilki, the children hold hands or clasp their fingers (two little fingers) and hold the “lock” until the end of the verse. But these movements can be invented by yourself. The main thing is that after the mirilka, the children run on to play together!

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The sun will come out from behind the clouds
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't fight
Because we are friends.

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Once! - make peace!
Two! - make peace!
And don't fight me!
Three - they asked for forgiveness!
At four - everything is forgotten!
Five! - you can not be inflated:
We are now friends again!

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I make peace, I make peace, I make peace.
And I don't fight anymore.
Well, if I fight
I'll be in a muddy puddle.

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What to swear and tease,
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance
swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Bab sculpt, play snowballs,
Sharing sweets for two
All problems and secrets.
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!

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Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly!

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Finger for a finger
Let's take it hard.
Used to fight
And now it doesn't matter.

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Make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends.

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Make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
I will bite.
Mom will come
We both get it.

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Make peace, make peace
Fight no more
And then grandma will come
Your ears will prick.

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Let's make peace with you
And share everything.
And who will not reconcile,
We will not deal with that.

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To make the sun smile
We tried to warm you and me,
You just need to get better
And put up with us soon!

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Stop being angry with us
Have fun all around!
Hurry, let's make up:
- You are my friend!
- And you're my friend!
We will forget all insults
And we will be friends as before!

Do parents need to intervene in conflicts between children, and if so, how to do it right? How to teach a child to resolve disputes peacefully, but bringing things to a fight?

Children quarrel easily and make up many times a day. There is nothing terrible or surprising in this. With the right attitude of parents, a quarrel can become for the baby great lesson, the key to the ability to find a way out of any conflict in the future.

Right now you can form an algorithm of actions in a child in such situations. There is different ways solutions: complain to adults, cry, step aside, get offended, join a fight. Or try to reconcile. How to teach a child to choose the right option?

Origin of controversy.

Preschoolers can literally quarrel out of nowhere. Something was not shared, for example, during the game. They get angry easily, but they make up just as quickly. They still do not know how to restrain their emotions, so they often act impulsively. The norms of behavior have not yet been formed, and the baby can quarrel and even fight with someone who until recently considered his best friend.

Perhaps the main quality of any child, egocentrism, plays a big role. And this is not the result of bad upbringing, but a natural stage of development. The baby is not yet able to put himself in the place of another person, to feel his pain and resentment. And this is not selfishness, but it still prevents the kids from living together.

Happily and long live not those who do not know how to swear, but those who know how to put up.

Think back to your childhood...

When the trees were huge, when mother's smell was the most fragrant in the world, when tears had the ability to evaporate from one mother's kiss, when it was so easy to put up with friends ...

You just had to take each other's little fingers and be sure to utter the well-known spell. This:

Make peace, make peace and don't fight anymore.

And if you fight , then I will bite .

And don't bite , I will fight with a brick .

And the brick will break , friendship begins

And even if before that, resentment simply burst you, and tears flowed in a stream, this ritual instantly produced a magical effect: tears dried up, resentment evaporated, and a smile of reconciliation appeared on their faces.

With this little ritual, we dedicated ourselves to "friends." After that, it was impossible to pout, be offended, just like offending. Real friends don't do that.

Still baby concept decency and honor always fascinates me. There was no need for papers signed by lawyers, here it was enough to swear together and shake hands with little fingers.

Yes, childhood is golden .... Everything was so easy.

So where did this tradition of little finger reconciliation come from, and why does it have such an impact on people?

According to experts, the heart meridian passes through the little finger. Therefore, an oath that is given in this way is given from the heart.

Now it becomes clear that the tradition of tying the little fingers of the spouses with a red ribbon. For life, two hearts together.

Astrologers, on the other hand, say that the little finger is under the auspices of Mercury, the planet of trade and business.

Therefore, in ancient times, this particular gesture was like a seal on an agreement between merchants. They took an oath to fulfill the agreement concluded between them in this very way - grappling with their little fingers. And it was impossible to break such an oath in any case.

If this promise was broken, then no one else wanted to deal with the merchant. It was said that such a merchant was not worth a little finger of honor.

Time passes, we grow old, we are already watching how our grandchildren put up with the help of this time-tested method.

And the question arises ... why before, in order to comply with something, it was required just a given word, uttered just directly looking into each other's eyes. And with age, we try to protect ourselves with a bunch of papers .... Yes, just in case.

Either promises have become cheap, or something is wrong with us.

And why then, with nostalgia, we recall our serious childhood oath:

Finger for a finger
We'll take it tight
Used to fight
And now for nothing.

In life, sometimes it happens that you feel guilty, but something prevents you from approaching a person and asking for forgiveness. Probably our pride, which we have nurtured over the years of life.

Then you can try to extend the little finger to the person for reconciliation ...

Do not be afraid, the memory of childhood is the strongest and fairest. This person, probably in childhood, also put up with his little finger.

This does not mean that his resentment will immediately pass, but believe me, this gesture will help soften this resentment, make it not so sharp and piercing. And if he stretches out his little finger to you, you are lucky, childhood has become your assistant and peacemaker.

I would like to say one such wonderful Leopoldian banality: let's live together, guys.

I am always glad to see you on the pages of the site

Make peace, make peace, make peace
And fight no more.
And if you fight
Then I will bite.
And we can't bite
Because we are friends

Let's all make peace

Let's all make peace
Share toys.
And who will not reconcile -
Let's not deal with that

Girlfriends

Let's not quarrel girlfriends,
We are so sad without a friend!

Don't fight

Don't fight, don't fight
Come on, make up quickly

Stop being angry

Stop being angry with us
Hurry, let's make up:
- You are my friend!
And I'm your friend!
We will forget all insults
And be friends, as before!

warm ray

The sun will come out from behind the clouds
A warm ray will warm us.
And we can't fight
Because we are friends.

Let's be friends

What to swear and tease
It's better for us to put up with you!
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
Therefore, let's be friends!

Finger for a finger

Finger for a finger
We'll take it tight
Used to fight
And now for nothing.

Peace-peace forever

Peace-peace forever
Can't fight anymore
And then grandma will come
And kicks in the ass

Make up, make up - don't fight anymore

Make peace, make peace
Fight no more.
If you fight
I will bite.
And biting - nothing to do with it,
Let's fight with bricks.
And the brick breaks
Friendship begins!

What to swear and tease

What to swear and tease,
It's better for us to put up with you!
Let's smile together
Songs to sing and dance
swim in the lake in summer
And pick strawberries
Ice skating in winter
Bab sculpt, play snowballs,
Sharing sweets for two
All problems and secrets.
It is very boring to live in a quarrel,
So let's be friends!