Hellinger arrangements. The influence of systems on a person

Duration 1.5 hours Master class as a gift(4500 r) for a deeper effect I invite you to go through the Feminine Family Constellations with the transformation of the negative symptoms of the ancestors along the lines of your mom and dad, the blessing of the Women's Circle of Power at the Family Tree, the healing of the Present and the resource of the Future. At the Constellation, symptoms such as: Ancestral Magic -- Ancestral Curses -- Generic negative programs -- Degeneration of the Genus (or tendency to degeneration) The alignment is able to change almost all situations that do not allow you to experience the joy of a happy human life. Problems can relate to a variety of aspects:health, business, friendship and love, development, money, family relationships.It is impossible to enumerate the whole variety of situations, the solution of which you will find. If the relationship is too complicated or something has been tormenting you all your life, the arrangement will help in these matters. You have a powerful resource released and the opportunity to live in the present, and not repeat someone else's "incomplete" situations. What is alignment and how it is carried out Constellation is a method of systemic family therapy. This method is designed to work with systemic family traumas (system dynamics). The purpose of the method is to correct the consequences of these dynamic Systemic arrangement is carried out via Skype - at the same time, the therapist and the client arrange the sheets in the working field on the table or floor. Arranged figures (sheets) convey what is happening in the family system, based on the information of the working morphogenetic field (discovered by a scientist named Sheldrake) Practitioners of this method (therapists) have found that many of the problems and difficulties that people have are related to traumas suffered by the family system in the past, as well asviolation of the orders of the hierarchy and "take-give". The fate of the client and the circumstances of his life will be influenced by all the events that take place in his family system, including even before birth: murder, abortion, suicide, early death, rape, immigration, loss of property and dispossession, divorce and betrayal, etc. Violations of the orders of the “give-take” hierarchy include: the desire of parents to “take” from children and make them their energy and psychological donors, as well as the opinion of children that they are better than their parents (disrespect for parents). Family traumas (including those of no longer living ancestors) are the cause of almost any problem for their descendants: in health, work, family relationships, financial matters. As a result of work on this method, hidden system dynamics (negative trends) are discovered and a solution and a resource are offered to the client.

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This method has a positive and profound impact on the client's life and turns his problems into solutions and resources. Many therapists refer to this method as a spiritual practice.

life scenarios

Most mental and psychosomatic disorders are associated with systemic family dynamics. The constellation clearly shows how the client can confuse his own experiences with the adopted feelings (along the lines of the family of the mother and father).

All people live according to their ownlife scenario. This is understood as a kind of preconscious plan of life, which is formed in childhood and continues to influence our adult life. The scenario is formed on the basis of parental programming and our responses to parental programs. Fairy tales, stories, books, films also influence the formation of scripts [scenario matrices].

The basic need of a child is the need for acceptance and respect. But in our culture, instead of love, a person often receives resentment and insults. Expression of anger towards parents is prohibited. As a result, it is suppressed, which leads to an increase inthe trauma of our experience. By the age of 5-7, this pain becomes unbearable, and the child decides to "distort himself so that his parents can love him." This process is called pain freezing. Suppressed pain is expressed in the form of bodily symptoms - stuttering, shallow breathing, muscle tension, etc. Primary pain is removed by psychological defense mechanisms. In particular, such education as character helps us in this.

Thus, a person lives not in a real, but in a symbolic world. Pain from the past affects our present. To change this, you need to defuse this primary trauma. To do this, you need to find it and enter it. There is a cathartic discharge, awareness and inclusion of this experience in the personality of a person.

When influencing the family as a whole, there is an influence on every element within it. A change in one part of a system affects the whole system as well as the parts that make it up.

There is alsoconcept of family justice. It is observed if family members maintain a balance - a balance between what is received and given. Balance also applies to the relationship between parents and children. The way to pay here is transgenerational, everything that we receive from our parents, we pass on to our children.

Parentificationis a situation in which children become "parents" to their parents. In a way, this is a reversal of basic values.

How did the family constellation method come about?

One of the pioneers of constellations is the method of “family sculpture” by Virginia Satir. In this technique, the therapist invites clients to make a living sculptural portrait, placing family members in space. It was in the Satir group that the phenomenon of substitutive perception was discovered. One of the family members was unable to attend the class. And he was replaced by a stranger. Then it was discovered that an outsider can experience the feelings of a real family member.

Also, the work of the famous psychotherapist Milton Erickson influenced the formation of this method of counseling.

The practice of family systemic constellation was also influenced by Frank Farelli, who used provocative therapy. In accordance with it, the therapist has to go "to the very limits, to the extreme point."

In the classical view, a person’s family system includes people connected with him by “relations of life and death” - relations of consanguinity or very strong relationships that may have affected the preservation / deprivation of life of family members, its meaning. The family system includes both living people and those who have died / unborn. People belong to the family system regardless of whether the client has information about them or even about the very fact of their existence ever.

The family system includes:

Biological parents of the client (regardless of whether they are alive or dead, the client knew them or did not know whether he was conceived naturally or using modern fertilization technologies);

Brothers and sisters of the client: relatives and half-bloods; living, dead, unborn (abortion, miscarriage); known to the client or not;

Sexual partners, lovers, spouses: regardless of whether the relationship is registered, recognized, how long it is and whether it lasts at the moment.

The conception of a child connects his parents into the family system, regardless of the nature of the relationship (including short-term relationship or violence, including if the child was not born);

Children of the client: living, deceased, unborn, adopted or given for adoption, whether known to the client or not;

Other blood relatives: uncles and aunts, grandparents, brothers and sisters of grandparents, great-grandparents and more;

People who are connected to the client or other members of his system in a "life-and-death relationship", for example: one who rescued during a war or other life-threatening circumstances; the one who took his life (for example, the culprit of the accident, the killer); one who gave a lot of care and participation (nanny, teacher); the one who provided life (benefactor); the one who deprived of property (for example, during dispossession), etc.

In the process of research by Bert Hellinger, the laws in force in family systems were formulated - Orders

Laws (Orders of love) according to B Hellinger:

1. The law of ownership

Every member of the family system has the right to belong to it. Violation of this Order, that is, the exclusion of someone from the family system, leads to the fact that another member of the system takes his place, forced to repeat his fate in some detail and / or experiencing vague feelings of "I'm not in my place." An exception is understood as the unwillingness of the members of the system to recognize the full belonging of other participants to it, for example: “your father does not want to know you, we will find you a new dad”, “your grandfather was a pilot and died on a mission” (grandfather was in prison and died there) , “there was a holiday romance, I don’t even remember now what her name was, she said that she was pregnant and I gave money for an abortion.”

2. Law of hierarchy

The new family system takes precedence over the old one. For example, marriage creates a new family system for a child, and this system takes precedence over his parental system. Violation of this Order (when the child remains in a stronger relationship with the parents than with the spouse and their children) leads to the weakening and possible collapse of the new system.

3. The law of balance between taking and giving

If one member of the system gives something to another member of the system (or takes something away), this must be adequately balanced. Imbalance leads to the weakening or disintegration of relationships in this part of the system. Bert Hellinger talks about "positive balancing", when in return for a favor the other person does the same favor "and a little more", and the relationship is strengthened and expanded. In “negative balancing”, in response to the damage, the “culprit” accepts the consequences of this damage “but a little less”, and then the relationship retains the possibility of restoration through the exhaustion of the consequences of the damage.

The results of the Constellations justify the time and money spent by clients.

Systemic Constellation frees you and your family from the centuries-old ancestral curses of poverty, loneliness, illnesses, misfortunes and deaths.

* I conduct Women's Spiritual System Constellations with the inclusion of the circle of Women's Power, the Tree of the Family, the Blessing of the Ancestors, Receiving a New Life Resource and designing the Future.

I can only accept 5 clients per week - one per day. Because the Constellation requires a lot of energy, attention and my intellect. + in addition to constellations, I have trainings, family and advanced training, and for all this I need time. Please do not mystify the wordcurse.

Here is how Wikipedia interprets “Curse”:

Curse- a verbal formula containing a wish for evil against someone or something, swearing. Extreme, irrevocable condemnation, which marks a complete break in relations and rejection.

In beliefs - a spell, a verbal ritual, with the aim of using the magical power of the word to inflict damage on the offender, the enemy, sending evil fate on him.

In fact, a curse is specific words or thoughts, powerfully energetically charged in a fit of strong outburst of hatred, anger, anger or envy. It's a veiled death wish.

Anything less in power is classified as evil eye and damage.

Curses in the Family are:

Rod's own curses: when someone (sometimes over several generations) cursed other people for various reasons. For example: a mistress took her husband away - the wife cursed her descendants up to the 7th generation.

Curses addressed to the Family: when they cursed the representatives of your Family. A wealthy nobleman made a servant a concubine - his wife cursed her and her descendants out of jealousy.

Cursing is a biblical phenomenon.Because of envy, anger, obsession, mental inferiority, a person becomes capable of the most heinous evil.

Attention, please - do not come to me with a request:remove the corruption or curse. Constellations have the main goal of harmonizing the Soul of the Genus and the liberation of the Family system from unresolved nodes that block the life and well-being of descendants, the establishment of processes in the present and the Resourcing of the Future.

Curses are already diagnosed during the constellation and it is not always the curse that causes misfortunes in the Family and in your personal life. Everything is much deeper and more voluminous. Sometimes a lot of symptoms intertwine and it takes time. That is why I recommend an average of 3 constellations.

Another common cause of suffering and distress ismixed up roles in the Family.When from generation to generation women behave like men, and men are more similar in role behavior to women. Roles are confused, responsibilities, respectively, too. In the field of the Family, an imbalance is diagnosed - as a result of a violation of the Laws and Orders.

The Bible mentions“Cursed is the wife who behaves and dresses like a husband”

The cost of the arrangement will increase and by September 20 the cost of one arrangement will be 15,000 rubles.

Also you have there is an opportunity to save- if you purchase a package of 2 or 3 constellations:

It is very important to deal with the topic of belonging to your family system (Kin).

After all, it is by the Genus that we draw eitherResource (Blessing development), or Symptoms (cursesunfortunate circumstances).

In general, of course, both in different proportions. But….

For many women, according to the Family, it came to lifeThere are more symptoms than the Resource.

This manifests itself in the form of very difficult, sometimes difficult, cramped life circumstances in various areas: relationships, work, health, self-realization.

Many Symptoms from Rod are a feeling of impasse and impotence.

II conduct Constellations via Skype and your problems subside, and you begin a New Life with a New Resource:

Relationships are improving

Misfortunes and hardships are magnetized

There is energy and strength to live

Financial difficulties are resolved

Channels of self-realization open

Pessimism and depression go away

Health improves and appearance improves.

And it's not magic! All these are the consequences of established relations with the Family and help the Family in solving the accumulated unresolved problems!

Each of us is a part of a system - a family system - of a kind.

When we meet with systemic (Birth) Symptoms and heal them, our life is rebooted into a New Lad. The Decision comes, and after it Harmony in the Soul and in Life!

Every woman and girl needs positive interaction with her Family. And for this you need to work hard), but not as long as you think!

This wonderful, most interesting Labor in the name of one's Happiness and in the name of the Happiness of His Kind is calledarrangement. I invite you to a lesson on Skype and a New Life:

P.S. I do not spend Hellenger's constellations, but Spiritual Systemic Constellations - with the inclusion of the circle of Female Power, the Tree of the Family, Blessing of the Ancestors and Receiving the Resource of New Life.

I invite you to deep work to solve your problems and achieve your goals

Bird of the Roda

7 generations that are behind each of us, only 256 people.

The wings of a bird, beautiful and symbolic!

Each of us combines two clans - the clan of the mother and the clan of the father. In Constellations we come into contact with seven generations of maternal and paternal lines.

I call the bird of happiness the seven-generation Family Card - it resembles the wings of a bird that accompanies a person all his life. Is your Family Card a Bird of Happiness or a Crow of failures?

If you have problems in relationships, in the sphere of money, in health, self-realization - then know that a weak Rod stands behind you. Once it was strong, but the mistakes of the ancestors have accumulated over the centuries and weighed heavily on your fragile shoulders. To catch the Bird of Happiness from your Family and get rid of the Crow of failures, you need to go through Constellations (I guide them through Skype). Constellations are different from consultations - they solve the deepest problems much more efficiently and quickly. 1 Arrangement according to the depth of influence and effect on your life is equal to 5 Consultations. Your request can relate to absolutely any situation - relationships, health, finances, self-realization, etc. To work on the Constellation, you do not need to know the names of ancestors, geographical names, dates ... It's important to know 2 things: What I definitely do not want in my life! What I really want, dream, wait!

Working with Rod is a way to find a new level in relationships, well-being, self-realization, career, improve health and the state of the nervous system! Also on the Constellations of Victoria Volevach you are waiting for: -- Family Tree and Anthem of the Family -- The Circle of Power of the Women of the Family and their blessing gifts! -- Wish Stars in the Future and their Blessing Tips!

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Hello Victoria! After the arrangement, there was some kind of fatigue, and then a surge of strength appeared. I looked at myself, at my life from the other side, and ideas come up how and where to realize myself. It became easier, I felt better the connection with the family, the feeling of support from the family, I felt love for my mother, although I used to have some kind of lump in my throat when I talked or remembered her. You go deep into the problem and already look at the problem from the other side and understand that this is not such a problem anymore. Although only a day has passed after the arrangement, new realizations come and everything quickly begins to change. Victoria, Thank you for helping us change. And I thank Life for all the opportunities that it provides. Sincerely, Valentina!

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The arrangements helped a lot, got to the bottom of the root causes of my problems. Of course, I received a lot of valuable knowledge, and answered many questions for myself. It is also important that Victoria works very environmentally friendly and shows what results can be after practice, so even difficult moments in working out are a pleasure. Victoria, thank you very much, I will continue! Sincerely, Julia!

Marina G.

Victoria, good afternoon. I just can’t help but write about my first results:

Today my husband called me to the city for a walk in the evening. We have an anniversary city, "Spleen" performed, and now we are coming from a concert, a guy of 30-34 years old (sober) turns to us and, looking at his husband, says:

Man, what are you doing! You are committing a crime! Shame on you! The most beautiful Woman I saw today is walking with you, AND YOU DO NOT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO HER!

Then he smiled, patted on the shoulder, like don't be offended: "Have a good evening"

I told my husband, automatically: "You see, the Universe itself is already talking to you."

But it raises self-esteem, thanks to you and the guy, and me)))

Tatyana S.

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Victoria, I have an insight after the arrangement !!! As if another daddy in memory was unpacked .... A situation where I am a mother, and my partner is my child who was injured (injury of the spine) .... And then I decided "Do everything so that my child does not need anything, so that he has everything" So, I now saw the main problem in this solution ...

As a result of SUCH a decision, I COMPLETELY REJECT MY FEMININENESS and take on the male function - to take care and provide for myself and the child .... and thereby also blocking the possibility of the presence of a strong man as a model for my child, receiving male energy not from me, but from a male father

Why? It feels like I blame myself so much for what happened to my son that I decide to deal only with him, raise him and "put him on his feet", and I put an end to my personal life. Here it is the primary violation in the family - when femininity went wrong! I understand everything...

Olga O

Hello Victoria! You did a constellation for me - less than three weeks ago. I worked through the situation with a boring, unloved, exhausting job, with conflicting colleagues. And we decided to keep it anyway. After that, it became easier inside - in the fact that this internal conflict does not seem to tear me apart. It became easier for me to react to some moments - something painful, offensive does not penetrate deeply and does not get stuck there, but it seems to bounce off, hurt, but not deep, there are still feelings, but not as strong as before. The colleague who bullied me calmed down after that...

Victoria, thank you for the feeling of happiness that I had after the consultation. You opened the veil to my new world, filled with lightness, kindness, love, secret stars, for which you want to live, enjoy and learn the art of being a woman! Thank you for the recommendations that change me, my thoughts and my thoughts about the long-awaited future, about the coolest present and the past past.

Hello Victoria!

In this review, please accept special gratitude and sincere gratitude for a special psychological workshop, namely, family constellations conducted with me. Before, I did not even imagine that this method has such a powerful force and consequences in a positive change in many of my life parameters. And, most importantly, only a true master of his craft, such as you, Victoria, should conduct these classes! Because as a result of this practical event, such deep and completely imperceptible secrets of the family and the causes of our current failures are revealed that you can’t even imagine why this could be.

You are always there in this process and skillfully lead us in the right direction, eliminating the generic past of various negative situations and conflicts, rebuilding the present and, accordingly, the future in a person and his family. Personally, after your workshop on family constellations, my life potential and health immediately increased significantly, a special youthfulness appeared, I just wanted to live, act and rejoice, see the light and colors of life, which, unfortunately, may be due to age or some other reasons, have already faded significantly.

I would like to add that the hostile attitudes of people from close circles and relatives have changed in a positive direction, vision and health have begun to recover, the creative and cognitive process, memory has become more productive. I began to feel in a special way various smells of fields, flowers, drought and an approaching thunderstorm. Some special calm perception, observation and understanding of the laws of the world, the state of surrounding people and events turned on.

I feel the energy, strength and help of a kind. I feel that the transformations in my body and destiny continue. I feel, I am sure that everything happens for the best. I become active and consistent in achieving my goals! You brought me back to an active normal life, Victoria! Low bow to you.

Sincerely, Alexander D, Kaluga.

Victoria, good afternoon.
Decided to update my review after the holidays.
This was our third trip together after the birth of our daughter. All this time, our relationship only got worse. In general, I wonder how my husband decided to go with me again. After all, the last two trips we fought all the time and both times we were late for the train, no matter how paradoxical it sounds.
Before the holidays, I went through the alignment. And everything went great. No scandals and train delays))
In addition to everything, we arrived in a city where, as it turned out, many Greeks live. Everywhere Greek flags, elements of architecture, very cool. In our hotel, the sea was painted on the entire wall, to which steps, columns, mountains lead ....
Heard a lot of compliments from men. When I asked my husband if I was beautiful, he answered of course, everyone turns to you. Was great. But the most important thing is not this.
Everything started to change. I don't want to say that my husband is changing. This is true, but it's not fair to say that he was bad, and I'm a miracle. No, I change first. My brain flipped 180 degrees. I no longer behave in such a way that my husband had to "defend". I now see that there are other ways besides divorce.
While we were at sea, I listened to a training about vampires. The next day, the husband returned the debt. The customer "lost" about three months ago. And then he returned it.
All in all, I'm looking forward to the next installment. Maybe it will be possible to solve the problem with extra pounds. All happiness and loving men.

A woman with a strong family is able to cope with her problems herself. But if you do not feel supported, if it seems to you that you are completely alone in this world, if your shoulders are aching from fatigue and heaviness, this is a sure sign that you do not have good relations with your family.

Education: Girne American University (Graduate School of Social Sciences, Counseling Psychology), Cyprus (Cyprus), Kyreniya Institute of Positive Technologies and Consulting, Moscow Institute of Economics and Law, Moscow Pskov College of Arts

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Bert Hellinger noted that often the source of a client's problem lies at the level of life of ancestors, such as parents or grandparents. Any tasks, scenarios that have not been lived to the end or uncorrected mistakes of the past, are passed on to the descendants of the Genus, thereby weaving them into the living and working out of what the ancestors did not complete. Therefore, other methods that are limited to considering only the current life of a person, as a rule, are ineffective, do not allow to see and eliminate the causes of certain undesirable phenomena. Unreacted feelings, destructive scenarios of behavior, illnesses are passed on to descendants and are lived as one's own. Within the framework of family constellations, the study of the client's problem is carried out more widely, systematically, the sources of problems are identified and eliminated, the root of which is in the life of not only current, but also previous generations. So, the Hellinger constellations are a method that allows you to work with a person as part of a system, find and eliminate the causes of certain negative phenomena in a person’s life, the source of which is in the life of their ancestors.

In the course of his observations, Bert Hellinger identified unconscious actions and reactions of family members that lead to increased suffering (for example, a daughter's revenge on other men for a mother who was mistreated by her father leads to even more innocent victims and misfortunes, while the problem is not solved), as well as several key laws of family systems (to be discussed in detail below), the violation of which leads to certain negative consequences.

Many constellations help solve problems, some people come out completely changed, despite the fact that they do not understand at all what happened, everything looked like some kind of strange theater, but at the same time, there is a feeling that something important has happened. In the process of arrangement, one can single out a certain structure, key points, understanding which, what is happening becomes clearer and often instructive.

How does the Hellinger system arrangement work?

A person comes with a problem that he wants to solve. There is a small discussion with the host, it is revealed how suitable the arrangement method is for the solution (sometimes a person simply lacks knowledge, perhaps some kind of worldly advice). Further, for the client system under consideration, for example, a family, several significant people in this situation are identified. In their roles from among the participants, the client or leader selects deputies and places them in accordance with how their position in the system is felt. The field of the system under consideration appears, gradually the deputies plunge into roles and begin to broadcast the processes taking place in the family. For example, a substitute mother may feel parental feelings for her daughter's substitute, substitutes for two warring family members begin to show aggression towards each other, and a sister begins to cry over a brother who died early. If necessary, some more roles are added to the arrangement and it is tracked how their appearance affects the system and changes in behavior.

According to the relative position and relationship between the elements of the system, violations associated with the client's request are determined. Further, various steps are taken to eliminate the identified violations, for example, by changing the position of the deputies, placing them in the right order or by pronouncing permissive phrases, as a result of which the family field and the client’s condition change, the causes of negativity disappear (sometimes additional work is needed to eliminate the accumulated consequences). The client, as a rule, observes everything from the outside, and then is introduced into the field of arrangement to perform key actions, live and fix the image-decision.

After the arrangement, it is better not to discuss it with anyone, try not to talk for a while (and with yourself too, do not ask questions, do not try to analyze), be alone with yourself, do not leave the process, fully accept and assimilate what happened . Sometimes a person starts talking (more suitable is "talking") in order to relieve tension, thus he knocks down the mood and reduces the strength of the constellation, the effect it produces.

As a result of the arrangement, the system is being rebuilt, so new ones may appear, change, or the old relations between people may cease, what bound them together will leave. Significant metamorphoses are possible in the lives of members of the system, for example, illnesses disappear or undesirable events cease to occur, someone marries, adult children leave their parents' apartment and begin to live on their own, irreconcilable relatives reconcile, sometimes something appears that has been hidden for a long time and calls for responsibility , to be paid on old accounts, to which they turned a blind eye. Those. not only pleasant changes can occur, but also something that is painfully perceived by some members of the system, requiring development and restructuring.

The idea to shift the function of displaying hidden subtle processes to the people themselves is very good, because. people, by nature, are good translators, they constantly work out signals from the subtle plane, realizing them in the dense one (more details below). A person has more degrees of freedom, more flexible than any other system, any other tool, for example, cards, a pendulum, a frame, etc. Substitutes can move, speak, show emotions, build figures, show dynamics, connection, interact, etc. ., which allows you to more fully and vividly convey subtle processes. It also gives some visibility and is easier to perceive by others, what is happening is clearer, more natural and closer to a person’s everyday life than the form in which information is given out in other systems (Tarot, pendulum, etc.).

The constellation method can be used not only to unleash family entanglements, but also to address issues of personal development (what is better to focus on now), finding a place in life, forecasting (which choice is best for a person), to clarify and improve relationships within teams, for example organizations (what happens between employees on a subtle level, where are the weak points, why the director stopped working well, how best to build relationships with this or that employee, what is the reason for current failures, mass layoffs and apathy in the company, what can be done, how customers will react to innovations). We can say that this is a technique based on the phenomenon of substitutive perception, the ability of a person to identify with any objects (subpersonality, a person, a dream figure, a collective, an organ of the body) or rather abstract concepts, processes, qualities and phenomena (death, relationships , reason, emotion, disease, life, wisdom).

Constellations, in addition to the group form, can be carried out one on one with a specialist, then the places of the figures are marked with “anchors”, and the specialist moves from mark to mark and gets used to the sensations of this figure, then everything happens approximately the same as in group work. Work can be done in your imagination, alone with yourself.

Systematic consideration of problems

A widespread narrow view of certain negative actions or vices of a person often does not allow solving the problem, because often several people are involved in this and the reason, the source of such behavior may be in another person, and everything is blamed on the victim and looking for (and finding) flaws in it. If you look at the problem more broadly, see a person as part of the system, pay attention to the relationship of elements, then often the situation is presented in a completely different light, and accordingly, other solutions appear.

Example "Man drinking"

The first husband of the woman left her and after a while she marries another, most likely not out of love. A woman is constantly dissatisfied with her new husband, compares him with others and finds flaws, and especially with the first. This happens as clearly - no matter what a man does, everything is wrong, and on a subtle plane - a woman inside regularly aggresses, sends negative thoughts, does not respect and despises a man, instead of a house like a fortress, good comfort, only pummeling. The husband gradually begins to drink, because. cannot withstand constant attacks. Perhaps he is not aware of the source of the problem, he feels that he is not well, and in order to somehow get away from these feelings, he forgets himself in alcohol. A man sacrifices himself to save his marriage.

Usually they say something like this: “Everything is fine with him, because he drinks!”, "Go get coded!"(in this case, the opportunity to rest, defend for a short time is blocked, and then other, more serious consequences are likely, for example, heart problems and early death or “unmotivated” attacks of aggression and beatings), "Such a wonderful woman is not lucky with a man"(human behavior within the family and in public sometimes varies greatly, under the influence of various egregors, both the perception of the world and the roles played by a person are rebuilt. A woman may well be “soft and fluffy” in public. See below in the text about the impact of egregors.), " stop drinking." To stop drinking, you need to see the source of the problem, as well as have the strength to make the decision to leave the relationship. Either a woman needs to figure out what is happening, where these emotions come from, what is their cause, and this is hard and you don’t want to look in that direction, because. something serious may come up, requiring a lot of energy and work on oneself. And in this case, to divert eyes, the stigma is hung that “a drunkard man” (a common version of the “solution” of the problem by the subconscious in order to reduce pressure on the consciousness. See the article on the work of the consciousness and the subconscious), then nothing needs to be done, the position of the victim is taken , all responsibility and blame is shifted to another. This is a special case, for illustration, there are other reasons for drunkenness and in each case you need to look individually.

As can be seen above, with an external declaration of any desires, often people inside themselves do not want changes, desires serve as a screen, speaking in this way or engaging in self-deception, a person receives some benefit. The actual implementation of what is desired may not be beneficial for some participants at all, because can lead to a restructuring of the system and relationships within it, sometimes these relationships can stop (the husband sees that his wife has not married for love and realizes the perniciousness of being with her further), even someone's death is possible (for example, when one person held another or wanted to die instead of him, saying deep inside: "better me instead of you"). All objects (both egregors and people) that are not interested in real changes begin to resist as much as they can, create various temptations and unforeseen circumstances in order to return everything to its previous course. For example, as soon as a man comes close to understanding, the wife becomes “silky” (the state is often induced by egregor and unconsciously played out) and gradually takes him away from “bad” thoughts, or when the husband is ready for decisive action, urgent matters appear and thoughts come ( from the system) that it is better not to do this yet, the words sound inside: “Well, be patient, wait a little more. Maybe things will change?". States of a man can jump from "My feet won't be here anymore", to the complete absurdity of previous thoughts and a lack of understanding of how he could think about it. These states are highly dependent on which egregor the man is currently connected to.

The impact of egregor on a person

After the arrangement, one can wonder how it happened that gradually a person began to reproduce other people's emotions, thoughts and attitudes towards other people, perception changed, began to feel, until recently, strangers, like his mother, husband, grandmother, brother, much was lived "as as if for real ”- such is the effect of egregor on a person. Few people transfer the experience gained to everyday life, wondering how much what we do every day, think, want, feel, live is our own, and not induced.

With the exit from the constellation field, the impact of egregors does not end, because. egregors are everywhere, a person simply moves from the area of ​​​​management of one egregor to the area of ​​\u200b\u200bother. A person goes out into the street and falls under the influence of a pedestrian egregor, which imperceptibly regulates the flow of people (you can feel the necessary speed of movement and some lines of force along which it is better to go. In the direction of those who violate the preferred speed and trajectory, for example, when a person walks across crowds or constantly abruptly changes direction and speed, egregore makes other people feel dissatisfied, aggressive), or motorists, or the subway. Then he comes to work, home or to the store - they also have their own egregors that control the situation and people's behavior.

Example "In the store"

A burning desire to buy something appears in the store and is somehow explained (or not explained at all), which after leaving the store can be perceived as superfluous and unnecessary, although at the moment of choosing it was felt as clearly necessary, almost vital. The longer a person walks around the store, the higher the likelihood of falling into a semi-trance state and buying a lot of things that were not planned at all. Therefore, in many stores, bread is placed farther away, so that when following it, the buyer picks up something else along the way. Huge racks, a large selection, multi-colored packaging - all this disperses attention and contributes to the transition to the desired state. Listing, moving fast and focused reduce impulse buying.

Everything that happens is perceived personally, it seems to a person that the thoughts, emotions, impulses for action and the perception of other people are his own. In fact, the egregor leading the situation organizes a suitable set of circumstances, puts some roles on the participants and offers scenarios for the game that correspond to the roles, induces certain states. Given that a person is under the influence of the field not for 15 minutes, but most often much longer - often days and years, we can assume how powerful and deep this effect is, how familiar and imperceptible it is. In life, every person is an even better actor than in constellations, he gets used to the roles even better, learns them for a long time, perfectly and truly, selflessly performs.

Therefore, in most cases, the actions prescribed by the script are performed by a person without hesitation, automatically, from beginning to end, without assessing how useful they are and with full confidence that they are his own. Sometimes such reactions are inadequate to the situation, illogical and lead to negative consequences. Often scenarios are repeated more than once, and a person even notices that it ends badly, yet he enters them and works out, something sucks him in.

Example "Introduced Aggression"

A woman periodically finds a “causeless” feeling of hatred for men, she wants to take revenge on them, begins to perceive them as enemies who need to be punished. This feeling was passed on to her from her mother, whose husband mistreated his wife. It is clear that such obsessions have a bad effect on relationships with men who do not understand the periodic outbreaks of fierce hatred, aggression and destructive behavior. But the program, from time to time, turns on and the woman unconsciously produces a series of blows to "her enemies."

The solution will be to see what is really happening, that these feelings do not belong to her, but are induced, to disidentify. Many problems can be avoided by knowing the laws (orders) of family systems and the impact that their violation has on the lives of family members.

Ownership Law

All members of the system have an equal right to belong to the genus, no one can be excluded, there is no division into good and bad. Members of the system include grandparents, parents, previous partners of parents and grandparents, someone who has seriously affected the system (for example, saved someone from the system members, or killed), children, aborted or stillborn, murderers and their victims, those who have suffered in any way from the actions of the members of the system, and whether these people are alive now or not, they are all part of the system. It often happens that some of the members of the system are forgotten or forced out, for example, parents are hurt inside because they had an abortion, they try to forget, not to think about what happened, thereby, as it were, trying to exclude the child from their family. Or relatives with a difficult fate, unusual by social standards, are rejected - they prefer not to talk about them, a certain taboo appears.

In the event of any exclusion of one of the members, the system seeks to restore its integrity by the fact that the descendants begin to work out scenarios of behavior, carry the fate and feelings of the excluded, an identification occurs that people, most often, are not aware of.

Example "Remembering a grandfather"

Grandfather, a businessman, went bankrupt in one business, lost everything, his wife left him along with the child, and they prefer not to talk about him anymore. The grandson is also in business and as soon as he gets to the moment of significant success, he starts making mistake after mistake and eventually fails. This is how he remembers his grandfather. It is necessary to pay tribute to the fate of the grandfather, to lovingly acknowledge that he is part of the family, if possible, to establish contact with him.

You can look a little from the other side. Genus, egregore is a system that has its own tasks (karma), and family members are elements that perform certain functions. In the event of the exclusion of any of the family members, the functions are redistributed among the remaining participants, or the search for a person for the appropriate role begins (for example, it seems to a man that he is looking for a young mistress, but in fact, he misses his unborn daughter). When a suitable person appears, the system directs the missing role to him, he unconsciously identifies with the excluded person and begins to perform his functions. If the displaced family member is remembered and given his due, then even if he has died long ago, he is still present in the system and there is no need to transfer his functions to someone else. The task of a person who is identified is to see the real situation, to understand with whom identification takes place, to lovingly include him in the system, then disidentification occurs, imposed functions, emotions, thoughts, life scenarios go to its owner and there is no longer a need to play someone else's role.

Law of Hierarchy

Relationships arise when one side gives something to the other. The one who gives feels a certain lightness, superiority and the right to demand. The recipient, on the other hand, has a feeling of guilt, internal tension, a desire to give something in return, and this internal feeling will torment the person until he restores the balance. So the system, through a sense of guilt and innocence, directs people to maintain balance, tries to balance the exchange within itself between equals in status - for example, between a husband and wife.

When the balance is restored, the relationship may end, because. the tension goes away, the participants have a feeling of lightness. Therefore, in order to continue the relationship, if something good is received, you can return a little more so that the tension is constantly maintained, and the volume of exchange between people also grows, which leads to mutual enrichment, filling the participants and increasing the good. If a person has done something bad, then in order to continue the relationship and improve their quality, you need to return a little less bad, that is. the volume of exchange in the bad will be less and less each time.

For those who have been treated unfairly, there is a trap and a great temptation to become an even greater aggressor, to turn into a cruel destroyer. The victim of a bad deed often inside feels his superiority over the offender, arrogance, there is a feeling of the right to demand, punish. Various thoughts can slip through, such as: “I am good, you are bad”, “I am much better, cleaner and higher than you”, “I am kind and tolerant, and you are evil, mean and unbalanced”, “I suffer and go to heaven and you, sinner, go to hell.” The victim sometimes relishes such thoughts, despises and swells in his arrogance, not noticing how his heart closes, he becomes callous, winds himself up (an astral-mental loop - when thoughts and emotions heat up and strengthen each other), is filled with poison and gradually turns into the one whom recently cursed and with a clear conscience, under the pressure of increasing internal tension, commits even greater evil. The mind, with a closed heart, can come up with any justifications for cruelty, and they will look quite adequate (“it is his own fault”, “tit for tat”, “I eradicate injustice”, “I am only for protection purposes”), at least for the one who imagined himself.

In the event of an imbalance, when one gives more than the other, the destruction of the relationship is likely, because. the first begins to feel exhausted and superior, and the second is pushed out of the exchange under the pressure of guilt and an oppressive feeling of being inferior to the other. Sometimes the giver goes to great lengths to prevent the taker from repaying, so he wants to maintain a sense of superiority.

It is very difficult for the taker to sincerely admit that he receives more, that he is, as it were, lower. it is a relationship of equals and the transition to another status is a very serious blow to self-esteem. Refusal to another in equality inside is perceived as aggression and the taker experiences in this case:

• A deep sense of guilt and a strong desire to get out of the relationship, it just pushes
• aggression towards someone who tries to put himself above
• impulses to restore balance in good or bad. If the exchange cannot be balanced in a good way, i.e. there is no way to thank proportionately, then the option remains in the bad (in fact, in the size of the difference in the exchange of good and the pressure that it exerts). These may be attempts to humiliate the giver, the desire for revenge, dirty tricks and other negative manifestations.

When there is an unequal exchange, the subconscious of the taker finds various ways to protect the psyche and reduce pressure on the consciousness, for example, through the devaluation of what is obtained. Periodically, the pressure transforms into outbursts of anger and aggression against the one who gives more, which from the outside seem completely inadequate and undeserved. When there is no strength to endure and suppress, an explosion occurs, and the taker leaves the relationship. Therefore, in a relationship of equals, it is necessary to keep in mind the size of how much the other is able to return and not cross this border.

If the balance is not restored, then the feeling of duty or the right to demand, to take revenge is transferred to the later members of the system.

Example "Partnership"

The man's ancestor treated his partner unfairly, deceived him. A man is engaged in business, opens companies, enters into partnerships, which end up being “thrown” in some way.

There is another type of relationship - one in which inequality is initially present and some give much more, while others take, for example, between parents and children or between a teacher and a student. In this case, the receiving party cannot return its debt to the one who gives, but can only pass on what was received, for example, to its students or children.

How often do we hear terms that are not entirely clear. For example, "Hellinger arrangements" - what is it? Let's start with the fact that the author of this method, Bert Hellinger, is a well-known German psychologist, philosopher, teacher and practitioner. His works are relatively young and are aimed at solving human problems.

What did Hellinger study?

The scientist formulated some laws and patterns that lead to undesirable events, conflicts between spouses or colleagues. Hellinger worked for a long time on such questions: “How does the adoption of feelings occur? How does conscience (personal or family) influence the way of life of a person? Is there a system that governs relationships? In fact, these are just a few of the topics in a whole list of Burt's teachings.

Today, his arrangements are becoming more and more in demand. With this method, a large number of people have been able to find the origins of their troubles and eradicate them. Many practicing psychotherapists are increasingly using Hellinger constellations in their work with groups, couples, or individuals with individuals.

"Space" is the place of the individual in space. The method itself resembles a game of chess. That is, each participant is assigned a specific role that reflects his subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This can be not only a family situation, but also problems in the team, failures in business.

Arrangement method according to Bert Hellinger. Session start

So, a man comes to a psychotherapist with an urgent problem. To begin with, the specialist conducts a short conversation with him, during which it is decided whether he needs an arrangement or everything is much simpler. After all, you can direct a person with ordinary everyday advice - and his life will go back to normal. But when the situation is complicated, a more detailed conversation is conducted with the client.

To begin with, the problem itself is highlighted. For example, in this case, a man drinks, his wife “saws” him daily and believes that all family problems are associated with alcoholism. The man, on the other hand, does not think so. After all, before his marriage, he did not drink so much alcohol.

The therapist asks the client to talk about their lifestyle. Hellinger constellations require a systematic consideration of the problem. That is, it is important to understand what each of the spouses is doing all day, what kind of relationship they have in general, which is why conflicts occur. Finally, individuals are themselves in family life or play someone else's role.

The specialist separately considers the parents of the husband and his wife. How did they behave with each other in the family? If it turns out that on the part of the man, the father and mother lived in perfect harmony and there were no problems with alcoholism, then the wife's relatives are given the most attention.

Having previously sorted out the first conversation, the specialist recommends that the man come to the next appointment with his wife. After all, the root of evil is most likely in her, and it is impossible to get rid of it without her participation.

After all, she did not have a family life, and she always asked her daughter the installation: “Look, all men are the same. Your father is just like everyone else. Drinks, brings home a penny. With imposed thoughts, the daughter grows up and involuntarily notices only negative traits in the surrounding men.

Nevertheless, the girl begins to meet with a nice guy. Soon our heroine marries him, but after a while it seems to her that her husband is not “her person” at all. Whatever he does, everything she sees is negative.

It would seem that the chosen one is not so bad, his positive features outweigh the disadvantages. But the woman continues to maintain internal aggressiveness and sends him negativity at the energy level. A man catches this signal, realizes that his partner despises him, and gradually begins to seek solace in alcohol. This helps him forget for a while, but the problem remains.

The following actions

The Hellinger constellation method involves playing roles. The psychotherapist offers a married couple to lose a certain situation. For example, he asks a woman to describe how she behaves in the workplace. The patient comments on her official behavior, communication with colleagues, and it turns out that she is “white and fluffy” at work.

What changes when she crosses the threshold of the house? Why does a man irritate a woman by his appearance alone? The couple play the quarrel scene in front of a psychotherapist. The wife tells her husband her usual phrase: "I would stop drinking, and everything would work out."

From that moment on, the specialist asks the couple to stop. System-family constellations according to Hellinger require you to concentrate on an important point in time. In the case of this couple, that time has come.

The therapist says to a married couple, "Let's try to understand the source of the problem that forces one of you to drink." Further, all the reasons contributing to this are crossed out. For example, the following are excluded: big money problems, workplace conflicts for a man, health problems. What remains?

The patient frankly admits that he is oppressed by the eternal discontent of his wife, who constantly finds fault with something or, on the contrary, is silent and avoids marital intimacy. In this case, the partner suffers from a lack of female energy.

Often, due to a lack of love for a partner or out of a sense of resentment, female representatives punish the chosen one in this way. They actively sublimate their energy into caring for children or load themselves with household chores. While the spouse is trying to get some kind of positive attitude by drinking alcohol. There is a vicious circle.

In the future, Hellinger arrangements imply a deep study of the problem. In this case, the therapist will try to inspire the woman with the idea of ​​the need to eradicate the attitude that her mother unwittingly asked.

By her behavior, the wife provokes a man to drink alcohol, in fact, she makes her play the role of her alcoholic father. If, along with this, the woman still has some resentment towards her husband, then during the session it is proposed to get rid of her. "It's important to rid yourself of negativity," says Bert Hellinger. Family constellations offer many techniques for this.

In fact, the whole process is not as simple as it seems at first glance. In the history of this married couple, the specialist will have to give the characters new “roles”, and in such a way that an even exchange of energies takes place between them.

The impact of egregor on a person

After a constellation session, you may be surprised: “How did it happen that I began to play a role in life that was not my own? Why did I speak with someone else's thoughts? In fact, few people think about whether he really does what he wants, and whether he lives the way he wants it.

In most cases, it turns out that our daily thoughts, feelings and actions are borrowed from the people around us: our own family, team and society as a whole. In other words, a certain energy-information space (egregor) has its direct impact on the personality.

Each society (collective) is subject to a certain system of values. The influence of egregor can be both positive and negative. Everyone develops their own value system. For example, a church egregore seeks to influence people through sermons.

And any terrorist organization creates its own egregor, manipulating the consciousness of the participants with a certain theory. Sometimes stronger personalities can create their own egregors and influence others. Such an individual should be the most energy-intensive, since his task is to lead and influence, that is, to manage many energy flows. Egregores are described in detail in one of Bert's works entitled "Hellinger Constellations". The book tells that often the root of the problem can be found in life values ​​that are passed down through the family.

life stories

Family gender is a system that has its own specific tasks. And family members (mother, father, son, daughter) are elements that must fulfill their functions. What happens if someone gets kicked out of the system? For example, the son did not want to become a military man in spite of the family dynasty. And my father really wanted it.

In this case, the function of the son may be redistributed among other members of the family, or it may be overplayed: the daughter marries an officer. The father is extremely happy, tries to establish strong contact with his son-in-law and shares plans for the future to continue the military tradition.

The method of the German psychotherapist deeply affects the problem of the older and younger generations. Can the Hellinger arrangement help everyone? Reviews about this are different. However, most agree that ancestral egregors can have a negative impact on descendants.

For example, a young woman is deeply unhappy in her marriage. It would seem that all methods of resuscitation of relations are ineffective, rudeness and violence reign in the family. There is only one way out - divorce. But the older generation of this woman unanimously repeats: “There were no divorced people in our family. We do not accept this and it is considered a disgrace.”

That is, the generic egregor of this woman dictates her principles to her and requires submission. Only a complete rethinking and rejection of the role of a “victim” will help such a person make an important decision and start a new life.

hereditary aggression

Hellinger's systemic constellations help many couples and individuals to deeply understand the origins of evil. Here is a simple example of a problem with which men often turn to psychotherapists.

So, a conditional young man came to see a psychologist. He could not understand his behavior towards women. After numerous divorces, he faced the fact - the chosen ones leave because of his unmotivated aggression.

In all other areas of life, the man seemed positive. During a conversation with a specialist, it turned out that the man had once “unconsciously” tuned in to a revenge program. How did it come about?

As a rule, in such a situation it turns out that the patient grew up in a family where the father was constantly humiliated and depressed by his wife. The boy could not resist his mother in order to protect his father. Thus, as he grew older, the young man worked out his own plan (revenge program).

This led to the fact that, being in a relationship with the girls, he periodically felt a fierce hatred for them. As soon as the right opportunity came, he took out his anger on them with his fists. Bert Hellinger's arrangement should show the man that these feelings do not belong to him. They are inspired and fixed in the mind from a distant childhood. But the client has a different situation, and the girls have a different character than his mother.

And most importantly, he can become happy only when he realizes this and begins to change. This is a gradual process. Much depends on the natural temperament of the individual. One needs 2 sessions, while the other will need several. The method of arrangement according to Bert Hellinger is unique in that knowing family systems (orders), a person can not only avoid failures in life, but also protect future generations from them.

How does the group method work?

Let's talk about group sessions. The phenomenon of these activities is that a group of people live the roles of actors in the client's problem. Situations can be different: a person cannot find a mate, is constantly ill or has financial difficulties, although there are no good reasons for this.

The Hellinger constellation method is difficult to explain in detail, but it happens according to this scenario: the corresponding roles are distributed among the participants. And they begin to feel similar emotions of those who asked for help. The phenomenon has received the term "substitutive perception".

That is, there is a transfer of internal images from the client to all participants and to the space in which the arrangement takes place. People selected for specific roles are called "deputies". During the session, they aloud assess their condition, trying to restore the problematic situation.

Systemic constellations according to Hellinger help the main person to unravel the tangle of their conflict situations, build the correct hierarchy and restore energy balance. The work is built by moving "deputies" in the field of arrangement due to various rituals.

The session can be considered successful if all participants do not feel discomfort. And - most importantly - there should be physical and psychological relief for the client. The method of placement according to Bert Hellinger makes you fully activate different levels of perception: emotional, mental, auditory, tactile.

What does this method give?

As a result, the individual receives a new look at his problem, acquiring a different model of behavior. Of course, the best way to evaluate the methodology is to participate in a group session yourself. It is real experience that will help you find out how it works in practice.

Nowadays, many have already heard about such a method as Hellinger constellations. There are also negative reviews about it. But despite this, the popularity of this method is growing. After all, the range of sessions is quite expanded - this is psychotherapy, medicine, pedagogy, and even esotericism.

All information obtained during the sessions is confidential. In order to take part in group work, there must be motivation and a conscious desire. To date, it is not difficult to find a Hellinger constellation group. In Moscow, the number of fans of this method is constantly growing, as it is recognized as professional.

Arrangement using tarot cards

Finally, we come to the part that leaves an esoteric imprint on the method of the German psychotherapist. The fact is that not every person can come to a group of people and openly talk about their problem. In this case, a person can participate in a group session, but at his request, a hidden arrangement takes place. That is, the client himself doses the openness of information. A great way out of this situation is the arrangement of Bert Hellinger using Tarot cards.

The deck in this case serves as a tool for diagnosing the ongoing process. The client is asked the question: “What is the essence of your problem?” A person chooses, without looking, a card, and describes what he saw on it. "Deputies" are also selected, following the chosen arcana.

According to their problem, the client, with the help of the facilitator's prompts, shows each participant where to stand and what to do. The next stage is the emotional experience of the situation. "Deputies" exchange impressions: "I just thought that ...", "I got the feeling that ..."

At this point, the client is also included in the process. He listens to the opinions of all participants and takes the place of the one who hurt his emotions the most. And, already based on a new role, he utters the words that he considers important.

The arrangement ends with a survey of each participant. Despite the fact that the client's problem is being played, the "deputies" are also under the close attention of the psychotherapist. It is important for him to know how this or that person felt in someone else's role, what he experienced and what conclusions he made.

Also, a specialist can evaluate the diagnostics on the maps - was it possible to fully provide assistance to the client or did the system not fully reveal the situation? After all, the customer is not immediately able to objectively evaluate the session. For this he will need time.

Individual placement

Is it possible to conduct such a session yourself? Not excluded. After all, not everyone has the opportunity or desire to work in a group. In this case, the arrangement according to Hellinger independently is possible.

True, for this one should get acquainted closely with the theory of the method of Bert Helling. And it is important to understand the interpretation of Tarot cards at a professional level. So, the problem is indicated, and the cards will play the role of "deputies". The work is divided into three stages.

First - you should choose cards: yourself and "deputies". Next, you need to lay out the rest of the cards as your intuition tells you. Then, one by one, open and collect information from each, adding it to the big picture.

The second stage depends on the question posed. If it concerns a family, then cards of ancestors should be laid out from above, descendants - from below. If necessary, you can take additional cards if in doubt. During the process, it is necessary to move "deputies" as it would be with real people. It is recommended to listen to your physical and psychological sensations.

The third stage is completion. This happens when a person feels satisfaction from a lost situation. Based on the result of the interpretation, it is up to the client to decide whether he has worked through his problem.

To an uninitiated person it may seem that it was a fortune-telling session. But this is far from true. The individual placement method using Tarot is shown only to professionals. The rest is recommended to resort to this method under the guidance of a qualified psychotherapist.

The method of systemic family constellations according to Bert Hellinger for Russia is a relatively new and untested method. In their homeland - in Germany - "family constellations" began to be used in the 1990s, and in a few years this psychotherapeutic technique literally conquered the whole world. The method of constellations is used in the treatment of a variety of problems - family conflicts, difficulties at work, problems in love relationships. And also in the treatment of various diseases, especially alcoholism and drug addiction.

Systemic family constellations according to Hellinger

Bert Hellinger was born in Germany at the most difficult time for the country - in 1925, when fascism was just beginning to gain strength. The family of the future psychotherapist was Catholic, and the matured Hellinger received a philosophical and theological university education, took the priesthood and went as a missionary to South Africa.

Closeness to God forever determined his life position and hatred of National Socialism. Once in Africa, having heard the question of one teacher-priest about what is more important - ideals or people, Bert realized that nothing could be more important than a person. He laid down his rank, and all his later life was aimed at helping people through gaining lost family ties and reuniting with his family.

Bert Hellinger's systemic constellation method is a completely unique method of short-term psychotherapy that allows you to find a solution to the client's problem through constellation - work with the family. Moreover, the role of family members and loved ones is performed by strangers - members of the therapeutic group. And sometimes - the psychotherapist himself.

The Hellinger technique is universal and lies in the fact that they allow patients to sort out almost all their problems.

Today there are several main types of constellations, but each of them involves creativity and improvisation:

• family (resolution of family conflicts);
• structural (solving problems at work, getting rid of fears, treating alcoholism and drug addiction, etc.);
• organizational (for unraveling problems in labor collectives), etc.

The essence of the method

The Hellinger constellation involves the person who applied with the problem (client), constellator (psychotherapist) and deputies (group members). The facilitator (doctor or client) intuitively distributes people "by roles", defining each one's own place in the family. But how do spreads work?

In the course of work - if the leader is a true professional, and all deputies take the process as seriously as possible - everyone begins to feel an inexplicable connection with the client. People feel emotions, experience and speak thoughts and feelings that do not really belong to them. This striking effect is called vicarious perception. And the space from where the participants in group therapy receive this information (recall, these people are random and unfamiliar with the client) is a morphic field.

Hellinger's constellation technique is based on the scientific research of Carl Gustav Jung, more precisely, his collective subconscious. But Jung understood by this the entire general subconscious of mankind, making the division only into races. The German scientist, on the other hand, works with a specific family, clan of the client, including his close relatives, those who have already died, as well as lovers and other important people.

The main source that gives rise to all today's problems of an alcoholic or drug addict, according to Hellinger, is family interweaving. That is, an unfinished process in the family, breaking ties, etc., of which the client becomes a victim.

There are three main first order (laws), the restoration of which will help a person to realize the reasons for his addiction (and) and overcome it:

1. Imbalance between the relationship "take" and "give". The point is that each member of the family should take and give an equal amount (it does not matter - money, love, help, feelings). If the balance between the spouses is disturbed, the child can take over the function of "weights". This kind of duty often remains with a person and in the future can develop into alcoholism (drug addiction).
2. Belonging to the system. Each member of the family should take his place in the family, regardless of public, personal and social status. He died, died in the war, left the family, and was never born due to an abortion - he is still in his clear place in the family tree. The loss of at least one link from the chain can lead to problems for descendants. So, if after a divorce the mother does not allow communication with the father, excludes him from the life of the child, then serious problems with alcohol are possible in the future. Restoring respect for your dad is the first step towards recovery from addiction.
3. Hierarchy in the family. The role of "parent-child" must be clearly observed in the family. If someone takes on a role that is not their own (for example, a child is forced to take care of mom or dad from an early age), in the future he cannot build his own life. And he begins to hide problems in alcohol or drugs.

In the video, Bert Hellinger talks about his method of family constellations:

How are the classes

An important point: Hellinger's systemic family constellations are a short-term psychotherapeutic method. It is conducted only once - it is assumed that during this single session the client will be able to find a solution to the problem and begin to solve it. At the same time, the addiction itself is not analyzed - it is important for the doctor to find the cause and identify the solution (for example, to make peace with the father).

Therefore, the most important thing in this therapy is the motivation of the most dependent person, his firm decision to find out the origins of his illness and cope with it.

A session can last from 30 minutes to 2 hours. In some regional clinics, psychotherapists even indicate the time up to 4 hours. The constellations themselves are of three types: group, in pairs (usually with a spouse) and individual (sometimes the last two are combined).

Group sessions

Conducted in a group of 5 to 25 people. First, the client as briefly as possible, without unnecessary emotions and details, voices the problem. The facilitator (or the client himself) selects the participants in the role of family members and loved ones. The individual person acts as the client himself and his problem, in this case addiction to alcohol or drugs.

Then the client arranges them in the space of the room as he feels and sees fit. And then he sits down and silently follows the development of the situation - how these people communicate, talk about their thoughts, emotions, fears, and look for a solution to the problem.

Individual sessions

Can be carried out in one or two stages. First, the client talks in great detail about addiction, family relationships, and the background of events. Then the session itself begins (sometimes the doctor asks to come to the constellation for the second time). During it, the psychotherapist and the client himself act as deputies, changing different roles in one session.

The arrangement can take 2-3 hours, since it is always difficult for a person to get used to several different roles. In addition, an individual session is always much more expensive than a group session.

The effectiveness of all types is exactly the same, the psychotherapist himself chooses one or another arrangement. So, if the client is not ready to share intimate problems with strangers and refuses to work in a group, the doctor suggests working alone.

On the other hand, an individual constellation session requires preparation, it is usually recommended if a person has already worked in constellation (at least as a substitute) and knows the specifics. Therefore, for beginners, group sessions are usually recommended.

Possible danger of the method

Although Bert Hellenger resigned from the priesthood, his theological views largely determined the specifics of the family constellation method. Immersion in another person, role reversal, intuitive search for a solution to someone else's problem - this is all work, including work with subtle matter, with the soul.

Therefore, opponents of the method of systemic family constellations warn that harm to substitutes can be both real and metaphysical.

1. Excessive immersion in the role. Trying on the image of a stranger (especially if he has already died), the deputy leaves his personality “beyond the threshold”. Such a reincarnation threatens with a loss of vitality, mental and mental disorders. For example, memory problems.
2. The danger is to delve too deeply into the problem. This risk is already very real. The constellator is so deeply imbued with the client's problem that he can unconsciously drag it into his own life and become an addict himself.
3. Destruction of the energy-information field. Experts in energy-informational medicine assure that during the session, the substitute participant is an open defenseless system. In such a state, it is very easy to take on severe genetic and karmic illnesses - both for the client and other participants.

On the video about the benefits and harms of the Hellinger constellation method: