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How to spend the last journey of a loved one, without harming yourself and your loved ones? Usually this sad event takes us by surprise, and we get lost, listening to everyone in a row and following their advice. But, as it turns out, not everything is so simple. Sometimes people use this sad event to harm you. Therefore, remember how to correctly lead a person to the last journey.

At the time of death, a person experiences a painful feeling of fear when the soul leaves the body. When leaving the body, the soul meets the Guardian Angel, given to it during Holy Baptism, and demons. Relatives and friends of the dying person should try to alleviate his mental suffering by prayer, but in no case should they shout loudly or sob.

At the moment of separation of the soul from the body, it is supposed to read the Canon of prayer to the Mother of God. When reading the Canon, a dying Christian holds a lit candle or a holy cross in his hand. If he does not have the strength to make the sign of the cross, someone close to him does this by leaning towards the dying man and clearly saying: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me. In Your hands, Lord Jesus, I commit my spirit, Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.

You can sprinkle a dying man with holy water with the words: “Grace of the Holy Spirit, who sanctified this water, save your soul from all evil.”

According to church custom, the dying person asks those present for forgiveness and forgives them himself.

Not often, but still it happens that a person prepares his coffin in advance. It is usually stored in the attic. In this case, pay attention to the following: the coffin is empty, and since it is made to the standards of a person, he begins to “pull” him into himself. And a person, as a rule, passes away faster. Previously, to prevent this from happening, sawdust, shavings, and grain were poured into an empty coffin. After the death of a person, sawdust, shavings and grain were also buried in a pit. After all, if you feed a bird with such grain, it will get sick.

When a person has died and a measure is taken from him to make a coffin, in no case should this measure be placed on the bed. It is best to take it out of the house, and put it in a coffin during the funeral.

Be sure to remove all silver items from the deceased: after all, this is the metal that is used to fight the unclean. Therefore, the latter can "disturb" the body of the deceased.

The body of the deceased is washed immediately after death. The washing takes place as a sign of the spiritual purity and purity of the life of the deceased, and also so that he appears clean before the face of God after the resurrection. Wudu must cover all parts of the body.

You need to wash the body with warm, not hot water, so as not to steam it. When they wash the body, they read: “Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us” or “Lord, have mercy.”

As a rule, only elderly women prepare the deceased for their last journey.

In order to make it more convenient to wash the deceased, an oilcloth is laid on the floor or bench and covered with a sheet. The body of the deceased person is placed on top. They take one basin with clean water, and the other with soapy water. With a sponge dipped in soapy water, the whole body is washed, starting with the face and ending with the legs, then washed with clean water and dried with a towel. Lastly, they wash the head and comb the dead.

It is desirable that ablution takes place during daylight hours - from sunrise to sunset. Water after ablution must be handled with great care. It is necessary to dig a hole far from the yard, garden and living quarters, where people do not go, and pour everything, to the last drop, into it and cover it with earth.

The fact is that very strong damage is done on the water in which the deceased was washed. In particular, on this water a person can "make" cancer. Therefore, do not give this water to anyone, no matter who turns to you with such a request.

Try not to spill this water around the apartment so that those living in it do not get sick.

Pregnant women should not wash the deceased in order to avoid the illness of the unborn child, as well as women who are menstruating.

After washing, the deceased is dressed in new light clean clothes. Be sure to put a cross on the deceased, if he did not have one.

The bed on which a person died should not be thrown away, as many do. Just take her to the chicken coop, let her lie there for three nights, so that, as the legend says, the rooster will sing her three times.

Relatives and friends are not allowed to make a coffin.

The shavings formed during the manufacture of the coffin are best buried in the ground or, in extreme cases, thrown into the water, but just do not burn them.

When the deceased is placed in a coffin, it is necessary to sprinkle him and the coffin outside and inside with holy water, you can sprinkle it with incense.

A whisk is placed on the forehead of the deceased. It is given in the church at the funeral.

A pillow, which is usually made of cotton wool, is placed under the feet and head of the deceased. The body is covered with a sheet.

The coffin is placed in the middle of the room in front of the icons, turning the face of the deceased with his head towards the icons.

Seeing the deceased in the coffin, do not automatically touch your torso with your hands. Otherwise, in the place where you touched, various skin growths in the form of a tumor may grow.

If there is a dead person in the house, then, having met your acquaintance or relatives there, you should greet with a bow of your head, and not with your voice.

While there is a dead person in the house, you should not sweep the floor, as this will bring trouble to your family (illness or worse).

If there is a dead person in the house, do not start any laundry.

Do not put two needles crosswise on the lips of the deceased, supposedly to preserve the body from decomposition. This will not save the body of the deceased, but the needles that were on his lips will surely disappear, they are used to induce damage.

In order to prevent a heavy smell from the deceased, you can put a bunch of dry sage at his head, the people call it "cornflowers". It also serves another purpose - it drives away evil spirits.

For the same purposes, you can use willow branches, which are holy on Palm Sunday and stored behind images. These branches can be placed under the deceased.

It happens that the deceased person has already been placed in a coffin, but the bed on which he died has not yet been taken out. Friends or strangers may come up to you, ask permission to lie on the bed of the deceased so that their back and bones do not hurt. Don't allow it, don't hurt yourself.

Do not put fresh flowers in the coffin so that a heavy smell does not come from the deceased. For this purpose, use artificial or, in extreme cases, dried flowers.

A candle is lit near the coffin as a sign that the deceased has passed into the realm of light - the best afterlife.

For three days, the Psalter is read over the deceased.

The Psalter is read continuously over the coffin of a Christian as long as the deceased remains unburied.

A lamp or a candle is lit in the house, which burns as long as the deceased is in the house.

It happens that instead of a candlestick they use glasses with wheat. This wheat is often spoiled, it also cannot be fed to poultry or livestock.

The hands and feet of the deceased are tied. Hands are folded so that the right one is on top. An icon or cross is placed in the left hand of the deceased; for men - the image of the savior, for women - the image of the Mother of God. And you can do this: in the left hand - a cross, and on the chest of the deceased - a Holy image.

Make sure that someone else's things are not placed under the deceased. If you notice this, then you need to pull them out of the coffin and burn them somewhere far away.

Sometimes, out of ignorance, some compassionate mothers put photographs of their children in the coffin of their grandparents. After that, the child begins to get sick, and if help is not provided in time, death may occur.

It happens that there is a dead person in the house, but there are no suitable clothes for him, and then one of the family members gives his things. The deceased is buried, and the one who gave away his things begins to get sick.

The coffin is taken out of the house, turning the face of the deceased towards the exit. When the body is taken out, the mourners sing a song in honor of the Holy Trinity: "Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us."

It happens that when a coffin with a dead person is taken out of the house, someone stands near the door and starts tying knots on rags, explaining this by tying knots so that no more coffins are taken out of this house. Although the mind of such a person is completely different. Try to take these rags away from him.

If a pregnant woman goes to a funeral, she will do harm to herself. A sick child may be born. Therefore, try to stay at home at this time, and you need to say goodbye to a person close to you in advance - before the funeral.

When a dead person is carried to a cemetery, in no case should you cross his path, as various tumors may form on your body. If this happened, then you should take the hand of the deceased, always the right one, and run all your fingers over the tumor and read “Our Father”. This must be done three times, after each time spitting over the left shoulder.

When a dead person is carried down the street in a coffin, try not to look out the window of your apartment. This way you will save yourself from troubles and will not get sick.

In the temple, the coffin with the body of the deceased is placed in the middle of the church facing the altar, and candles are lit on the four sides of the coffin.

Relatives and friends of the deceased go around the coffin with the body, with a bow ask for forgiveness for involuntary insults, kiss the deceased for the last time (a halo on his forehead or an icon on his chest). After that, the body is completely covered with a sheet and the priest crosswise sprinkles it with earth.

When the body with the coffin is taken out of the temple, the face of the deceased is turned towards the exit.

It happens that the church is far from the house of the deceased, then an absentee funeral is performed for him. After the funeral, relatives are given a whisk, a permissive prayer and earth from the funeral table.

At home, relatives put a permissive prayer in the right hand of the deceased, a paper whisk on his forehead, and after saying goodbye to him, in the cemetery, his body, covered with a sheet from head to toe, as in a church, is sprinkled crosswise with earth (from head to toe, from the right shoulder to the left - to get the correct shape of the cross).

The deceased is buried facing east. The cross on the grave is placed at the feet of the buried so that the crucifix is turned to the face of the deceased.

According to Christian custom, when a person is buried, his body must be buried or “sealed”. This is what the priests do.

The ties that bind the hands and feet of the deceased must be untied before lowering the coffin into the grave and placed in the coffin with the deceased. Otherwise, they are usually used to induce damage.

Saying goodbye to the deceased, try not to step on the towel, which is placed in the cemetery near the coffin, so as not to incur damage to yourself.

If you are afraid of the dead, hold on to his legs.

Sometimes they can throw earth from the grave into your bosom or by the collar, proving that this way you can avoid the fear of the dead. Do not believe it - they do it to induce damage.

When the coffin with the body of the deceased is lowered into the grave on towels, these towels must be left in the grave, and not used for various household needs or given to anyone.

When lowering the coffin with the body into the grave, all those who see off the deceased on their last journey throw a clod of earth into it.

After the ritual of committing the body to the earth, this earth must be taken to the grave and poured out crosswise. And if you are too lazy, do not go to the cemetery and take the land for this ritual from your farmstead, then you will do yourself very badly.

Burying a dead person with music is not Christian; they should be buried with a priest.

It happens that a person was buried, but the body was not buried. It is imperative to go to the grave and take a handful of earth from there, with which then go to church.

It is advisable, in order to avoid any trouble, to sprinkle the house or apartment where the deceased lived with consecrated water. This must be done immediately after the funeral. It is also necessary to sprinkle such water on people who participated in the funeral procession.

The funeral is over, and according to the old Christian custom, water and some food are placed in a glass on the table to treat the soul of the deceased. Make sure that small children or adults inadvertently do not drink from this glass or eat anything. After such a treat, both adults and children begin to get sick.

During the commemoration, the deceased, according to tradition, is poured a glass of vodka. Do not drink it if someone advises you. It will be better if you pour vodka on the grave.

Returning from the funeral, it is imperative to dust off your shoes before entering the house, and also hold your hands over the fire of a lit candle. This is done in order not to bring damage to the home.

There is also such a type of damage: a dead person lies in a coffin, wires are tied to his arms and legs, which are lowered into a bucket of water under the coffin. So, supposedly, the dead man is grounded. Actually it is not. This water is later used to induce damage.

Here is another type of damage in which there are incompatible things - death and flowers.

One person gives another a bouquet of flowers. Only these flowers do not bring joy, but grief, since the bouquet, before being presented, lay on the grave all night.

If a close or dear person has died of one of you and you often cry for him, then I advise you to have thistle grass in your house.

In order to yearn less for the deceased, you need to take the headdress (shawl or hat) that the deceased wore, light it in front of the front door and go around all the rooms with him in turn, reading aloud "Our Father". After that, take out the remnants of the burnt headdress from the apartment, burn it to the end and bury the ashes in the ground.

It also happens like this: you came to the grave of a loved one to pluck grass, paint a fence, or plant something. Start digging and dig up things that shouldn't be there. Someone outside buried them there. In this case, take everything that you have found out of the cemetery and burn it, trying not to fall under the smoke, otherwise you may get sick yourself.

Some believe that after death the forgiveness of sins is impossible, and if a sinful person has died, nothing can be done to help him. However, the Lord himself said: “And every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven people ... neither in this age, nor in the future.” It means that in the future life only blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is not forgiven. Consequently, our prayers can have mercy on those who have died in bodies, but our loved ones who are alive in soul, who did not blaspheme the Holy Spirit during their earthly life.

A memorial service and home prayer for the good deeds of the deceased, done in his memory (almsgiving and donations to the church), are all useful for the dead. But commemoration at the Divine Liturgy is especially useful for them.

If you meet a funeral procession on the way, then you should stop, take off your hat and cross yourself.

When a dead person is carried to a cemetery, do not throw fresh flowers on the road after him - by doing this you damage not only yourself, but also many people who step on these flowers.

After the funeral, do not go to any of your friends or relatives to visit.

If they take the earth to “print” the dead, in no case allow this earth to be taken from under your feet.

When someone dies, try to have only women present.

If the patient is dying hard, then for an easier death, remove a pillow of feathers from under his head. In the villages, the dying person is laid on straw.

Make sure that the dead person's eyes are tightly closed.

Do not leave a deceased person alone in the house; as a rule, elderly women should sit next to him.

When there is a dead person in the house, in the neighboring houses one should not drink water in the morning, which was in buckets or pots. It must be poured out, and freshly poured.

When a coffin is made, a cross is made on its lid with an axe.

In the place where the deceased lay in the house, it is necessary to put an ax so that no more people die for a long time in this house.

Until 40 days, do not distribute the things of the deceased to relatives, friends or acquaintances.

In no case do not put your pectoral cross on the deceased.

Before burial, do not forget to remove the wedding ring from the deceased. By this, the widow (widower) will save herself from illnesses.

During the death of your relatives or friends, you must close the mirrors, do not look into them after death for 40 days.

It is impossible for tears to fall on the dead. This is a heavy burden for the deceased.

After the funeral, do not allow, under any pretext, either relatives, or acquaintances, or relatives to lie down on your bed.

When a dead person is taken out of the house, make sure that none of those who see him off on his last journey does not go out with his back.

After taking the deceased out of the house, the old broom should also be taken out of the house.

Before the last farewell to the dead in the cemetery, when they raise the lid of the coffin, in no case put your head under it.

The coffin with the dead, as a rule, is placed in the middle of the room in front of the home icons, facing the exit.

As soon as a person has died, relatives and friends should order a magpie in the church, that is, a daily commemoration during the Divine Liturgy.

In no case do not listen to those people who advise you to wipe your body with water in which the deceased was washed to get rid of pain.

If the commemoration (third, ninth, fortieth days, anniversary) falls on the time of Great Lent, then in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of fasting, the relatives of the deceased do not invite anyone to the commemoration.

When memorial days fall on weekdays of other weeks of Great Lent, they are transferred to the next (ahead) Saturday or Sunday.

If the commemoration falls on Bright Week (the first week after Easter), then in these first eight days after Easter they do not read prayers for the dead, do not perform requiems for them.

The Orthodox Church allows to commemorate the dead from Tuesday of St. Thomas' week (the second week after Easter).

The dead are commemorated with the food that is laid on the day of the commemoration: on Wednesday, Friday, on the days of long fasts - fasting, on a meat-eater - fast food.

Signs at a funeral have existed for centuries. For example, if a spider falls on a seriously ill person during sleep, it is believed that he will die soon. They say that negligence in beliefs is fraught with a bad end, up to inflicting damage on the person who did not observe them. In fact, the traditions and signs about the funeral reflect the rules that are recommended to be followed exactly and impeccably.

Of course, there are also cases when a person is simply unfamiliar with signs, and therefore, out of simple ignorance, does not observe them. But if superstition is still familiar to you, perhaps you should not violate customs and traditions. After all, death carries a negative energy that does not forgive mistakes, because a lot of things cannot be done. There are a lot of funeral omens and superstitions. So what are they anyway? How to behave?

Superstition before burial

Nowadays, there are a huge variety of different ritual offices. For money, employees of such organizations do all organizational issues. But, as a rule, relatives take on most of the cases related to the burial of the deceased. In this case, there are many things to consider.

According to signs, during the funeral, one should not allow the deceased to be alone both in the house and in the room. Every second, minute, all these days, someone next to him should be present with him. This superstition has many reasons. Those items that are directly related to the deceased person have simply tremendous magical power. There are cases when such things were stolen by those who used these items at the time of performing any magical rituals.

Church

The Church is of the opinion that the soul of the deceased needs prayer support, which means that it is important to read prayers and psalms near the coffin. The Orthodox should especially adhere to this.

Following the signs about the funeral, leaving the deceased alone is simply disrespectful. There is another point why you should not leave the dead alone. The dead can sometimes open their eyes, and the one on whom the dead look falls will soon leave this world himself.

Folk omens

A folk sign says that on the day of death it is important to close the mirrors with an impenetrable cloth so that the soul does not get lost and does not penetrate into the mirror world. Relatives are forbidden to open mirrors for 40 days, because until the soul finds rest, she often visits her favorite places.

It is very important to put the furniture where the coffin stood upside down immediately after taking the deceased to the burial ground. It is allowed to return to its original position only after a day. If you simply simply forget about this belief, you can provoke the appearance of the spirit.

It is worth remembering that, following the signs of the dead and funerals, it is forbidden to hide photographs in the coffin where living people are present. The water that was used when washing the deceased is poured into a deserted place, and the objects are hidden in a coffin.

If the dead limbs are warm until the very burial, there will be another death in the house. In order to avoid this, you need to appease the dead man with bread and salt.

You can’t sweep at the moment when the deceased is at home, because in this way you can send the whole family that lives in this room to the next world. As soon as the deceased is taken to the cemetery for burial, it is important to immediately sweep and do a general cleaning in the house, thereby expelling death. Items used for this cleaning should be discarded.

It must also be remembered that the dead man should definitely put a handkerchief in the coffin. At the moment of judgment, he will wipe the sweat with it. You also need to leave his personal belongings with the dead: glasses, cane. In general, what was vital to him.

Pets should not be allowed into the room in which the dead person is located, because they can easily disturb the peace of the spirit. It is considered a very bad omen if a cat jumps into the coffin. At the threshold of the house in which the dead lies, according to beliefs, spruce branches should be placed so that those who come to say goodbye do not carry death on their shoes. Sleeping in the same room with the dead is also impossible. This is a bad omen at a funeral. But if this still happened, it is worth eating noodles immediately after waking up.

Only widows are allowed to wash the dead. You can carry out the procedure as the body has completely cooled down. But after completion, it is allowed to perform a ceremony, after which the limbs of the deceased do not freeze: a fire is lit from the various remains of the coffin, over which the widows must warm their hands.

The deceased must be covered with a special blanket, which is called a "cover".

Do not invite death foolishly!

Eyewitnesses of the funeral ceremony are prohibited from watching the funeral process through the window. Violating the signs associated with the funeral, you can call for a bad end, up to another death. In fact, few people are familiar with this popular superstition. It is believed that after death the soul of the dead is near his body. She is very uncomfortable from staring through the window, because, angry, she can pick up a person.

The older generation believes that one has only to look at the dead person or at the funeral through the window, one can become mortally ill. Most of all, this belief concerns babies, because their energy protection is much weaker than that of adults, therefore an evil spirit can easily defeat a child.

If you look at the dead in this way by chance, you need to look away and cross yourself three times, after which you wish the deceased the Kingdom of Heaven and pray. Of course, many have a desire to watch the funeral process. To do this, you just need to get out of your house and from the street (!) Look.

If you bothered to meet the funeral cortege, it means that cardinal changes will take place in your life.

The deceased is carried to the cemetery

Bad omens at a funeral claim that a delayed funeral is a very bad sign. Everything should have its time!

It is considered a very bad omen if you see a funeral cortege on the street and deliberately cross the road in front of it. A person who violates this belief can become very seriously ill, even fatal. Also, the old people believe that a dead person who has crossed the road can go to the cemetery for the same reason as the dead man himself.

If the deceased is immersed in a grave dug very deeply, trouble should be expected. The signs associated with the funeral say that this is fraught with the death of a family member of the deceased. The same outcome can be if you forget the coffin lid in the house. We must try to prevent this.

You can not carry the coffin to the relatives of the deceased. Anyone should do this, but not relatives, because the deceased will take them to his world. Those who carry the coffin must tie a new towel around their wrists.

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Rules of conduct at a funeral

Probably, everyone knows such a funeral tradition: during the burial, everyone present must throw a small handful of earth on the coffin. What is it for? Everything is very simple. Observing this belief, the way to the dead person in this world is closed, and he will not be able to "walk" at night.

Close the lid of the coffin during the funeral procession only in the cemetery. It is very important to observe this sign so that the deceased does not take the soul of those who live in this house and nail the coffin. During the removal of the coffin from the premises, no one is allowed to look out the window, so as not to lure death back into the house.

You cannot turn back during the procession. It is forbidden to walk in front of the coffin: this is also a kind of inviting death.

If during the digging of the grave, remains or something else left from the old burial site come across, this portends the deceased a calm afterlife. Do not forget that before lowering the coffin into the grave, you need to throw some coins into it. This is done to buy a place in another world.

Weather at the time of burial

If it rains during the funeral, this is a very good omen. This weather phenomenon means that the soul of the deceased will quickly find its peace.

More positive signs during the funeral procession are not even worth looking for. On the contrary: there are a lot of different prohibitions associated with this ceremony, which you should not violate! For example, pregnant women should not follow a hearse. In general, the presence of pregnant women at the burial site is unsafe, because there is a high probability of a threat of pregnancy loss.

You need to go to the farewell ceremony in black clothes. It is believed that in dark shades you can hide from death.

Bad omens at a funeral. The coffin has fallen

This sign is considered the most terrible and dangerous. It is believed that if a coffin fell at a funeral, it is worth waiting for another death that will come to the house within 3 months. There is only one way to avoid terrible consequences.

If at the time of the funeral procession the coffin fell, the next day the relatives of the deceased must bake pancakes. It is important to do it all together, even a purely symbolic presence is allowed. Then the family visits the cemetery, looks for 3 graves with their name and reads the prayer "Our Father".

At the end of the process, baked pancakes are distributed near the church, not forgetting to give alms before this.

An important note: during the entire ceremony, absolute silence must be observed.

Beliefs after burial

Many mistakes are made at wakes. Lots of things to keep in mind in this case! Signs say that, remembering a loved one, you need to put his photo, and next to it - place a glass of liquid and a small piece of bread. If a living person takes this food, then he will go after the deceased. The food of a dead person should not be given to pets.

After returning from the funeral procession, you should immediately warm your hands with fire or simply wash them thoroughly in hot water. Thus, the living will protect themselves from imminent death. Some people warm their hands on a stove or a lit candle for this purpose.

You can't cry for the dead. Signs during the funeral say that the deceased can choke in tears. In life, all people have a place that he loves to visit. So after death it is necessary to leave water on it. According to custom, it should stand exactly 40 days.

About icons after burial

The image that was in front of the deceased before his burial must be washed off with clean water. To do this, they go to the reservoir and release it so that it can swim. It is strictly forbidden to throw away the icon, as well as to store it. Only water will help get rid of it without bad consequences. If this is not possible, you can take the icon to the church, and they will decide what to do with it.

Accessories that are not useful are placed in a coffin or simply left in the cemetery. If it didn’t work out on time, remember: it’s worth taking it at any time, the main thing is not to delay it too much. Of course, putting all his favorite things in the coffin with the deceased is simply unrealistic. They attract the soul of the dead, which, in turn, frightens the living. Therefore, observing funeral signs, it is worth distributing the dead man's favorite belongings to the poor. It is worth giving them the personal belongings of the deceased (mug, spoon, and so on).

The bed on which the person died should be thrown out of the house immediately. The same should be done with bed linen. Some people simply burn these items away from home.

Activities after the funeral are prohibited

Customs say that after the funeral procession, it is forbidden to visit living people. Thus, death can be brought into the house. Close people of the deceased need to observe annual mourning. At this time, you can not play a wedding: it is considered a very bad omen. For example, Tsar Nicholas II married just a few days after the death of his father. What happened next, or rather, the history of this family, everyone knows. It is also not recommended to celebrate a birthday after a funeral.

Signs after the funeral say:

the very first pancake with jelly at the commemoration should be given to the dead for a treat;
it is forbidden to clink glasses during the procession, because in this way the trouble moves;
there is only one candle on the table during the commemoration;
you can’t rejoice at the commemoration, sing songs - you invite trouble. You need to behave calmly.

In fact, the signs at the funeral of a loved one are not as terrible as they are painted. If you violated them unintentionally, you should apologize for your negligence and ask for help from God or from the deceased himself.

To believe in the signs associated with the funeral, or not - it's up to you. The main thing is to remember: each of us will go to meet God at the time that has already been assigned to us, but not before it.

The death of a loved one is a relatively sudden phenomenon, because in most cases no one expects it. When this happens, many people are often resentful and lost, not expecting such a turn of events. That is why it is so important to know in advance about some principles and norms of behavior when he is in the house, so as not to aggravate the already unenviable situation of his relatives and relatives.

It is believed that a person tying knots on rags at the moment when the coffin with the deceased is taken out of the house brings damage to the family of the deceased!

How to behave in the house with the deceased

In the house, the deceased, one should not talk loudly and, moreover, laugh.

Relatives of the deceased should curtain all the mirrors, since it is believed that the mirror is an otherworldly portal in which the soul of the deceased, who is at that moment in the house, can get lost. In principle, there is a more sensible thing for this: mirrors should be closed only so that it does not distract anyone. In addition, it is not pleasant when the coffin with the deceased is reflected in the mirror.

Mourning begins immediately after and is accompanied by robes of dark or black tones. Do not wear light-coloured clothing during this time. Everyone determines for himself how long he needs to be in a state of mourning. This time has no clear boundaries.

Being in the house with the deceased, it is necessary to remove all silver jewelry and things from him. If the deceased was a believer, then he should be put on his neck.

You should not put a glass of water (or vodka) covered with a piece of bread near the portrait of the deceased. According to legend, the soul of the deceased will never come to this glass, but only demons will come.

Relatives of the deceased should wash his body only during daylight hours. The water used for washing must be poured into a specially dug hole in a place where people do not go.

While in the house, you do not need to arrange laundry. This is considered a bad omen. Also, you should not allow someone to sit on while the coffin with him is in the house.

If someone is afraid to be in the house with the deceased, he should be advised to overcome his fear by holding the legs of the deceased for a while.

Everyone who came to say goodbye to the deceased must take off their hats before entering the house.

The coffin with the deceased, as well as the lid from the coffin, cannot be carried to the relatives of the deceased. It is believed that in this way it is possible to provoke another grief in the family.

Sooner or later, each of us becomes a participant in a difficult but necessary funeral ceremony. Regardless of whether you are a close relative of the deceased or your presence is just a tribute to the rules of decency, you need to cope with emotions and behave correctly at the funeral. If you know the basic rules of funeral etiquette in advance, it will be easier for you to choose the optimal behavior model later.

Below are some mandatory rules:

Wardrobe. Of course, a funeral is not an event where smart clothes are appropriate. Give preference to dark tones. Women must be covered. Carry a few clean handkerchiefs with you.

Conversations. In all places of the funeral procession, loud or excited conversations are not allowed, and even more so - laughter is strictly forbidden. It is not correct to comment or criticize the deceased, his relatives or the nuances of organizing a funeral.

Help. If you notice that someone is on the verge of an emotional breakdown, suggest. Sometimes it is enough to provide; or vice versa - bring to the conversation and provoke tears. In some cases, you can get medical help in time. Sometimes there is a need for physical removal of the body of the deceased, the lid of the coffin, etc.

Tolerance. Relatives and close circle of the deceased may behave overly emotionally at the funeral. Sometimes breakdowns into sobs, and even screams are possible. This should not cause a negative reaction from other guests. If it is difficult for you to restrain emotions yourself, it is better for them to go out in a secluded place or wait for the completion of a public farewell ceremony

Wake. Don't show up to a memorial service without an invitation. Also, do not need to take with you to the funeral. In the memorial hall, you can’t take the place left for the deceased (as a rule, this is a place with clean cutlery, a knife and fork lying on a glass of water, on top of which lies bread). Alcohol is not allowed at funerals.

Honor the memory of the deceased. Memories, condolences, mournful speeches and appeals are expressed in a civil farewell ceremony, to or directly to close relatives.

In whatever status you are present at the funeral - do not lose your temper. Wisdom and patience to you!

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One of the most mysterious and incomprehensible events for mankind is death. About what happens to a person beyond its line, we can only speculate. Fear of the unknown is a natural reaction that forces even the most notorious atheist, albeit to a minimal extent, to adhere to certain rules of behavior in the process, before and after the funeral. The traditions that are observed during this ritual are among the most revered in the world. Not everyone knows how to behave correctly if such a grief happened in the family. We often receive requests for clarification on certain issues. We will try to answer the most popular of them from an ethical and religious point of view.

First, here are the most common funeral superstitions:

Close windows and doors in the house;

Put food, money and things in the coffin (recently mobile phones);

Put a pancake on the face of the deceased, and then eat it, believing that the sins of the deceased are destroyed by this;

To believe that a person who returned to the house after the removal of the body and before returning from the cemetery would certainly die soon;

At the commemoration, put a glass of vodka and bread "for the deceased";

Keep this "funeral glass" until the fortieth day;

Pouring vodka on the grave mound;

Before lowering the coffin, throwing metal money into the grave in order to “buy the land”;

Attach metal glasses to the monument for commemoration with vodka;

Kiss your fingers and apply them to the edge of the grave;

Say: "May the earth rest in peace";

Scatter bread crumbs over the grave;

Scatter spruce branches along the road to the cemetery;

To believe that the soul of the deceased can take the form of a bird or a bee;

To believe that if the deceased is not revered, then his soul remains on earth as a ghost;

To believe that a person who accidentally stood between the coffin and the altar during the funeral service will certainly die soon;

To believe that the burial ground, which is given at the funeral service in absentia, cannot be kept at home for more than one day;

To believe that cremation can cause illness to the children or grandchildren of the person being cremated;

Remember only light (white) alcoholic drinks: vodka, if wine, then only white;

For the sake of the soul, be sure to cook only those dishes that the deceased loved;

At the commemoration, there is only spoons (there is “sin” with forks).

The custom of not serving knives and forks to the table at the wake, apparently one of the modern superstitious customs, was born in Soviet canteens, where these cutlery were not accepted and where the wake was held. And only then, out of absence, a "theory" was born: so as not to inject the deceased. It is believed that this "tradition" appeared in the middle of the 19th century among the merchants. People, inflamed by "funeral" alcohol, moved at the table to the question of dividing up the inheritance, and rarer-piercing objects, i.e. fork-knives, led to serious injuries, so it was removed from the use of commemoration.

To believe that if the deceased has a long coffin - to the new dead.

To believe that the deceased hears until the priest says over him: "Eternal memory ...".

Distribute soap at the commemoration - so that the dead person is washed in the next world.

Distribute handkerchiefs to all those present at the wake (it is believed that wiping ourselves with a handkerchief, we remember the deceased).

Cut all the “loops” on the deceased, including the trouser belt, tie collar and lace of the pectoral cross.

To believe that if something falls from the table during the funeral dinner, then picking up the fallen is a sin.

Bury children with girdles, "so that they can collect the fruits of paradise in their bosoms."

After the funeral, do not clean the house for 40 days.

After the funeral, do not turn off the lights in the house for 40 days;

After the funeral, do not sleep on the bed of the deceased for 40 days;

Hang mirrors in the house where there is a dead person;

Can I watch TV after the funeral?

Many people adhere to this rule: as long as the deceased is in the house, it is necessary to cover surfaces that are capable of reflecting something, for example, mirrors, a TV. This superstition has nothing to do with Orthodox beliefs, but refers to paganism. It is believed that after death a person's soul can be drawn into a mirror and unable to get out of there, it will wander forever without finding rest. After the deceased is taken out of the room, the canvases can be removed, but some keep them closed for 9 or even 40 days.

Other sources claim that hanging mirrors is generally a fairly understandable custom. When someone died in the house, the coffin with his body was placed in the largest room. At the coffin of the deceased, the psalter was constantly read, and the worshipers could enter at any time and pray near the coffin. Accordingly, everything in the room was arranged so that everything around was conducive to prayer. Mirrors, book spines, figurines or dishes in a sideboard, vases and other small things distract the eye, and therefore do not contribute to the mood. So they began in the room where the psalter is read, to hide everything extraneous from the eyes with draperies. The Psalter has not been read for a long time, but mirrors are hung in all rooms even up to 40 days. A normal custom that has turned into superstition.

By the way, watching TV after the funeral of the deceased is a separate issue. It's not just the fact that you watch TV that matters, but what you watch. Watching entertainment programs and entertainment films is prohibited. Most often, an interval of 9 days is maintained. In addition, out of respect for the deceased, you should not turn it on at high volume. Watching, for example, the news is not prohibited.

Is it possible to celebrate a birthday after a funeral?

This issue is resolved only by how important the memory and repose of a deceased person is for those who celebrate. The Church does not establish the exact time frame for mourning days, but recommends paying more attention in the first days after the incident to prayers and the commemoration of the deceased.

Ethical norms also do not give contrary recommendations on this issue. Don't have a noisy party. If, nevertheless, there is a desire to somehow celebrate the holiday (especially if the birthday is a child), you can arrange it quietly and in a family way, without loud music and noisy parties. Honoring the memory of a departed loved one is one of the hallmarks of a civilized society.

Can you have sex after a funeral?

The Orthodox Church answers this question in the following way: mourning for a deceased relative is a time when all the attention of relatives should be directed to prayers.

Ethical considerations also recommend showing respect for memory and abandoning this venture. It is quite possible that a person grieving for the loss will simply not be up to such pleasures. Along with this, again, there are no clear time limits for the ban on sex, therefore, as soon as the heart comes to terms with the loss, and the feeling of grief dulls, you can distract yourself in this way. Each person sets the boundaries of what is permitted for himself.

Can you drink after a funeral?

According to church ministers, drinking alcoholic and alcoholic beverages, even if for the purpose of commemorating the deceased, is an unacceptable and even harmful thing for the soul of the commemorated.

In pre-Soviet times, it was not customary to drink at funerals. The main and most beneficial remembrance is prayer. There is no point in alcoholic commemoration. The only thing that needs to be consumed after the funeral during the commemoration is kutya. Everything else is not necessary.

As you know, alcohol is an enemy not only to spiritual health and bodily health, but also to common sense. Often, during a memorial ceremony, due to the fault of extra degrees, disputes begin, and sometimes fights between guests, which, for ethical reasons, is completely inappropriate at such an event.

Is it possible to listen to music after the funeral?

This question is often asked by people who are experiencing the loss of a loved one. Here, as with watching TV, everything depends not on the fact of listening to music, but on the nature of listening and semantic content.

Anything that can be called entertainment music during mourning is best excluded. It is allowed to listen to peaceful calm (best of all classical) music. You don't have to turn it on loud either.

It is also often practiced to listen to the favorite compositions of a deceased person. For ethical reasons, this is also a kind of tribute to memory. A mourning band often plays at funerals. These are rather echoes of the Soviet era. It is most correct from the point of view of religion to sing and listen to prayer chants.

Is it possible to have a wedding right after the funeral?

There are also cases when a loved one leaves his family forever at the moment when she is preparing to marry or marry one of her representatives. Most often, pre-wedding chores entail spending a lot of money and, for purely rational reasons, the wedding is not canceled, but at the celebration itself they mention the death of a loved one and pay tribute to his memory. There is nothing reprehensible in this, it all depends on the emotional state of the spouses.

Orthodox tradition allows weddings even before the onset of 40 days. If we touch on the topic of a secular wedding, this is a worldly event, and like all others, it can be equated with entertainment events. You can celebrate the wedding, but without any frills. Or move it at least beyond the time frame of 9 days.

Can I go on vacation after the funeral?

There is no travel ban after the funeral. On the contrary, if a person who has lost a loved one suffers greatly about this, the trip will be able to distract him from mourning thoughts and direct him in the right direction. Plus, every vacation is different.

Everything that has to do with entertainment events (going to discos, bars, entertainment concerts) should be canceled.

From the point of view of Orthodoxy, vacation is also not a form of disrespectful behavior towards the deceased. It is important not to forget to behave appropriately and remember the departed person with a prayer and a kind word.

Is it possible to make repairs after the funeral?

Signs that do not belong to Orthodoxy say that repairs in the house where the deceased lived cannot be done within 40 days. You can not make any changes to the interior. In addition, all belongings of the deceased must be thrown away after 40 days.

There are also superstitions that say that on the bed on which a person died, his blood relatives should not sleep at all.

From an ethical point of view, the repair will only refresh the state of the mourners of the loss of people. It will help to get rid of things reminiscent of a person. Although many, in memory of a departed loved one, seek to keep for themselves some of what belongs to him. According to signs, this is again not worth doing. Therefore, repair will be a good solution in all cases.

Can I wash immediately or the day after the funeral?

There is such a sign that says that as long as the deceased is in the house, until he is buried, you cannot wash, so you pour mud on him. Some follow the rule for longer. This superstition has nothing to do with Orthodox teaching. But walking dirty for 9 or even 40 days is very difficult and completely unhygienic and unaesthetic, so you should think before blindly following all the rules and signs overheard somewhere. Beliefs are beliefs, but common sense should not be neglected.

Can I get a haircut after a funeral?

The Orthodox Church does not know this superstition in its history, but people believe and actively believe that sign that you can not cut your hair after a funeral.

From an aesthetic point of view, there is no reason to ban this procedure. So if necessary or desire, you can safely go to the hairdresser and get a haircut.

In general, with regard to signs and all kinds of superstitions regarding death, they often even contradict the canons of Orthodoxy. The church considers superstitions to be sinful echoes of the pagan past.

Can I clean up after the funeral?

While the dead in the house you can not clean and take out the trash. It is believed that the rest of the family members will die. When the deceased was taken out of the house, it is necessary to thoroughly wash the floor. It is forbidden for blood relatives to do this. The Orthodox Church also denies this point and considers it superstition. On the ethical side, there is nothing reprehensible about cleaning up after a funeral.

Should the children of the deceased participate in carrying the coffin?

Some believe that the children of the deceased, as the closest, after the spouse or wife, his relatives, do not participate in the carrying of the coffin, so as not to lose their prayerful mood and concentration at such an important moment in their lives. It's a delusion. It all depends on the specific situation. When leaving, relatives take with them the earth from the grave, so as not to be afraid of the deceased. Returning home, they put the earth in a washstand and wash themselves with water from this earth. The custom of washing oneself after coming from a funeral is certainly observed today in the urban environment.

Can pregnant women visit cemeteries?

There is also a belief that pregnant women should not go to the cemetery. In fact, some women are very emotional, and a visit to the cemetery, and often the accompanying hysteria, is harmful to the child.

Distribution of clothes and belongings of the deceased after the funeral: is it possible?

Many believe that the clothes of the deceased should not be given away during the forty-first days. But this is superstition. It is better to distribute the clothes of the deceased (as alms for him), or personal items as a keepsake to loved ones immediately after his death or immediately after death. Moreover, it is in the first forty days that it is necessary to intensively do alms and distribute the things of the deceased in order to propitiate God, the Righteous Judge, who will make a preliminary judgment on the soul on the fortieth day. Friends, in memory of a friend, may have books or some souvenirs that remind of the deceased. Especially if there was a testament or the will of the newly deceased, this should be done as soon as possible. The deceased is considered newly deceased until the fortieth day. When the wife of her husband is buried, in order to remarry, she must unbutton the bottom button of the shirt of the deceased. When someone dies, a “camping” bundle is collected for him: an onion, an iron cup, millet or rice, a wooden spoon, threads with a needle. All this is given to those in need in order to be useful to the deceased in the next world.

What should be placed in the coffin of the deceased? Established superstitions and church recommendations.

One of the most common superstitions is that it is imperative to put a handkerchief in the hand of the deceased, and put the cross in his left hand: “In the next world, God will scold him, and he will wipe his tears with a handkerchief, and be baptized with his right hand.” During the reading of the psalter, a sieve is placed under the book - in order to "sift" the sins of the deceased. Some, when they read the Psalter for the deceased, put bread and water. This custom is folk, dating back to paganism, and has no basis in the canons and traditions of the Church. Therefore, one should not put water and bread when reading the Psalter for the deceased. Some put a stick or twig in the coffin of the deceased. This custom, like most beliefs around the church, comes from ignorance. In the past, in order to make a coffin according to the height of a person, the deceased was measured by "twilight", that is, the length of the "twilight" corresponded to the height of the deceased. This "twilight" was placed in the coffin with the dead. It does not have any religious symbols of "twilight", so you do not need to put any sticks in the coffin.

How should the funeral meal end?

There is a custom to end the funeral meal with a sip of jelly with milk. Some priests currently recommend replacing cow's milk with soy milk on fasting days. (However, this contradicts that soy products cannot be used, because they are all genetically modified).

Another superstition: Superstitions keep track of which foot the priest enters the house where the deceased is: if with the right, then it’s good, if with the left, it’s bad. While the deceased is lying at home, they throw a knife into a tub of drinking water so that the deceased does not drink water from this tub at night. During the time that the dead person is in the house, they do not lend any of the food, and also do not give fire to anyone from the house.

If the owner or mistress of the house dies: If the owner or mistress dies, then all doors and exits are tied with a red cord or thread so that the household does not follow the owner.

Superstitions about the coffin and stools: When the coffin is taken out for parting, it is placed on stools. As soon as it is lifted, it is necessary to quickly grab them and turn them upside down. - "so that another coffin does not lie on these stools." The stools on which the coffin stood can only be corrected by touching the seat to the ground, this again makes the stools usable, or vice versa, depending on the region, they rush to sit on this chair so that "all troubles die."

Caring for a loved one even after his death: In some places, after the funeral, for three nights in a row, they light a wax candle in the house where the deceased lay, put two breads and two apples, put a mug of water or a glass of vodka on each fire for the soul of the deceased, so that the deceased could come to his house and eat for three days.

How not to scare away the guardian angel?

In some places, it is believed that after the death of a person, his guardian angel stays in the house of the deceased for another forty days, and therefore, during this period, the peasants in many places did not sit under the goddess (there is an angel). And on the fortieth day, one or two women traditionally saw off the angel (according to other beliefs, the soul of the deceased) with bread, salt and beer. (the type of beer could not be determined).

superstition about whether it is necessary to leave a deceased person in a room alone even for a moment: A dead person is never left alone: neither when he lies, nor when he dies. This custom is explained by the fact that on the right side of the body worthy of God stand invisibly, and on the left - devils "and pull the soul: this one is for themselves, and this one is for themselves." The presence of living people helps the righteous to "pull" the soul of the deceased. Tears, if they are shed over the deceased, interfere with a calm departure and make it difficult to die. Those who succumb to unbridled grief in such circumstances are said to "cry back the dying man." They are predicted in the future retribution for such selfishness - they will lose speech, or hearing, or another gift, or some other misfortune will befall them. Therefore, sometimes they invite for a fee, the so-called mourners, and they cry for all their relatives. Some mourners are real professional artists.

The guardian angel watches over a person from heaven, from the "window of God's chamber", which people see as a star, and writes down every earthly deed of a person entrusted to him in a heavenly book; when a person dies, the heavenly window slams shut and people can see how a star falls "from the heights of heaven onto the chest of the earth" - this is an angel flying for the soul of the deceased. Hence the belief - if you see a shooting star and, until it goes out, you have time to make a wish, it will certainly come true, since the angel on this path does not refuse anyone and nothing and will fulfill the desire, or, according to another belief, will bring the request to the Lord . A sweet superstition, if only to replace making a wish to an angel star with a prayer.

Old beliefs about the death of sorcerers: Sorcerers are believed to die, always in terrible agony, so in the past in the villages it used to be that the roof of the house was taken apart to make it easier for his soul to part with the body. After death, the sorcerer "did not give rest" until, like drowned men, he was nailed to the ground with an aspen stake.

On the funeral of suicides: It happens that the priest refuses to perform the Church commemoration and burial according to the rites of the Orthodox Church due to the fact that the deceased was a suicide. Here it must be remembered that intentional suicides, murdered robbers or those killed in a duel are deprived of their Christian burial. It is necessary to distinguish from them people who took their own lives by negligence (unintentional fall from a height, drowning in water, poisoning with stale food, violation of safety regulations at work, etc.). This also includes suicide committed as a result of a mental disorder, under the influence of large doses of alcohol, and so on. But the debt of love allows close relatives to ask God for forgiveness of such a person in home prayer.

The priests comment on the funeral of suicides in this way: “Suicide is the unauthorized deprivation of oneself of life in a state of despair, extreme despondency, wounded pride, loss of any meaning in life. The common spiritual ground for all manifestations of this mortal sin is unbelief and lack of hope in God. A person commits suicide in a state of severe spiritual illness. Such a high manifestation of love for God and people has nothing to do with this, when a person sacrifices his life for faith, fatherland, people. “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. There is no greater love than if a man lays down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you” (John 15:12-14). The holy martyrs sacrificed their lives, having great love and devotion to God. History knows many examples when Christians had a choice, but preferred death. Hieromartyr Ignatius the God-bearer was taken to Rome in chains to be devoured by wild beasts. On the way to the capital of the empire, he learned that the Roman Christians intended to seek the abolition of the royal sentence of death. In the letter, he asked not to do this. The words of his letter are known, in which his great desire to become a sacrifice for the sake of Jesus Christ was expressed: "I am His wheat and I will be ground by the teeth of beasts to be His pure bread." He gave up the opportunity to stay alive. From the fullness of faith, he wanted to leave this life and unite with Christ. During the persecution, chaste maidens were in a very difficult situation, who, out of love for Christ, chose the path of a pure and virgin life. The persecutors, directed by the devil, sought to strike them at the very heart of their achievement—to dishonor them. The persecutors wanted to plunge them into the very mud in which they themselves lived (the pagan world at that time was greatly corrupted). Nicephorus Kallistos tells of two Antiochian virgins who, on the advice of their mother, threw themselves into the water to avoid disgrace. Other examples have come down to us. It is impossible not to see in these actions manifestations of sacrifice for the sake of moral purity, and not despair and unbelief. Not all of them are canonized. In glorifying some of them, the Church took into account the holiness of their previous lives.”

Serving a memorial service for a dead baby: Some ask to serve a memorial service for a dead baby. Panikhidas should not be served for an infant, it is enough to commemorate him at the liturgy. A memorial service is served for the forgiveness of the sins of the deceased, and the baby still does not have sins. During the Divine Liturgy, at the proskomedia, a sacrifice is made for everyone, including the saints, therefore, during the Liturgy, it is necessary to commemorate the dead babies.

Many pagan-Soviet superstitions exist in cemeteries: you can't say "thank you", you can say "thank you". You can’t say “goodbye”, otherwise you’ll “see you” soon, you have to say: “goodbye”, although in this case, no matter how long you say goodbye, the date is still guaranteed.

There are still many superstitions associated with the funeral of a person, but many of them were generated either from ancient traditions and distorted, or created on the basis of ethical considerations, or taken from religious beliefs.

Adhere to these norms or not - it depends only on you and your loved ones.

Every person on this earth has the two most important events in life - this is birth and death. Between these two events is life.

For one person it is long, for another it is short, but in their lives, people, as a rule, drive away the thought of death, thinking that they will live forever. But then death comes, and with it the inevitable bitter chores about the burial of a person dear to you.

Not often, but it happens that a person thinks about his future death and prepares his coffin in advance. Such a product is usually stored in attics. But here there is a small, but very significant "but": the coffin is empty, and since it is made according to the standards of a person, he begins to "pull" him into himself. And a person, as a rule, passes away faster. Previously, to prevent this from happening, sawdust, shavings, grain were poured into an empty coffin. After the death of a person, sawdust, shavings, and grain were also buried in a pit. After all, if you feed a bird with such grain, it will get sick.

When a person has died and a measure is taken from him to make a coffin, in no case should the measure be placed on the bed. It is best to take it out of the house, and put it in a coffin during the funeral.

Be sure to remove all silver items from the deceased: after all, this is exactly the metal that is used to fight "the unclean." Therefore, the latter can "disturb" the body of the deceased.

If there is a dead person in the house, do not start washing. This must be done after the funeral.

When a coffin is made, relatives and friends are forbidden to participate in this. The shavings formed during the manufacture of the coffin are best buried in the ground, in extreme cases, thrown into the water.

The bed on which a person died should not be thrown away, as many do. Take her and take her to the chicken coop, let her lie there for three nights, so that, as the legend says, the rooster will sing her three times.

When the time comes to put the deceased in the coffin, then the body of the deceased and his coffin are sprinkled with holy water outside and inside. You can also sprinkle with incense. Then the body is transferred to the coffin. A whisk is placed on the forehead of the deceased. It is given in the church when the deceased is brought to the funeral service. The mouth of the deceased must be closed, eyes closed, arms folded crosswise on the chest, right over left. The Christian woman's head is covered with a large scarf that completely covers her hair, and its ends can not be tied, but simply folded crosswise. A tie should not be worn on a deceased Orthodox Christian. An icon or cross is placed in the left hand of the deceased; for men - the image of the savior, for women - the image of the Mother of God. And you can do this: in the left hand - a cross, and on the chest of the deceased - a Holy image. A pillow, which is usually made of cotton wool, is placed under the feet and head of the deceased. The body is covered with a sheet. The coffin is placed in the middle of the room in front of the icons, turning the face of the deceased with his head towards the icons.

When you see a dead person in a coffin, do not automatically touch your torso with your hands. This is due to the fact that in the place where you took it with your hand, various skin growths in the form of a tumor can grow.

If there is a dead person in the house, then, meeting your acquaintance or relatives there, you should greet with a bow of your head, and not with your voice.

While the deceased is in the house, the floor should not be swept. If you do not follow this advice, then members of your family may soon fall ill, or worse will happen.

During the funeral, you can not visit the graves of relatives and friends located in the same cemetery.

The ritual must be completed to the end for one person.

Do not listen to those people who advise putting two needles crosswise on his lips to save the body of the deceased from decomposition. This will not save the body of the deceased, but the needles that were on his lips will surely disappear, they are used to induce damage.

In order to prevent a heavy smell from the deceased, you can put a bunch of sage in his head, the people call it "cornflowers". It also serves another purpose - to drive away "evil spirits". For the same purposes, you can use willow branches, which are sanctified on Palm Sunday and are kept behind the images. These branches can be placed under the deceased.

A man died, his body was put in a coffin, and the bed on which he died has not yet been taken out. Friends or strangers may come up to you with a request to lie on this bed. The argument put forward is the following: so that their back and bones do not hurt. Don't listen to them. Don't harm yourself.

Do not put fresh flowers in the coffin of the dead. For this purpose, use artificial or, in extreme cases, dried.

A candle is lit near the coffin as a sign that the deceased has passed into the realm of light - a better afterlife.

A lamp or a candle is lit in the house, which burns as long as the dead person is in the house.

Instead of a candlestick for candles, glasses are often used, into which wheat is poured. Some people sprinkle others with this wheat and thereby cause damage. This wheat should also not be used for poultry or livestock feed.

Make sure that someone else's things are not placed under the deceased. If you notice this, then you need to pull them out of the coffin and burn them somewhere far away.

It happens when, out of ignorance, some compassionate mothers put photographs of their children in the coffin of their grandparents. After that, the child began to get sick, and if help was not provided in time, a fatal outcome could occur.

You can not give your things to dress the dead. The deceased is buried, and the one who gave his things begins to get sick.

A coffin with a dead person is taken out of the house, and someone is standing near the door and begins to tie knots on rags. He explains this operation to people by tying knots so that no more coffins are taken out of this house. Although the mind of such a person is completely different ...

If a pregnant woman goes to a funeral, she will do harm to herself. A sick child may be born. Therefore, try to stay at home at this time, and you need to say goodbye to your loved one in advance - before the funeral.

When a dead person is carried down the street in a coffin, try not to look out the window of your apartment or house.

The ties that bind the hands and feet of the deceased must be untied and placed in the coffin with the deceased. Otherwise, as a rule, they are used to induce damage.

If you say goodbye to the deceased, try not to step on the towel that is placed in the cemetery near the coffin, so as not to incur damage to yourself.

If you are afraid of the dead, take hold of the legs of the deceased and hold on. This can be done before being placed in the grave.

Sometimes people can throw earth from the grave into their bosoms or by their collars, proving that in this way one can avoid the fear of the dead. Do not believe - this is done to induce damage.

The funeral is over, and according to the old Christian custom, water and some food are placed in a glass on the table to treat the soul of the deceased.

Make sure that young children or adults do not inadvertently drink from this glass or eat anything. After such a treat, both adults and children begin to get sick.

During the commemoration, the deceased, according to tradition, is poured a glass of vodka. Do not drink it if someone advises you.

There is a dead person on your street, and you urgently need to plant potatoes. Don't waste your time and effort. If you plant potatoes at a time when the deceased has not yet been buried, do not expect a good harvest.

If you come to the grave of a loved one to tear out grass, paint a fence or plant something, start digging and dig up things that should not be there. In this case, everything that you found must be taken out of the cemetery and burned. When it burns, try not to fall under the smoke, otherwise you can get sick yourself.

Burials on New Year's Eve are a very bad omen: in the coming year, they will bury at least once a month.

Funeral on Sunday predicts three more funerals during the week.

It is dangerous to delay a funeral, for whatever reason. Then one, two or three deaths in the family or in the nearest district will occur within a week or a month.

If the funeral is postponed until next week, then it is certainly unfortunate, because the dead man will try his best to take someone with him.

After the funeral, do not go to any of your friends or relatives to visit.

In the heads of the graves of young men and women, viburnum is planted.

In the first seven days after the death of the deceased, do not take anything out of the house.

Until 40 days, do not distribute the things of the deceased to relatives, friends or acquaintances.

If one of you has died a close or dear person, and you often cry for him, then it is advised to have thistle grass in the house.

When someone dies, try to have only women present.

If the patient is dying hard, then for an easier death, remove a pillow of feathers from under his head. In the villages, the dying person is laid on straw.

To alleviate the death agony of the patient, it is necessary to cover with white material, which will later be used for upholstery of the coffin.

When there is a dead person in the house, in the neighboring houses one should not drink water in the morning, which was in buckets or pots. It must be poured out, and freshly poured.

It is desirable that the washing of the body of the deceased takes place during daylight hours - from sunrise to sunset. Water after ablution must be handled with great care. It is necessary to dig a hole far from the yard, garden and living quarters, where people do not go, and pour everything, to the last drop, into it and cover it with earth. The fact is that very strong damage is done on the water in which the deceased was washed. Therefore, do not give this water to anyone, no matter who turns to you with such a request.

Try not to spill this water around the apartment so that those living in it do not get sick.

Pregnant women should not wash the deceased in order to avoid the illness of the unborn child, as well as women who are menstruating.

As a rule, only elderly women prepare the deceased for their last journey.

The shroud must be sewn on a live thread and always with a needle away from you so that there are no more deaths in the house.

In Russia in the old days

In the house where the dying person was lying, they took out all the keys from the keyholes and opened the doors and windows so that the human soul could leave the body without interference. When a person gave his soul to God, he was necessarily washed so that he appeared before the Lord clean in soul and body.

When washing the deceased, strict rules were observed. The deceased was laid with their feet to the stove and washed 2-3 times with warm water and soap from a new clay pot. The water with which the deceased was washed became "dead", and it was poured somewhere far away so that a healthy person would not step on this place, and also so that the sorcerer would not take it for himself to induce damage. They did the same with water, which was used to wash the dishes after the wake and the floors after the removal of the deceased from the house. They also tried to get rid of other attributes of ablution as soon as possible.

In the coffin of the deceased, they put his baptismal pectoral cross, a small icon, a halo on his forehead, candles and a “manuscript” - a written prayer that forgives sins. They give a towel (handkerchief) to the hands so that the deceased can wipe the sweat from his face during the Last Judgment. Who died on Easter - an egg in his hand.

The deceased is usually buried in white clothes, personifying the infantile purity of the Christian soul.

The sign was strictly observed: do not make the coffin larger than the deceased, otherwise there will be another deceased. In the house, as a sign of mourning, they curtain or turn the “face” to the wall of the mirror so that the human soul does not remain locked on the other side of the mirror. They also stop all the clocks as a sign that a person's life path is completed. Before the funeral, his friends and relatives come to say goodbye to a person, but 20 minutes before the removal of the body, only the closest relatives should remain with the deceased.

Take out the rubbish in front of the dead person from the house - take everyone out of the house.

In preparation for the removal of the body, first the wreaths and the portrait of the deceased are taken out of the house, then the lid of the coffin (the narrow part forward), and only at the end the coffin itself (the deceased is carried forward with their feet). At the same time, thresholds and jambs should not be touched, so that the deceased would not be tempted to return home.

“The dead man is one of the houses out,” they say, taking him out and locking the tenants in the house for a while. According to the old tradition, it is impossible to take out the deceased before noon and after sunset, so that the setting sun could “capture” the deceased with it. Relatives should not carry a coffin, so that the deceased does not take a blood relative with him to the grave.

After the coffin is taken out of the house, all the floors must be washed (previously, not only the floors, but the whole house were washed with the same water).

The path of the funeral procession to the cemetery is covered with spruce branches, which serve as a talisman, a guarantee that the deceased will not “walk”, will not return in his wake.

At funerals, it is customary to present cakes, sweets, and handkerchiefs to those present. This is nothing more than the distribution of alms, which obliges those who received it to pray for the deceased. At the same time, the worshipers take on some of the sins of the deceased.

Arriving home after the funeral, you need to warm your hands so as not to bring the grave cold into the house. After the commemoration, 40 days of intoxication are not taken into the mouth. At the commemoration, they drink only vodka, and those who come are sure to be fed pancakes and kutya.

For the soul of the deceased, a stack of vodka, covered with a slice of bread, is placed on the table. It must stand for 40 days, while the human soul has not completely left this world.

At the wake, they don’t linger for a long time. Six weeks after the funeral, a glass of water should be on the windowsill, and a towel should be hung on the corner of the house, outside by the window, so that the soul could bathe and dry itself before the wake. On the fortieth day, the soul of the deceased comes to his house for a whole day and leaves only after the so-called farewell. If they are not arranged, the deceased will suffer. Six weeks after death, "ladders" of dough are baked to help the soul climb to heaven. According to Russian tradition, there are special days in the folk calendar on which the Orthodox commemorate those who have moved to another world.

We must always remember that at a funeral or with the help of funeral paraphernalia, the most severe damage is induced. Therefore, if something incomprehensible happened at the funeral or you suspect something in yourself, contact an experienced

master. In no case should you get rid of such damage on your own or using numerous and useless articles on the Internet.

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