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Individual Arrangement is the only method that allows you not only to look into your Soul, but also to restore the order that you dream of.
Who is primarily intended for this method?
Who LOOKING for opportunities, not excuses.
You may have different problems, health, lack of money, relationships with people, internal contradictions.
All of them are solvable.
And their solution begins with the Realization that you are their source. There is a reason within you that you feel your problem and do not have what you need. Until you find out and eliminate this cause, everything will remain the same.
If you are determined to figure out what your life is trying to tell you through your situation, an outside perspective will open up new perspectives for you.
I have a considerable number of strong techniques and methods that allow you to determine both the cause of what is happening and the solution to your problems.
“Follow the images of the Soul, not the images of the Mind” - following the desires of your Soul, you will come to true happiness.
If you put things in order, first of all, in your thoughts and feelings, then you will be amazed at how much everything will change around you.
What is the success, the uniqueness of this method?
Individual constellation is a unique method of short-term therapy (some advanced psychologists know that 500 hours of psychoanalysis can be put into one constellation, the average duration of which is 60-120 minutes!).
It allows you to diagnose any difficult life situation, to see what, in fact, is happening in the depths of the Soul. And, having seen the cause of the existing problem, gently eliminate it ...
Constellation is a way of finding and correcting the limitations that are blocking our aspirations to be successful, healthy and happy. It is recognized as the simplest and most effective method of solving difficult life situations.
The solutions found in the process of constellation release powerful forces that become a resource for the desired changes, which allows you to lay a good foundation for your future.
As practice shows, the most common cause of most psychological diseases and human problems is a violation of tribal and family ties.
Bert Hellinger characterizes his method as follows: “It is very important that the psychotherapist finds that point in the generic system where all the energy of a person’s love is concentrated, since here lies both the root of his family problem and the key to resolving difficulties.”
What the arrangement works with:
- health problems
- conflict relationships
- problems at work
- personal life does not add up, loneliness, the wrong men come across, you need to end the relationship and let go of your partner;
- fears
- depression
- rejection of self
The feeling that you are not living your own life.
- money problems, understand the cause of problems with the business and how to eliminate them,
- remove anxiety about the future,
- it is difficult for you to make a choice and you need more information about what is happening,
- you can not understand your feelings and the feelings of a partner,
- problems with children / parents,
- things are not going my way,
Need support in a difficult situation.
You understand that this needs to stop and fill your life with love, reciprocity, pleasure and a state of realization.
And also want to understand:
What kind of partner do you need
- how to become the most expensive and beloved for your partner
During the individual arrangement, the participants become aware of the causes of lack of money, loneliness, serious illnesses and accidents that occurred in the family.
Unfinished processes of the past in the family (or clan) unconsciously involve the living members in what was a long time ago. This is how the law of balancing the system works. Descendants, obeying these laws, are called upon to complete what their ancestors have not completed: to burn out, finish, live something for someone ...
Thus, a person finds himself in a subconscious trap, intertwined with the fate of his ancestors. Without realizing it, he does not live his own life, solves his own life tasks ...
For example:
- a beautiful and smart woman does not find a match for herself - she is in the weave;
- you work hard, but in the end you have no money;
- you take care of your health, eat normally, avoid drafts, but still get sick often;
- you know that drinking is harmful and you still get drunk in a subconscious desire for death ...
Do not console yourself with the words: "accident, it happens." Do not blame viruses, stress, the political situation or the environment for what is happening to you. Understand yourself. Behind each such accident lies a serious systemic underlying reason.
The method of constellations allows you to "unravel" such an interweaving. Live in the present, not in the past.
Family weaving is easy to recognize:
- if the situation that you live has no explanation from the point of view of real life - this is an interweaving.
- if the feelings that you experience do not correspond to the real situation by the strength of their manifestation (for example: there is fear, but there is no reason; there is jealousy, but there was no betrayal; sadness - for no apparent reason ...) ...
Most likely you are intertwined with someone and these feelings are not yours. They are from your family. And once in the past, these feelings were quite adequate to some situation.
"Man is born for happiness, like a bird for flight." And it is. Each of us is born with a full set of opportunities to build a happy life. The only question is: how to build a successful present, being in the past? Lacking full contact with reality? With myself?
Decide to live in your real happy present, freed from the invisible fetters of the past!!!
How is the placement going?
The constellator tests the client through questions, reveals his secondary benefits, a wounded subpersonality, which leads to conflict situations.
Exploring the feeling or emotion that worries you at the moment, we go to the temporary layer in your subconscious when the event happened.
We reveal the reason why you unconsciously fixed your awareness on that event. Together we re-experience this event on a sensual level and it ceases to affect you.
The placement algorithm is very simple - there is no need for mysterious words and mind-blowing reasoning - I named, arranged and received information. All! This, of course, surprises, shocks, confuses, delights, sometimes causes indignation. But no one has remained indifferent!
How much can you trust the solution found in the constellation?
The client himself can make decisions and draw any conclusions, thanks to his lived feelings. It makes a difference in real life right away!
The first few times, looking at Hellinger’s system constellations, it seems that this is sheer mysticism and magic: people play some roles, feel and think something incomprehensible, move, the host asks unexpected questions and draws incomprehensible conclusions (as if “from the ceiling ”), new figures are rearranged and added, someone is lying on the floor (and why?!), then everything is somehow transformed, incomprehensible phrases are spoken and the situation is resolved.
| Bert Hellinger noted that often the source of a client's problem lies at the level of life of ancestors, such as parents or grandparents. Any tasks, scenarios that have not been lived to the end or uncorrected mistakes of the past, are passed on to the descendants of the Genus, thereby weaving them into the living and working out of what the ancestors did not complete. Therefore, other methods that are limited to considering only the current life of a person, as a rule, are ineffective, do not allow to see and eliminate the causes of certain undesirable phenomena. Unreacted feelings, destructive scenarios of behavior, illnesses are passed on to descendants and are lived as one's own. Within the framework of family constellations, the study of the client's problem is carried out more widely, systematically, the sources of problems are identified and eliminated, the root of which is in the life of not only current, but also previous generations. So, the Hellinger constellations are a method that allows you to work with a person as part of a system, find and eliminate the causes of certain negative phenomena in a person’s life, the source of which is in the life of their ancestors. |
In the course of his observations, Bert Hellinger identified unconscious actions and reactions of family members that lead to increased suffering (for example, a daughter's revenge on other men for her mother, who was mistreated by her father, leads to the fact that there are even more innocent victims and misfortunes, while how the problem is not solved), as well as several key laws of family systems (to be discussed in detail below), the violation of which leads to certain negative consequences.
Many constellations help solve problems, some people come out completely changed, despite the fact that they do not understand at all what happened, everything looked like some kind of strange theater, but at the same time, there is a feeling that something important has happened. In the process of arrangement, one can single out a certain structure, key points, understanding which, what is happening becomes clearer and often instructive.
How does the Hellinger system arrangement work?
A person comes with a problem that he wants to solve. There is a small discussion with the host, it is revealed how suitable the arrangement method is for the solution (sometimes a person simply lacks knowledge, perhaps some kind of worldly advice). Further, for the client system under consideration, for example, a family, several significant people in this situation are identified. In their roles from among the participants, the client or leader selects deputies and places them in accordance with how their position in the system is felt. The field of the system under consideration appears, gradually the deputies plunge into roles and begin to broadcast the processes taking place in the family. For example, a substitute mother may feel parental feelings for her daughter's substitute, substitutes for two warring family members begin to show aggression towards each other, and a sister begins to cry over a brother who died early. If necessary, some more roles are added to the arrangement and it is tracked how their appearance affects the system and changes in behavior.
According to the relative position and relationship between the elements of the system, violations associated with the client's request are determined. Further, various steps are taken to eliminate the identified violations, for example, by changing the position of the deputies, placing them in the right order or by pronouncing permissive phrases, as a result of which the family field and the client’s condition change, the causes of negativity disappear (sometimes additional work is needed to eliminate the accumulated consequences). The client, as a rule, observes everything from the outside, and then is introduced into the field of arrangement to perform key actions, live and fix the image-decision.
After the arrangement, it is better not to discuss it with anyone, try not to talk for a while (and with yourself too, do not ask questions, do not try to analyze), be alone with yourself, do not leave the process, fully accept and assimilate what happened . This applies to those situations where such behavior is a way to splash energy or not look at what is happening, to suppress, to be distracted. Sometimes a person starts talking (more suitable “ chatting”) in order to relieve stress, so he knocks down the mood and reduces the strength of the constellation, the effect it produces.
The idea to shift the function of displaying hidden subtle processes to the people themselves is very good, because. people, by nature, are good translators, they constantly work out signals from the subtle plane, realizing them in the dense one (more details below). A person has more degrees of freedom, more flexible than any other system, any other tool, for example, cards, a pendulum, a frame, etc. Substitutes can move, speak, show emotions, build figures, show dynamics, connection, interact, etc. ., which allows you to more fully and vividly convey subtle processes. It also gives some clarity and is easier to perceive by others, what is happening is clearer, more natural and closer to a person’s everyday life than the form in which information is given out in other systems (Tarot, pendulum, etc.).
The method of constellations can be used not only to unleash family entanglements, but also to address issues of personal development (what is better to focus on now), finding a place in life, forecasting (which choice is most suitable for a person), to clarify and improve relationships within teams, for example organizations (what happens between employees on a subtle level, where are the weak points, why the director stopped working well, how best to build relationships with this or that employee, what is the reason for current failures, mass layoffs and apathy in the company, what can be done, how customers will react to innovations). We can say that this is a technique based on the phenomenon of substitutive perception, the ability of a person to identify with any objects (subpersonality, a person, a dream figure, a collective, an organ of the body) or rather abstract concepts, processes, qualities and phenomena (death, relationships , reason, emotion, disease, life, wisdom).
Constellations, in addition to the group form, can be carried out one on one with a specialist, then the places of the figures are marked with “anchors”, and the specialist moves from mark to mark and gets used to the sensations of this figure, then everything happens approximately the same as in group work. Work can be done in your imagination, alone with yourself.
Systematic consideration of problems
A widespread narrow view of certain negative actions or vices of a person often does not allow solving the problem, because often several people are involved in this and the reason, the source of such behavior may be in another person, and everything is blamed on the victim and looking for (and finding) flaws in it. If you look at the problem more broadly, see a person as part of the system, pay attention to the relationship of elements, then often the situation is presented in a completely different light, and accordingly, other solutions appear.
Example "Man drinking"
The first husband of the woman left her and after a while she marries another, most likely not out of love. A woman is constantly dissatisfied with her new husband, compares him with others and finds flaws, and especially with the first. This happens as clearly - no matter what a man does, everything is wrong, and on a subtle plane - a woman inside regularly aggresses, sends negative thoughts, does not respect and despises a man, instead of a house like a fortress, good comfort, only pummeling. The husband gradually begins to drink, because. cannot withstand constant attacks. Perhaps he does not realize the source of the problem, he feels that he is not well and, in order to somehow get away from these feelings, he forgets himself in alcohol (see stunning). A man sacrifices himself to save his marriage.
Usually they say something like this: “everything is fine with him, because he drinks!”, “Go get coded!” (in this case, the opportunity to rest, defend for a short time is blocked, and then other, more serious consequences are likely, for example, heart problems and early death or “unmotivated” attacks of aggression and beatings), “such a wonderful woman was unlucky with a man” (the behavior of a person inside family and in public sometimes varies greatly, under the influence of various egregors, both the perception of the world and the roles played by a person are rebuilt. A woman may well be "soft and fluffy" in public. See the article about egregors and below in the text about their impact.), " stop drinking." To stop drinking, you need to see the source of the problem, as well as have the strength to make the decision to leave the relationship. Either a woman needs to figure out what is happening, where these emotions come from, what is their cause, and this is hard and you don’t want to look in that direction, because. something serious may emerge that requires a lot of energy and work on oneself. And in this case, to divert eyes, the stigma is hung that “the man is a drunkard” (a common version of the “solution” of the problem by the subconscious in order to reduce pressure on the consciousness. See the article on the work of the consciousness and the subconscious), then nothing needs to be done, the position of the victim is taken , all responsibility and blame is shifted to another. This is a special case, for illustration, there are other reasons for drunkenness and in each case you need to look individually.
As can be seen above, with an external declaration of any desires, often people inside themselves do not want changes, desires serve as a screen, speaking in this way or engaging in self-deception, a person receives some benefit. The actual implementation of what is desired may not be beneficial for some participants at all, because can lead to a restructuring of the system and relationships within it, sometimes these relationships can stop (the husband sees that his wife did not marry for love and realizes the perniciousness of being with her further), even someone's death is possible (for example, when one person held another or wanted die instead of him, saying deep inside: "I'd rather be instead of you"). All objects (both egregors and people) that are not interested in real changes begin to resist as much as they can, create various temptations and unforeseen circumstances in order to return everything to its previous course (see also " Obstacles to change"). For example, as soon as a man comes close to understanding, the wife becomes “silky” (the state is often induced by egregor and unconsciously played out) and gradually takes him away from “bad” thoughts, or when the husband is ready for decisive action, urgent matters appear and thoughts come ( from the system) that it is better not to do this yet, the words sound inside: “well, be patient, wait a little more. Could everything change?" The states of a man can jump from “my foot will not be here anymore”, to the complete absurdity of previous thoughts and a lack of understanding of how he could think about it. These states strongly depend on which egregor the man is currently connected to, which subpersonality is active.
The impact of egregor on a person
After the arrangement, one can wonder how it happened that gradually a person began to reproduce other people's emotions, thoughts and attitudes towards other people, perception changed, began to feel, until recently, strangers, like his mother, husband, grandmother, brother, a lot was lived "as if by really" - such is the effect of egregore on a person. Few people transfer the experience gained to everyday life, wondering how much what we do every day, think, want, feel, live is our own, and not induced.
With the exit from the constellation field, the impact of egregors does not end, because. egregors are everywhere, a person simply moves from the area of management of one egregor to the area of \u200b\u200banother (see the example "Consultation with a psychologist"). A person goes out into the street and falls under the influence of a pedestrian egregore, which imperceptibly regulates the flow of people (you can feel the necessary speed of movement and some lines of force along which it is better to go. In the direction of those who violate the preferred speed and trajectory, for example, when a person walks across crowds or constantly abruptly changes direction and speed, egregore makes other people feel dissatisfied, aggressive), or motorists, or the subway. Then he comes to work, home or to the store - they also have their own egregors that control the situation and people's behavior.
Example "In the store"
A burning desire to buy something appears in the store and is somehow explained (or not explained at all) that after leaving the store can be perceived as superfluous and unnecessary, although at the moment of choice it was felt as clearly necessary, almost vital. The longer a person walks around the store, the higher the likelihood of falling into a semi-trance state and buying a lot of things that were not planned at all. Therefore, in many stores, bread is placed farther away, so that when following it, the buyer picks up something else along the way. Huge racks, a large selection, multi-colored packaging - all this disperses attention and contributes to the transition to the desired state. Listing, moving fast and focused reduce impulse buying.
Everything that happens is perceived personally, it seems to a person that the thoughts, emotions, impulses for action and the perception of other people are his own. In fact, the egregore leading the situation organizes a suitable set of circumstances, puts some roles on the participants and offers scenarios for the game that correspond to the roles, induces certain states. Given that a person is under the influence of the field not for 15 minutes, but most often much longer - often days and years, we can assume how powerful and deep this effect is, how familiar and imperceptible it is. In life, each person is even better an actor than in constellations, he gets used to the roles even better, learns them for a long time, perfectly and truly, selflessly performs.
Therefore, in most cases, the actions prescribed by the scenario are performed by a person without hesitation, automatically, from beginning to end, without assessing how useful they are and with full confidence that they are his own. Sometimes such reactions are inadequate to the situation, illogical and lead to negative consequences. Often scenarios are repeated more than once, and a person even notices that it ends badly, yet he enters them and works out, something sucks him in.
Example "Introduced Aggression"
A woman periodically finds a “causeless” feeling of hatred for men, she wants to take revenge on them, begins to perceive them as enemies who need to be punished. This feeling was passed on to her from her mother, whose husband mistreated his wife. It is clear that such obsessions have a bad effect on relationships with men who do not understand the periodic outbreaks of fierce hatred, aggression and destructive behavior. But the program, from time to time, turns on and the woman unconsciously produces a series of blows to "her enemies."
The solution will be to see what is really happening, that these feelings do not belong to her, but are induced, to disidentify. Many problems can be avoided by knowing the laws (orders) of family systems and the impact that their violation has on the lives of family members.
Ownership Law
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All members of the system have an equal right to belong to the genus, no one can be excluded, there is no division into good and bad. Members of the system include grandparents, parents, previous partners of parents and grandparents, someone who has seriously affected the system (for example, saved someone from the system members, or killed), children, aborted or stillborn, murderers and their victims, those who have suffered in any way from the actions of the members of the system, and whether these people are alive now or not, they are all part of the system. It often happens that one of the members of the system is forgotten or forced out, for example, parents are hurt inside because they had an abortion, they try to forget, not to think about what happened, thereby, as it were, trying to exclude the child from their family. Or relatives with a difficult fate, unusual by social standards, are rejected - they prefer not to talk about them, a certain taboo appears. |
In the event of any exclusion of one of the members, the system seeks to restore its integrity by the fact that the descendants begin to work out scenarios of behavior, carry the fate and feelings of the excluded, an identification occurs that people, most often, are not aware of.
Example "Remembering Grandpa"
Grandfather, a businessman, went bankrupt in one business, lost everything, his wife left him along with the child, and they prefer not to talk about him anymore. The grandson is also in business and as soon as he gets to the moment of significant success, he starts making mistake after mistake and eventually fails. This is how he remembers his grandfather. It is necessary to pay tribute to the fate of the grandfather, to lovingly acknowledge that he is part of the family, if possible, to establish contact with him.
You can look a little from the other side. Genus, egregore is a system that has its own tasks (karma), and family members are elements that perform certain functions. In the event of the exclusion of any of the family members, the functions are redistributed among the remaining participants, or the search for a person for the appropriate role begins (for example, it seems to a man that he is looking for a young mistress, but in fact, he misses his unborn daughter). When a suitable person appears, the system directs the missing role to him, he unconsciously identifies with the excluded person and begins to perform his functions. If the displaced family member is remembered and given his due, then even if he has died long ago, he is still present in the system and there is no need to transfer his functions to someone else. The task of a person who is identified is to see the real situation, to understand with whom identification takes place, to lovingly include him in the system, then disidentification occurs, imposed functions, emotions, thoughts, life scenarios go to its owner and there is no longer a need to play someone else's role.
Law of Hierarchy
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The stream of life flows from the past into the future, from the earlier members of the system to the later ones, it cannot be reversed, it can only be passed on. For a family, the one who came into the system earlier is more important than those who came later. For example, parents are more important than children, an older child is more important than his brothers and sisters, grandparents are more important than parents. Therefore, later members of the family, often, unconsciously sacrifice themselves for the sake of the earlier ones, a special case is when a descendant begins to replace his ancestor to restore the integrity of the system, despite the fact that this harms him. And at the level of systems, newer systems are more important than the old ones, for example, the family of newlyweds is more important for their members than their former families where they were the children of their parents. Or a new family is more important than the former families of partners. |
Example "Accepted desire to die"
The granddaughter felt sadness and a desire to die. In the arrangement, it turned out that this feeling and desire to move into death was adopted from her mother. The mother had many abortions, she was sad for her unborn children and wanted to leave after them. Mom, in turn, adopted this feeling and life scenario from her grandmother, who also had many aborted children and a desire to follow them. The solution for the granddaughter, in this case, may be: to see what is happening, to disidentify, to leave the mother the opportunity to bear her fate and be responsible for the consequences of the decisions made.
Violation of the Law of Hierarchy will be various attempts by the younger ones to rise to the level or above the elders. For example, when a child interferes in the lives of parents, takes the position of a parent-educator in relation to them, takes the place of one of his parents (symbolic marriage), arrogance. The consequences can be completely different: conflicts with parents, energy exhaustion, illness, inability to find a mate or problems in the family, collapse. When a child somehow abandons his parent, for example, through aggression, arrogance, or one parent is forced out by another parent, the female or male flow ceases to flow to him, which leads to problems in relationships with the opposite sex, lack of confidence, a sense of support.
Law of Balance
| Relationships arise when one side gives something to the other. The one who gives feels a certain lightness, superiority and the right to demand. The recipient, on the other hand, has a feeling of guilt, internal tension, a desire to give something in return, and this internal feeling will torment the person until he restores the balance. So the system, through a sense of guilt and innocence, directs people to maintain balance, tries to balance the exchange within itself between equals in status - for example, between a husband and wife (see also about the exchange of energy and examples of restoring balance). |
When the balance is restored, the relationship may end, because. the tension goes away, the participants have a feeling of lightness. Therefore, in order to continue the relationship, if something good is received, you can return a little more so that the tension is constantly maintained, and the volume of exchange between people also grows, which leads to mutual enrichment, filling the participants and increasing the good. If a person has done something bad, then in order to continue the relationship and improve their quality, you need to return a little less bad, i.e. the volume of exchange in the bad will be less and less each time.
For those who have been treated unfairly, there is a trap and a great temptation to become an even greater aggressor, to turn into a cruel destroyer. The victim of a bad deed often inside feels his superiority over the offender, arrogance, there is a feeling of the right to demand, punish. Various thoughts can slip through, such as: “I am good, you are bad”, “I am much better, cleaner and higher than you”, “I am kind and tolerant, and you are evil, mean and unbalanced”, “I suffer and go to heaven and you, sinner, go to hell.” The victim sometimes relishes such thoughts, despises and swells in his arrogance, not noticing how his heart closes, he becomes callous, winds himself up (an astral-mental loop - when thoughts and emotions heat up and strengthen each other), is filled with poison and gradually turns into the one whom recently cursed and with a clear conscience, under the pressure of increasing internal stress, commits even greater evil. The mind, with a closed heart, can come up with any justification for cruelty, and they will look quite adequate (“he is to blame”, “tit for tat”, “I eradicate injustice”, “I am only for the purpose of protection” - rationalization), at least least for the one who imagined himself.
In the event of an imbalance, when one gives more than the other, the destruction of the relationship is likely, because. the first begins to feel exhausted and superior, and the second is pushed out of the exchange under the pressure of guilt and an oppressive feeling of being inferior to the other. Sometimes the giver goes to great lengths to prevent the taker from repaying, so he wants to maintain a sense of superiority.
It is very difficult for the taker to sincerely admit that he receives more, that he is, as it were, lower. it is a relationship of equals and the transition to another status is a very serious blow to self-esteem. Refusal to another in equality inside is perceived as aggression and the taker experiences in this case:
- A deep sense of guilt and a strong desire to get out of the relationship, it just pushes
- aggression towards someone who tries to put himself above
- impulses to restore balance in good or bad. If the exchange cannot be balanced in a good way, i.e. there is no way to thank proportionately, then the option remains in the bad (in fact, in the amount of the difference in the exchange of good and the pressure that it exerts). These may be attempts to humiliate the giver, the desire for revenge, dirty tricks and other negative manifestations.
If balance is not restored, then a sense of duty or the right to demand, to take revenge can be transferred to the later members of the system.
Example "Partnership"
The man's ancestor treated his partner unfairly, deceived him. A man is engaged in business, opens companies, enters into partnerships, which end up being “thrown” in some way.
There is another type of relationship - one in which inequality is initially present and some give much more, while others take, for example, between parents and children or between a teacher and a student. In this case, the receiving party cannot return its debt to the one who gives, but can only pass on what was received, for example, to its students or children.
Birth
You can look at the birth of a person in such a way that a child, some time before conception, brings his future parents together, organizes the space and forms the conditions that he needs for birth. Accordingly, the situation in which the child was born, the conditions in which he grew up and the parents that he had - this is what he needs, no matter how difficult and traumatic his childhood may be. In this vein, reproaches or arrogant attitude towards parents about the conditions of their birth, as a rule, are not constructive: the child came to where he was supposed to.
What happens in the constellation is, first of all, images in the language of which the field wants to tell something, help to see the cause of problems and eliminate them. This language, first of all, should be understandable to the facilitator, who, in addition to what is happening in the constellation field, can directly receive images, the situation must be felt (see the article " Interpretation systems"). Also, this language is not universal - different hosts can interpret similar characters differently. Graduates of the same school will have more similar images (since the same program of interpretation was laid during training) than graduates from different schools. And, by and large, most often it doesn’t matter in which generation the event occurred and with whom specifically (a woman in the fifth generation), but it is important to understand it, learn a lesson and remove the negative impact on the client’s current life. The scene that plays out in the field of constellation may never have occurred in the life of the family in the form in which it was understood and interpreted by the participants. Often, to describe what is happening on the subtle plane, the language is much better suited not for events, but for energy flows and disturbances in their flow (see). In this case, the same problem from the point of view of flows can be presented in the form of different events, different life situations can lead to similar disturbances in the flow of energy. With the help of the arrangement, there is a harmonization of energy flows and their flow.
tell me, please, is there any benefit for the deputies from the constellation?
A person who participates in the constellation as a substitute gains experience, sometimes this leads to the solution of his personal problems. Having been as a deputy, the view of some relationships and the optimal model of behavior changes, a kind of view from the outside, which you will not get in ordinary life. For example, a mother is in conflict with her daughter, having participated in the arrangement as a substitute for a daughter who is at war with her mother, she saw what her daughter really wants and how relationships can be improved.
about the diagnostic setup. why turn off the mind?
The mind contains a set of stereotypes embedded by someone, how one should and should not act, how one can and cannot, it can be very straightforward and constrained by all sorts of frames, dogmas. The mind can manipulate facts, engage in self-deception, rationalize. Far from always, what the mind insists on is useful for a person, as a rule, it leads a person along the beaten paths. Therefore, it is desirable to reduce its impact as much as possible in order to find a really good solution that will please both the mind and the Soul.
What is "rationalization"?
rationalization - the selection of only some facts and the construction of conclusions based on them that allow you to maintain a good image of yourself (see rationalization in the section "Psychological defenses"). Self-deception, when one is passed off as one for the other (“I don’t scream, I have such a voice”, “My anger is righteous, I only act in self-defense” or “I do my best”, the statements look beautiful and believable, but most often they are lies). That. something can be hidden even for the person himself, and the picture of what is happening will be distorted.
are there any exceptions to the laws? are they always true?
The laws of family systems are a generalization made by Hellinger based on the practice of working with family systems, the translation of some patterns on a subtle plane into words, which is always associated with coarsening and a degree of inaccuracy. The laws within different egregors are not always the same, respectively, in different cultural environments and over time, the laws and consequences of certain actions may differ. Therefore, in each specific situation, you need to look individually. But in the vast majority of cases, they are correct. More abstractly, some actions create deformations in the normal flow of energy along the Genus, distort something, and on the physical plane this leads to various undesirable consequences. Here are some metaphorical examples:
- There is a powerful stream, and a person stands in front of him and tries to resist, resists, although the forces are completely unequal, respectively, the wear rate increases here, and sooner or later, alive or dead, what resisted will float further (resistance to something more).
- There is a flow of life-giving energy, and the person stepped aside, refuses and dies of thirst, instead of going with the flow (arrogance, exclusion of someone from the system).
- Someone was done badly, he wished all the “good” with all his strength, thereby poisoning the stream, adding a poisonous stream to it. It is possible that this will not respond to those who have committed a bad deed, but one of the descendants will fall into a negative stream. Therefore, those who are in the flow need to notice and neutralize this impact, for example, through reconciliation (balance disturbance, exclusion of someone from the system)
- Some element of the system directed part of its flow in the opposite direction from its descendants and the path followed by Rod. Descendants get only small streams. The flow gives strength and security.
- One of the family members removed some quality from the stream, or vice versa added it, and it is passed on to the descendants. For example, the withdrawn quality may be "warmth" or "joy of life", and the added "sadness" and "aggression" or "the ability to play music." The streams mix, then go deep, then float to the surface of the descendants.
Any person can be a deputy or are they somehow chosen? And how should the deputy behave?
Almost anyone. You can even never see the arrangement, come and immediately be a deputy. It is desirable for the deputy to turn off his head, not to try to analyze. Stand, pause, slow down, feel and gradually various sensations may come, for example, one of the participants in the arrangement will start to like it or, on the contrary, be disgusted, if you want to move somewhere or be together with another figure - the field will begin to lead. Through the behavior and attitudes of the substitutes, the system reveals something important.
how does a specialist understand that something is broken, how can this be determined by looking at the arrangement from the outside?
You can feel, see inside, sometimes deputies directly say what they feel and what they want, as well as by the external behavior and disposition of the participants. For example:
- the daughter stands next to the father, takes the place of the mother;
- the participant clenches his fists - aggression towards someone;
- deputies look at the floor - someone is missing, aborted child;
- the child follows the dead relative and wants to lie next to him;
- husband and wife want to separate, and the child tries to stop them.
how long to wait for the result?
Sometimes changes come immediately, at the moment of alignment, for example, a person changes his attitude towards his parents, arrogance, blocks that prevented the flow of energy, go away. Sometimes it takes some time (from weeks to months), because. the system is gradually being rebuilt. It largely depends on the readiness of a person to change, to move in a new direction. Perestroika can be accompanied by crises - the old collapses to make room for the new, the scale is different.
what problems can result from violation of laws, are they specific?
The problems may be different. It all starts with the fact that the violation of laws leads to a violation in the flow of energy, and then it already takes on some form. It may be in the form of recurring events, it may be in the form of illness, in the form of weakness, failure, it may be in the form of scandals or in the form of a movement into death.
Good afternoon! Is one arrangement enough to solve the problem?
It all depends on the person and the situation. It happens that there are several interweavings, a lot of things need to be worked out, but a person does not have enough energy (this manifests itself in different ways - the group gets tired, the person no longer wants or cannot, the information closes, it becomes as if empty, something goes away - the system is gone , and people are still standing). Then it’s better to shoot everything gradually, with breaks between constellations, because. sometimes it takes time to change. Also, a person needs to prepare, although often the mind can adjust, say "faster, faster." You shouldn't go after him. When there is a bust, various mechanisms for protecting the psyche can work, for example, a state of shock, inappropriate chuckles, complete rejection, a person does not hear, misses his ears.
what can be the cause of failures in personal life, why do men seem to be absent?
There can be many reasons. Considered from a systems point of view, influences can, for example, come from the family system as well as from systems of former relationships. Examples of reasons emanating from systemic disorders: a daughter is in a symbolic marriage, where the father takes the place of her husband, or the feeling that marrying a husband is dangerously transmitted from someone by birth, or the mother is not accepted, and then the flow of female energy is attractive to men , decreases, or the daughter tries to keep her parents from divorce, she directs all her strength and attention there. Previous relationships can influence in such a way that with a visible parting, in fact, the relationship is not completed (some kind of energy attracts a friend to a friend, for example, a feeling of resentment, aggression, claims, love), then a person hangs in them, is busy and cannot go further, is in the past and is experiencing. Sometimes it happens that a woman still finds a man, but the flow is still oriented towards another person. Then both the man and their children receive less attention, warmth, energy.
Is it possible to remove the impact of systems on a person? protect yourself from it?
You can learn to track their influence, and then make a decision to act in accordance with what the egregor wants or in a different way. Much is imposed because a person does not track the source of impulses for action and perceives all impulses as his own, and accordingly implements them without hesitation (see the description of the process in the example “Consultation with a psychologist”). One of the main points in helping a person with family entanglements is to show that the role that a person plays was played by another person, that it is imposed. When a person sees this, then disidentification occurs. In the arrangement, the role is returned back to one of the ancestors. For more information, see the articles: “Egregors”, “The invisible world and its impact on a person”, “Identification, awareness, free will and choice”.
Can you please tell me what could be wrong?
Feelings of guilt can be inherited through the family system from one of the ancestors. Feelings of guilt can arise in case of violation of the internal ethics of the system, i.e. rules, so the system shows a person which actions are desirable and approved by the system, and which are not (see "Conscience"). Guilt can also appear in case of imbalance in relations with any person.
what type of constellation is best for problem solving? do they differ in efficiency?
Different types of constellations (with deputies, on anchors, in imagination, via Skype...) can be considered as tools, and in some situations some are better suited, in others others. The main thing is to diagnose the source of the problem and work it out.
Can I see what's going on in my organization?
I happened to encounter the constellation method and nothing came of it, except for a deep distrust of it. It is doubtful to me that any person participating in the constellation is able to catch and correctly interpret (transmit in the constellation) information from the subtle world. After all, for this it is necessary to "block" one's Self - "turn off", and this is a very complex process that requires preparation. Am I wrong about something? and were there cases in your practice when the constellations "did not work".
It is doubtful to me that any person participating in the constellation is able to catch and correctly interpret (transmit in the constellation) information from the subtle world
Yes, capturing and completely correctly interpreting is a really difficult task. To interpret, you need to know yourself well enough (the better, the more accurate it will be) and to have energy. Sometimes a person feels, but cannot say, it is impossible to translate into words.
But, for work in the constellation, it is not necessary that the deputies be “ideal” and show and tell everything. Often, small basic feelings or slight movements are enough (for example, a person says that he feels sad, or is angry at another, or looks at the floor). These are all hints that help the leader orientate, show where to go. So gradually, step by step, the ball is unraveled.
Much depends on the leader, on how well he can interpret the signals, and the fact that the deputies live, but do not notice for themselves, can be quite noticeable and understandable to the leader. Signals come not only from deputies (there are arrangements without deputies), but also directly to the leader, images of what is happening can appear. Hellinger, for example, had a constellation where a woman, as soon as she sat down to him, wanted to start asking some questions (but these were not the right questions at all). He did not let her say anything, they sat for a couple of minutes, and after a pause he says: you know, you are going to leave (i.e. the woman is moving into death). And that's it... it was on point. The woman felt everything well, she cried, she knew it inside, but most likely she never confessed to anyone, and she wanted to make an arrangement about something completely different (see article “ Is the customer always right?"). Formally, the arrangement has not yet begun, but a lot has already been done.
and were there cases in your practice when the constellations "did not work"
I look at constellations as a good idea, a technique for working with field processes. But this is a technique, not a guaranteed result. The result may not be (or completely different than the client wanted) for many reasons, including those depending on the host and the client (for example, the request was superficial, without energy, no one was interested in it, and the host did not notice this. I think , it would not be very good if Hellinger did not listen, did not look deeper, but immediately began to arrange what the woman wanted).
An interesting article, such a peculiar combination of Western psychology with some cabal approaches.
Cabalists believe that a person can influence his destiny by influencing his environment.
Of course, these approaches do not give universal answers, but the direction is right ...
Thanks for the feedback. Sometimes the intersection, the synthesis of several directions, allows you to highlight additional facets of life, they enrich each other. Each direction has its advantages and strengths.
What effect does the constellation and worked out flow have on siblings and other relatives knee above and below? Thanks to.
Depends on the situation in the system and arrangement, as well as on all listed family members. The arrangement helps to make changes in the system, as a result of which the roles and relationships between elements may partially change. As for the descendants, when the ancestors acquire a certain quality, the probability of passing this quality to the descendant increases (for example, warmth instead of the former coldness).
Please tell me if the arrangement will help if you can’t start a family (get married, have a baby) when there are no visible reasons (pretty, smart, everything is in order with health)
Deployment is a method. Like any other method, it is a tool that in itself does not give any guarantees. There are factors that affect a person. They can be conditionally divided into two groups - dynamics associated with the family system, which are not recognized, and personal traumas and features acquired in the current life, which a person needs to work on (and, as a rule, which he also does not notice). You can work on the first group of factors in a constellation, on the second - in the framework of counseling, analysis. In both situations, much depends on the person himself.
It is also desirable to take into account the fact that desire can be false, for example, formed due to the action of psychological defenses or under the influence of the environment.
Is it possible with the help of constellations to find out the causes of chronic diseases, or, for example, to find out why a person behaves in a certain way, what programs are in him, and do they help him understand what he really is and what is his goal? Thanks))
About diseases. Sometimes - yes, you can find out and eliminate. See also the answer to the previous comment.
Why a person behaves in a certain way - there are many factors. Some forms of behavior, including those unconsciously adopted from one of the members of the genus, originate in the family system. About the sources of desires, motivation, programs - there is in the article " Fulfillment of desires", etc.
Understanding yourself and what the purpose of a person is is a gradual process. The first step towards it is to start observing your inner world, to highlight what is false in it, introduced, what forces are at work. Start consistently reducing the number of internal and external lies, then the picture becomes more transparent.
And what effect does the Orthodox egregore have on people? is it good or bad?
I can’t say anything unequivocally that something is good or bad - it depends on how you look. You can find both good and bad in everything. Egregor can help people, but at the same time, he charges for it, requires service.
Hello! Tell me if I understand correctly, in order for the arrangement to bring the desired result, you need to tell frankly and in detail about yourself, your family.
Is it possible in this case, to maintain confidentiality, to use pseudonyms and come to the constellation by changing the external image?
Will this have an impact on the result and are such changes fundamental for the work of the constellation therapist? Thanks in advance.
Indeed, there are times when a person, for one reason or another, would not like to take his situation outside. In this case, you can make a one-on-one arrangement with a specialist in whom you have confidence. Sometimes a special group of non-visitors also gathers (for example, when you need to make an arrangement related to business and do not want to advertise).
What to tell frankly - yes, within the framework of what the work will take place, the specialist may need some information (for example, if you are working on relationships in your current family, were there any other connections, were you married for the first time and etc. - depends on the situation).
Closeness can interfere with the process (but, as a rule, people are more or less closed, because the topics are complex). To some extent, a person (and the field that leads him) unconsciously sets himself to what depth it is necessary and possible to dive.
Another moment. Speaking abstractly, many problems appear when some kind of life experience of a family or a person is denied, rejected, excluded. In the constellation, there is often a manifestation and acceptance of this experience, so some stories may be revealed.
3 days ago I made an arrangement for ease in a relationship with a married man (after all, pain, suffering appear when you resist) I have one desire - to learn to appreciate myself, and forget about a 10-year romance! After the arrangement, I feel that something has changed, but I often remember him, even waking up, I understand what I think about him (but I don’t cry anymore). The question is how to help yourself not to think about it?
Svetlana, please look at the article “Social Interactions”, perhaps something will respond.
It would be useful to understand and realize why you think about it. You can also see the article “ Fulfillment of desires" - there is about psychological defenses and suppression, as well as questions and comments at the very bottom (thoughts, emotions, some states can be considered as signals about something, there is some kind of force behind them. Its rude suppression can lead to various consequences.). Are you not crying because it is “needed” (i.e. suppressed) or is it really an internal process that resulted in the need for tears gone?
About "don't think about him". Sometimes immersion in some other activity helps. But, this is a form of displacement, compensation. The most important thing is to understand why you think about this man and start from this (for example, you want a relationship, perhaps not necessarily with this man, but he and thoughts about him are a symbol. I’ll explain with an example. When a person has some kind of desire, he can be strongly attracted to those people with whom this desire can be realized, and as soon as the desire is realized, he may find that the desire to be with these people has disappeared, that there is nothing in common).
And there is another question - why?
Please tell me, can I participate in the constellations of my problem as a substitute for one of the participants in my own situation? I really want to feel it for myself.
Violation of what family laws can push to move into death?
Is it possible to get a money debt from a dishonorable person with the help of constellations? Or should I analyze this situation in terms of balance and understand that no one owes me anything? But then how can I protect myself from the negative energy influence of this person who does not want to repay the debt? (to suppress an unpleasant destructive feeling).
Should/shouldn't be a difficult question sometimes. human interactions are complex, as a rule. If a person has not fully figured out the issue and began to actively act, then he can mess things up. It happens that something happens that seems unfair, and then, after a while, a person may look at the situation differently. When a person is deceived, when it’s hard, he takes something out of the situation, learns something (perhaps he begins to look at himself and notice that this can happen in him too). Like a lesson. There are also various subtleties, for example, not the person himself, but through him money is withdrawn for something (for example, he did not give to someone to whom he should have given, and after a while money is taken away from him, he somehow loses it ).
But then how can I protect myself from the negative energy influence of this person who does not want to repay the debt?
I don’t know your situation, what kind of relationship you have with a person, whether there is and was there any conflict before. People, often decent, but sometimes some additional factors prevent them from repaying a debt at the moment. Did you ask why he didn't want to? In what form did you talk to him (sometimes there is such a form that you don’t want to give it away at all, for example, when there was a conflict)? Does he recognize the debt? Sometimes you can talk delicately with a person, accept the situation and decide together how he will give what he owes. Maybe he's having some trouble right now.
It happens that the only available way at the moment is to accept, to accept that the debt will not be returned, so as not to wind yourself up, not to poison both yourself and the person. Adapt and move on. An internal request from a good state (without malice, with respect) to repay a debt can help. Such requests can work well not only with debts. There are consequences for the debtor.
On this topic, you can see the article “ Social interactions"And" Loss and return of the soul", As well as read the story of Leo Tolstoy" Karma "(see" Useful books").
In December 2013, I made an arrangement at the request of money, business, improvement of well-being. The arrangement did not work out, i.e. by your definition« By itself, the arrangement is not only to view something, but also the impact, as well as a change in the situation, i.e. she organizes herself to do some work that is important» - the arrangement did not work out, the coach did not identify the reason, etc. Is this also some kind of indicator for me or in the professionalism of the coach?
I must add that over these 4 months my situation has worsened even more.
Thank you.
Was the alignment about you personally or about the organization?
About the quote:
By itself, the arrangement is not only to view something, but also the impact, as well as a change in the situation, i.e. she organizes herself to do some work that is important
This work is not necessarily what the client asked for, at the level of words, mind (see, for example, the article "The client is always right?"). It may be useful to see the article "Loss and return of the soul". There is a client, there is a specialist and there is a field. Field - directs. If something goes against the current, then the energy from the arrangement (as well as from some sphere of life) can leave, it crumples, goes through force, “nothing is visible”. Sometimes the cause of any trouble is unethical behavior towards oneself or others - the quality is blocked and the energy does not flow. Improvement comes as a result of working through lessons, better understanding, changes.
If the coach has not identified the cause, then there may be many options - for example, perhaps the root of the problem lies in another area, it may be a consequence of something or a way to pay attention to something, correct the course.
Perhaps you should pay attention to your condition. What is it. Better or worse. Is there anything that happened relatively recently (for example, half a year ago)? Is there energy in what you do, or does everything go through force, through forcing yourself? If through force, what can be done to change the situation? (See also the article “Why all this" and comments on it). This can shed light on important places - potential points for development.
In what way is the “ability to connect to the energy field” caused among the participants in the arrangement, is absolutely any person able to “connect” to it so easily?
each person is constantly connected to one field or another. There are different fields in the constellation, including the field of the family system of which the person is a representative (which could have brought this person to the constellation). Not all fields can be connected. see the article "Egregors" about this.
Connection to one level or another is due to the direction of attention (as a rule, this all happens unconsciously - a person is in some place and begins to read and work out egregorial instructions. If a person is not welcome in this place, then he can be pushed out of there, egregor will induce discomfort, produce attacks). If there is no access to a certain layer, and a person persistently tries to enter, then he can simply connect to another layer, which will induce him certain states, dictate his will, etc. If a person does not follow the instructions of the field, does not catch its messages, then he can also jump onto some other one. This is to the fact that sometimes the arrangement can be significantly spoofed (for example, because someone stopped catching field signals and began to focus on some of their previous patterns, or, in places where the person himself has a gap, his behavior begins to become very rigid, or he stops noticing something, is blocked, the person is on a different wave), there may also be some movements, actions of people, but they will have a very distant relation to the real situation.
I read a lot in this direction, I can be wrong, but the closest in meaning is Vadim Zelanda, the author of the "Reality Transurfing" theory. It turns out that egregors (the personality inside us that you energetically feed are the same pendulums? field, layers is the space of options?, arrangement - "highlighting" possible options?
Hello, thank you for the useful and informative information.
Please help me understand why girls often subconsciously choose unsuitable partners for themselves?
How can you do the arrangement yourself? Or is it better to conduct the constellation under the guidance of a leading psychologist?
To do the arrangement yourself, you need experience. You can start by reading Hellinger's books. It is not necessary to do the arrangement literally, sometimes awareness and identification of “tails” is enough for the problems to transform.
Good afternoon. Does regular viewing of video seminars of Hellinger constellations somehow help in a person’s personal systemic problems?
Each person has their own characteristics. For some, once is enough and there is no further interest in watching. It is interesting for someone to watch several times, attuning and getting something new for themselves each time.
Therefore, it's all individual. You can ask yourself inside the question of whether it is interesting, and observe whether there is a real benefit (for example, a person forgave someone close for something that he could not accept before, became softer), whether there are changes. The purpose of certain events is internal change. Internal changes will lead to external changes.
On the other hand, you can look in different ways, and regular viewing can serve the purpose of calming the mind, which says that it is doing a useful thing, is being transformed. In fact, a person avoids meeting with his problems and leaves the study. A person tries to replace internal work with external plausible measures.
Guarantees and promises about something can tempt a person to shift full responsibility to the one who guarantees and not make the necessary personal efforts to materialize the desired. A person can watch a large number of times, but closing himself, do not let energy into his heart, do not reconsider his life, do not transform himself.
If there is interest, attunement and inner work, then viewing the records of the Teachers can be a good help in transformation. Teachers broadcast wisdom and grace, allow you to go beyond the boundaries of the previous framework.
Information about egregors is the personal opinion of the author (which is not indicated), why drag this into the name of Hellinger, who never mentioned this and misinform people. The examples are rather strange - from whose practice are they?
From Hellinger's book "The Source Doesn't Need to Ask the Way":
Rupert Sheldrake describes in his books the properties and action of morphogenetic fields - force fields that determine certain structures. He told me that in the process of family constellations, you can directly observe how the morphogenetic fields operate.
I wondered if his observations could apply to other things as well? But what if a certain group of people is bound by a certain way of thinking, which complicates the process of awareness for such a group. Are the events taking place in the family a model that is determined by the morphogenetic field of the family. If, for example, someone in the family commits suicide, suicide is often repeated in subsequent generations. This happens not only because one of the family members wants to follow the deceased, but also because a pattern has been created.
Sheldrake noticed that when a new crystal is formed, its structure has not yet been set. If a new crystal is formed in the same bond, its structure is similar to that of the first crystal. This is the memory of the first crystal. This means that the morphogenetic field has a memory. Therefore, each new crystal will most likely be similar to the first one. In the process of repeated repetition, a certain pattern is fixed. Perhaps similar fates develop in a similar way.
Sample Interruption
This movement must be stopped. The recognition of this movement and its interruption require great courage to do something fundamentally new. If the interrupt succeeds, it is a special achievement. Interruption cannot be achieved by simply going with the flow. You need to retreat. Instead of going with the flow, you need to go ashore, look at the river, recognize the old and recognize the new. Then decide what to do.
The examples are rather strange - from whose practice are they?
if you allow yourself not to reject and observe more closely, they will become examples from your practice. The following paragraph is from The Source Doesn't Need to Ask the Way:
The family has memory. Information from family memory that is born is a gift. But this gift is held tightly by the darkness and the hidden where it came from. This means that its essence remains hidden for us. We don't know where he came from or where he came from. It is hidden not only from us, it is hidden in general, which means that we do not have access to it. We can and dare to dispose of this gift only at the moment when it appears to us, and we must stop when it disappears again.
What is revealed does not reveal to us the hidden and secret, it is shown within certain boundaries. Our views overshadow it, superimposed on what has come to light. Our own view of this (if it has formed) allows us to remain subjective and stands in the way of knowledge. What has come to light, on the contrary, pushes us to the unfamiliar, unusual and new.
Concentrating in the process of such work, we turn our gaze to what remains hidden, what is beyond the revealed. We submit not only to what is revealed, but also to what remains hidden, to what appeared and disappeared again. We are in tune with both movements and obey both. This work reveals the essential, so it is not limited to the superficial, for example, only the healing of the disease. Therefore, it is much more important than psychotherapy as such.
Good afternoon, Alexey.
Recently I heard that after the constellations it is recommended not to make any important decisions for a month. To what extent is this recommendation valid?
Alena, good afternoon!
The fact that a month is conditional, in each specific case, you need to look individually (and what is important and what is not - each person can evaluate in his own way. The fact that a person came to the constellation, as well as those conclusions to which he consciously or unconsciously came in its process - this is very important). The fact is that a person has done work, new energies have come and it is necessary to process them, change, which takes time, and also some people can bring disharmony with their sharp obvious initiatives (a person from the mind can focus processes that are still being built, and therefore interfere. People, systems have their own rate of change, transformation, if you don’t take it into account, you can overload it and create additional difficulties. A carrot grows at its own pace, if you pull it by force, it won’t get any better). When a person inside has changed, when he has moved to a new level of awareness, new energies, he can notice how the reality around him began to gradually change, which takes time.
Thanks for the detailed article, but I had a question at the very beginning. How did Bert Hellinger understand that past events affect the present? So he saw it in the lives of the test subjects? How many such cases were there? And what if the history of one of the branches of the genus is unknown? That is, we cannot stage an event because we do not know about it. Or maybe it's in this event? Then it turns out that the arrangement based on known facts will not help us. How do I know if I know enough family history to know if the constellation will help me improve family relationships?
And what if the history of one of the branches of the genus is unknown? That is, we cannot stage an event because we do not know about it.
Tatyana, during the arrangement, the event is not staged. Often, even questions about the past of the family are not asked, or the specialist asks them one on one. Then the deputies are placed in the constellation (in certain roles) and they begin to broadcast what they feel (they usually don’t know about family stories. It’s even better if those who are not familiar with the family and the person who ordered the constellation participate in the constellation - so that there is no play). Sometimes the alignment is done blindly - deputies are introduced into the alignment without saying what role they play. Feelings, sensations, experiences on the participants leads the field. Sometimes something that is important appears, but what was previously hidden, was not discussed in the family.
How do I know if I know enough family history to know if the constellation will help me improve family relationships?
It is necessary to consult with a specialist, from whom you are potentially planning to do the alignment. Sometimes it happens that instead of constellation, some other activities, such as a consultation, may be better suited.
Hello, thank you for interpreting the incomprehensible and invisible so clearly and clearly. And about the assemblage point, and about vampirism. Learned a lot, thank you!
If good things are given to a person, and if he cannot give good things in proportion, then he gives bad things, devalues, humiliates ...
Question: why can't this person also give back the good? Doesn't want to? Or is he just not good enough?
It happens in different ways, it is necessary to consider each situation separately. For example, he may not have something commensurate with what he has received (the relationship between parents and child, student and teacher). Maybe greed too. And it may also be that the one who gives thinks that he is giving something good, but in fact it is not so (often behind outwardly beautiful words and gestures there may be hidden not so beautiful internal motives that a person may not even be aware, for example, to rise above another). In the latter case, the reaction of the one who received it may not be on the outside, but on the content, and then the desire to devalue, humiliate, seems quite adequate for the subconscious. Also, the subconscious is engaged in maintaining life and it can be very tenacious to resources, and therefore it can be difficult for it to give.
Hello!
Participated in the arrangement as a deputy. It seems that after the arrangement she took off this image. But after a night, I realize that I missed it. The same sensations as during the arrangement. Plus dreams reflecting that situation. What to do in this case?
Elena, good afternoon! Try what it says here: "Exit obsessive state". Further, it is important not to close your thoughts on the previous state, to switch and keep your attention on something else.
Also see if there is any resonance in what happened in the constellation with your situation? Your subconscious may remind you of something that you should pay attention to.
Alexey, tell me, please, sometimes I watch constellations, or the work of Gestal therapists, and I ask myself: when I was 19-20 years old, I had 4 abortions for a short period of up to 2 weeks. I well understand that at that time I could not give birth to these children. At that point in my life, this was the best decision I ever made for these children. And I have no guilt about these aborted babies. This is fine? I look at many women, how they suffer and so on, and I am afraid that I do not suffer. Thanks
In the family of one young man, the dog began to get very sick and it was decided to euthanize it. Then the dog was buried. The young man then had no feelings, except for a slight relief. That period in a person's life was a difficult black streak, and caring for a dog, in addition to other tasks and difficulties, lay entirely on him. After about 7 years, gradually thawing, he shed a lot of tears about his dog. He gradually realized that, probably, there was no other way out then, but there was pain and she had been inside all these years, but in a depressed state. Before, he had thought that he had come through the death of the dog easily and that it had not affected him in any way. Some strong experiences may be temporarily closed to a person. A person may have a certain threshold, a level of pain that he can live through and process. If there are no resources for living, if this level goes beyond, then experiences can simply be blocked and suppressed. The subconscious, as a measure of protection, can block a person's attempts to penetrate deeper (a person, for example, can forget something, not dive deep into something).
This is not necessary in your case, but worth a closer look.
Good afternoon! Could you tell me, please, what is meant by the arrangement related to business? Setting for the success of your business?
With the help of the arrangement, you can identify and resolve issues that are somehow related to the business. For example, this can be the identification of relationships between employees, bottlenecks, potential sources of problems and difficulties, what hinders, decision making, choosing the right position for an employee, balances within the organization.
Hello. How can you improve your relationship with your teenage son using constellation? Remove bad habits and regain respect. Thanks
Lyudmila, I can't write any algorithm. For some situations, the arrangement is better suited, and for others - something else. Here it is necessary to make a constellation, and the constellator already looks at the situation and makes some decisions. Or, as part of the consultation, to understand what is happening in your relationship, as well as the characteristics of you and your child, to find out what he wants.
Hello Alexey!
Can constellations be harmful or dangerous? For example, the role (program, energy) broadcast by a person in the field remains, does not leave it. And there is no strength, experience, skills and knowledge (both one's own and a specialist's) to get rid of the "obsession". What, in your opinion, can be the consequences in such situations?
Nothing should be treated superficially and recklessly. Any method, if it has great potential, great power of influence, then, accordingly, much can be done with it. Fire can be used for good, but it can also bring trouble if you treat it carelessly. Constellation is work at a deep level, with the help of collective energy.
Artyom, yes, some roles can be very unpleasant for a person, for example, a long stay in some roles of a destructive nature. Sometimes the alignment goes in the wrong direction and this can be perceived by the participants as a depressing state, when energy quickly ends and heaviness piles up (for example, when the request is not correct, and the specialist, for one reason or another, follows the client's lead). But, as a rule, this is individual, and if it is unpleasant to be in a role, then you can ask the host to replace you. If the usual ways to get out of the role did not work out (usually this is a kind of ritual at the end of each constellation, when, for example, the client comes up to each participant and says: “You are not my dad, you are Fedya”, shaking, etc. “Smoke breaks”, i.e. tea and communication with others also help a person shift his assemblage point to another position), try the technique of getting out of an obsessive state. You can take a contrast shower. And it is very important not to mentally get stuck on the plot, i.e. you need to remove the role and, by an effort of will, transfer your attention to something else, winding up strengthens the contact, the person nourishes the connection with the object of his attention.
The fact that a person does not have the strength, experience, knowledge and skills - this can be a garter, a program that instills uncertainty, a person begins to wind himself up and himself, with his own strength, makes an elephant out of a fly, i.e. it would be enough for him to simply switch his attention and everything would be fine, but the doubt that was invested in him can begin to torment him (some people “wind up” and bind their clients in this way: that is, scared, gave rise to doubt, a person is himself arranged everything and then runs to the one who will save him from the problem).
Some psychics have such a safety technique so as not to boil in the problems of the client, not to feed him energetically - they simply forget what they talked about with him as soon as he left, i.e. they turn off and no longer stick to the client's problems, so as not to be a battery. The specialist, one way or another, in close interaction with the client, comes into contact with the energies in which the person lives, i.e. for him, this is not just a conversation, and if there is no some kind of protection, safety precautions are not observed, then you can thoroughly load yourself. These processes take place not only in constellations, but in general everywhere (for example, when communicating, another person can put a certain role on a person, transfer energy). The role connects a person to certain objects of the subtle plane. They say that one actor, after playing some difficult role, each time got drunk until he lost consciousness in order to break this connection. The role can also resonate with some program that a person already has, the role simply activates something inside him, a process that is not connected with the arrangement can begin to unwind.
A person is very complex, he does a lot unconsciously, including, for example, he can use some kind of stunning methods to disconnect from an unwanted signal, as well as internal systems that are aimed at restoring it and maintaining it in a certain stable state (in this is their plus and minus - for positive changes, you also sometimes have to overcome inertial resistance (see the example of jumping out of a state through chatter). The body sometimes knows very well what to do and how to do it.
These egregors and systems are very similar to the pendulums in Zeland's books, can't you just refuse to participate in family systems? The system described by the author looks like a playful, capricious puppeteer, as for me there is nothing good and instructive about them at all. Even if we take the case of a mother who wanted to have an abortion and her daughter, the daughter did not exclude her mother in any way, right? for some reason, according to the laws of the hierarchy, at the whim of the system, she began to experience suicidal feelings. Well, the daughter adopted these feelings from her mother ... (then it turns out that the mother no longer feels guilty?). In general, I mean that if the daughter really had to do something to understand is that systems are dangerous, and you need to be more cold-blooded ...
Can't you just opt out of family systems?
A person does not just get into and is in some kind of system. He has certain tasks in front of her, as well as support, privileges, protection from the system. Also, a person, usually, perceives all the signals that arise from him as “I”.
As for me, there is nothing good and instructive in them at all.
I suggest looking in more detail. Sometimes a person has a desire to give up something abruptly and recklessly. Take and reject something that he does not like (he already has certain ideas about how it should be. from where? sometimes these ideas are suggestions of the same systems). There is also a tendency to find some kind of enemy outside and attribute all misfortunes and all bad things to him.
In general, I mean that if my daughter really had to understand something, it was that the systems are dangerous, and you need to be more cold-blooded
I propose to look at systems, including as organizing structures that guide. The system, for example, by inducing a certain state, can solve important problems, the resolution of which is important for all participants in the system. Some categorical decisions, when a person does not see all the connections, complexity and consequences, can lead to an aggravation of the situation. Awareness and manifestation is very important - this gives a lot in order for the situation to change.
Frequent subconscious expectations of a person, which can hardly be called constructive, are as follows:
- the arrangement will solve all my problems;
- the constellator should do exactly what I want;
- I need to go to the alignment and nothing more is required of me;
- I do not bear any responsibility, the constellator is responsible for the result, he must do something and come up with something so that everything is fine;
- to achieve the desired result, you just need to do more constellations (there are people who are ready to do constellations every other day);
- I will make an arrangement and everything will work out right away, the desired result should appear immediately;
- if there was no miracle, if emotions did not gush like a river, then this is not an arrangement at all;
- the situation will change, but I will remain the same;
- paying for the arrangement, I pay for the guaranteed result.
On the last point. Payment goes for the time, experience and attention of the specialist, as well as the attention of other participants, for the maintenance of the office and other administrative expenses. The psyche is very complex, a person has various connections with systems - and all this affects him. Recklessly guaranteeing something is very arrogant, one can only move in a certain direction (in accordance with the Movement of the Spirit). A person's desires can be false, due to certain reasons, unrealizable, and also leading to negative consequences that a person is not aware of. During the movement, both the current request and the perception of what the person wanted before can change.
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Alexey, hello! Thank you for such an informative article! I had a question: can descendants pay for the mistakes of their ancestors (this may include abortion and alcoholism) by the fact that they are pursued by constant failures, problems in financial terms, work? The general feeling of life is continuous difficulties, it is not easy to live constantly in anticipation of at least something good ... And will the arrangement be effective in this situation? Thanks
And will the arrangement be effective in this situation?
See also the comment above.
Hello! I am very susceptible to the negative influences of other people. When I fall under the influence of some person, it is as if I lose my individuality. I begin to experience completely alien emotions and feelings (for example, a strong feeling of guilt, although there is no reason for this) and I perceive these feelings and thoughts as my own. That is, I constantly take the place of the figure to which the negative energy of some person is directed. And I take on the role of this figure. Why is this happening? Why do I always identify with someone? As if attracting me to someone's role. Thank you.
Or maybe all people constantly fall under someone's influence and one must be able to see this and disidentify in time?
Why is this happening? Why do I always identify with someone? As if attracting me to someone's role.
Perhaps the point is not in the role and not in the impact, but in good sensitivity, when one person well captures the state of another. This can be useful as well. If the sensations are unpleasant, then you can try to disidentify, for example, using the technique of getting out of the obsessive state.
It is also advisable to try to track the situations in which capture occurs. Perhaps the sensations of others are projections, i.e. with the help of others, the suppressed energy inside is manifested, to which a person does not want to pay attention.
Assuming the idea that a man's craving for a young girl is an unconscious longing for an unborn child, what is the right way to treat this man's wife?
Elena, the situation, I think, is difficult and painful, but she is needed for something, probably for some kind of internal changes. Crises can serve as a source of growth, a way to make a person look at something, penetrate deeper into the situation, discover something new for himself. Crises through pain give energy to change, can push for learning.
Assuming the idea that a man's craving for a young girl is an unconscious longing for an unborn child
The thing is, it's a hypothesis. It's better to test the hypothesis. In particular, for example, in the arrangement, to see how things are going. Situations are different, the reasons for this or that behavior may be different. You can understand the situation and not within the framework of constellations, for example, to understand what it is for you personally, what feelings you experience and what you can do with the current situation, what you want inside. Also, because the situation is family, it would be nice to know what a man thinks, how he feels, how he looks at the situation, how he is inside. What are the circumstances of living together.
Outwardly identical consequences can be the result of different influences, and therefore it is desirable to consider each situation as unique, without any attempt to fit it into a certain pattern or desired expectations.
Also, it is advisable to remember that the subconscious mind can actively impose some hypotheses on a person: for one reason or another, they are convenient for him (for example, there is already a certain arrangement, there is property, there is some well-established, convenience and predictability), and then look at the situation, delve into going deeper than that can be painful for him and fraught with great perversions. The subconscious may include various psychological defenses.
what is the right way to treat this man's wife?
The attitude to the situation, as a rule, cannot be changed by a conscious decision, the subconscious mind has its own attitude and it stands on it (“you can lead a horse to the river, but you cannot make it drink”). A person can only suppress, closing himself off from information and experiences, but they will not go away. The attitude to the situation changes when a person inside changes, when an essential restructuring takes place, i.e. the change of attitude occurs indirectly, through development.
The question of how it is right - each person has his own answer inside, he consciously or unconsciously accepts his choice. For one, one thing is right, for another - another. Someone can accept the situation as it is and continue to live together, but, having switched to something else, the situation does not suit someone at all and, for example, decides to disperse, the third decides to explore the topic. And the situations themselves can be different: sometimes the relationship has come to an end, people are not interested in each other, the plot is completed, and further holding the situation only leads to an increase in tension.
Alexey, thank you for the information, for the calmness and wisdom with which you answer questions
Hello, thank you for the article! Self-esteem and how to learn to trust your inner voice, where to find information?
Please advise
About self-esteem. Often self-esteem depends on what a person is identified with, i.e. it is not constant, but can change from time to time. For example, a person was in a bad mood, he made mistakes as an employee, was worried about this, it seems to him that he can’t do anything, and then, at a football match, his favorite team won and he felt a surge of strength, joy, confidence, a feeling that he can move mountains. A person can be identified with any long-term programs, serve High ideals, receive strength and support from them, which can give him a certain stability in self-esteem, then he looks at the situation that happens to him in life, from the position of the object to which he serves (for example, he is implementing a large project and within this project a hitch or a mistake at work looks insignificant, the main thing is that he sees that he is gradually moving forward step by step). Also, a person can change the object of his identification quite chaotically, then his mood, self-esteem and feeling can also roll up chaotically (see the description of an infantile personality in the article “Levels of Personality Development”).
A certain egregor can stand behind a person (for example, a family or a team) and a person is perceived as self-confident, powerful, with high self-esteem. This, at times, egregor gives him strength, energy, confidence, stability, support, as well as instructions on what to do and how. A person uses the resources and potential of the team to promote the interests of this team. Egregor gives strength, energy, forms events, allows you to have a more powerful impact on other people, hypnotize them (shift their assemblage point), bewitch. When the egregore departs from a person, then a person can become completely different: his charisma, confidence and power can disappear.
From time to time, you can find advice on how to raise your self-esteem (for example, in the areas of sales, management). But it is far from always useful to do it by straightforward methods, self-hypnosis, hard commands. Sometimes a person pumps himself up, says that he has high self-esteem, that he is confident in himself and tries to behave like a confident person, like someone who has high self-esteem. But, if there is nothing behind this (for example, some object, quality that gives strength, confidence), then he is forced to use various psychological defenses in order to hide situations and signs from himself that he is not sure of himself, where is the external the manifestation of his self-esteem does not correspond to what he thinks he should be. Tension grows inside a person, he looks hard, angular, artificial, fussy. Several different forces are fighting inside him, this weakens him, fetters him energetically, and at one moment he may not be able to withstand the whole unreal bubble that he pumped up bursts, and the person finds himself in an energy hole, depression. All the old superficial pops up before his eyes, which can be a strong blow. Persistence, perseverance manifest as long as there is energy, if there is no energy, if nothing feeds this perseverance, then they can disappear.
Sometimes it is better to raise self-esteem indirectly, when a person, for example, serves a certain quality, ideal, gradually develops, gains experience and imperceptibly grows his self-esteem, self-confidence, stability. Those. self-esteem can change as a result of work on oneself, indirectly, when a person does a certain job, learns to overcome the resistance of the material. To develop any qualities in oneself, it is necessary to remember the principle of Sautrna: systematically, gradually, without sharp unprepared jumps, otherwise the more severe fettering and limiting qualities of this planet may turn on, including in the form of effects that are described above. Saturn is responsible for depression, stiffness, lack of energy, in its high octave it is responsible for wisdom (see also about Saturn).
Thank you very much, Alexey for the materials and your work.
Within the framework of the commentary, there is no way to answer personal questions (“why am I like this?”, “How can I do that ...?”, “What should I do?”, “Is it useful for me ...?” and the like). Such questions often do not have a ready answer, and require studying the specific situation of a person and working with him, i.e. one or more consultations. See the parable at the very beginning of the article Systems of Interpretation.
Questions "Is it effective ...?" “Will it help me...?”, “Who should I choose?” often assume the expectation of a certain guarantee on my part, but I cannot give it, because. if, for example, a person goes to a specialist or does something on his own, then I don’t manage this process in any way, I’m not responsible for it, and I can’t promise anything.
For our country, the Hellinger method of system constellations is a fairly new and not fully tested method. In Germany, in their homeland, constellations began to be used in the 90s of the last century, and in a fairly short time this psychotherapeutic technique simply conquered the whole world. The Hellinger constellation method is applied for treatment a variety of problems - problems in love relationships, difficulties at work, family conflicts. And also during the treatment of various diseases, primarily drug addiction and alcoholism.
Hellinger Constellations: General Information
Bert Hellinger formulated certain patterns and laws that lead to negative events, conflicts between colleagues or spouses. The scientist worked on such questions for quite a long time: "Is there a system that manages relationships?", "How does conscience (family or personal) affect the life of an individual?", "How does the adoption of feelings take place?" In fact, these are only a few of Hellinger's vast list of topics.
Today, the Hellinger method is becoming more and more popular. With the help of constellations, a huge number of people were able to find origins their problems and solve them. Many practicing psychologists are increasingly using the Hellinger method in their work with individuals, couples, or groups.
“Arrangement” is the place of the individual in space. The method itself is similar to the game of chess. That is, all participants are assigned a specific role that displays a subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This, perhaps, is not only a family problem, but also failures in business, problems in the team.
There are several main varieties constellations, but each involves improvisation and creativity:
- structural(treatment of drug addiction and alcoholism, getting rid of fears, solving problems at work);
- family(resolution of family quarrels);
- organizational(problem solving in work groups).
Solving family conflicts
So, a man comes to a psychologist with a problem. First of all, the doctor conducts a short conversation with him, during which it is determined whether he needs an arrangement or everything is much simpler. Since sometimes a person can be directed with simple advice - and life will go back to normal. But if the situation is complicated, then a more detailed conversation is held with the client. First of all, it is determined directly problem.
For example, a man drinks, his wife “nags” him every day and says that all the problems in the family are related to his alcoholism. At the same time, the man does not think so, since before the wedding he did not drink such an amount of alcohol.
The psychologist asks the client to tell about his lifestyle. Hellinger constellations need systemic consideration situations. That is, you need to define:
- What does each spouse do on a daily basis?
- what causes conflicts;
- what kind of relationship do spouses have in general;
- whether in family life people are themselves or play someone else's role.
The psychologist considers separately the parents of the wife and husband. How did they behave in the family with each other? If it is determined that on the part of the husband, the mother and father lived ideally, and there were no issues with alcoholism, then the greatest attention is paid to the wife's relatives.
Having sorted out the situation at the first appointment, the psychotherapist recommends that the man come to the next conversation with his wife. Since the “root of evil”, most likely, it will not be possible to get rid of it in her and without her participation.
family constellations
So, when a couple tries to save the marriage, the wife of a drinking husband comes with him for help to a psychotherapist. In the course of the conversation, it may become clear that the woman copies unconsciously her mother's behavior, that is, took on her role.
Since that family life did not work out, and she constantly set the installation for her daughter: “Look, all men are the same. Your father, like the rest. Drinks, brings home pennies. With an imposed opinion, the daughter grows up in the surrounding men involuntarily notes only negative traits.
Still, the girl begins a relationship with the guy she likes. After a while, she marries him, but soon it seems to her that this man is absolutely not “her person”. Whatever he does, everything seems negative to her.
It seems that the husband is not so bad, his positive qualities significantly exceed the shortcomings. However, the woman retains internal aggression and sends negativity to her husband on a subconscious level. A man catches this signal, understands that his partner hates him, and eventually tries to seek solace in alcohol. This allows him to forget himself for a certain time, but the problem is not solved.
Further actions
The Hellinger method involves role-playing. The doctor offers the husband and wife to lose some situation. For example, he asks a woman to tell how she behaves at work. The woman comments on her communication with colleagues, official behavior, and it turns out that the patient is “white and fluffy” at work.
What changes when a woman crosses the threshold of a house? Why does a husband with one look irritate a woman? The couple play the scene conflict in front of a psychologist. A woman tells her husband a standard phrase: "I would finish drinking, and everything would be fine."
At this point, the psychologist asks the couple to stop. System constellations require timely focus on an important point. In this example, that time has come.
The doctor says: "Let's try to determine the source of the problem that forces a man to drink." Then all the reasons that contribute to this are crossed out. For example, the following are excluded:
- big financial problems;
- health problems;
- conflicts at work with a man, etc.
What remains? The man frankly says that he is oppressed by the constant wife's displeasure, which always finds fault with something or, on the contrary, is constantly silent and avoids sexual intimacy. In this situation, the partner suffers from a lack of female attention. Often, women, out of a sense of resentment or because of a lack of love for a partner, punish their chosen one in this way. They load themselves with household chores or actively sublimate their energy into caring for children. At the same time, the spouse is trying to get some kind of positive attitude by drinking alcohol. A vicious circle appears.
Subsequently, system constellations imply a deep study of this situation. In this case, the psychologist tries to inspire the woman with the idea of the need to get rid of the attitude that her mother unwittingly asked.
Wife provokes By his behavior, a man is forced to drink alcohol, that is, he makes him play the role of her drinking father. If, along with this, the wife still has a certain resentment against her husband, then during the session it is proposed to get rid of her. "It's very important to free yourself from negativity," says Hellinger himself. Family constellations offer many techniques for this.
In fact, the whole process is quite complicated. In the history of this couple, the psychologist will have to give the characters many “roles”, while so that an equal exchange of energies takes place between the spouses.
The effect of egregor on people
After conducting a systemic arrangement, they are often surprised: "Why did I reason with other people's thoughts?", "How did it happen that I began to play a different role in life?". In fact, not many people think about whether he really does what he wants and lives as he wants.
Most often, it turns out that daily actions, feelings and thoughts borrowed many from the people around them: the team, their own family and society as a whole. In other words, some energy-information space (egregor) directly affects the personality.
Any society (collective) is subject to some system of values. The impact of egregor is both positive and negative. Everyone creates a personal value system. For example, a church egregore is trying to influence people with the help of sermons. And each terrorist organization develops its own egregor by manipulating the subconscious of the participants with some theory. In some cases, strong personalities create their own egregors and influence others. This individual must be very energy intensive, since its goal is to influence and manage, manage a large number of energy flows.
Family egregors
A family clan is a system with its own specific tasks. And family members (father, mother, daughter, son) are elements that are required to perform certain functions. What happens when someone gets kicked out of the system? For example, a son, contrary to family tradition, did not want to become a military man, and his father strongly desired this.
In this case, the role of the son may distribute between the rest of the family, or play out: the daughter marries a military man. The father is happy, he is trying to establish strong contact with his son-in-law and shares plans for the future to continue the military family.
The Hellinger spacing method deeply affects the problem of the younger and older generations. Can this method help everyone? Reviews are completely different. But many agree that family egregors can negatively affect descendants.
For example, a young girl is very unhappy in her marriage. All methods of restoring relations do not give results, violence and rudeness occur in the family. The only way out is divorce. However, the older generation of this girl unanimously says: “There were no divorced people in our family, as this is a shame.”
Thus, the family egregore of this girl requires submission and dictates her principles to her. Only the rejection of the role of "victim" and a complete rethinking will help this person make a decision to start a different life.
Egregor by inheritance
The Hellinger Method helps countless couples and individuals identify the origins of evil. Here is another example of a problem with which men often turn to psychotherapists.
So, a conventional young man comes to a psychotherapist who cannot understand his behavior towards women. After multiple divorces, he faced a fact - partners leave him because of unmotivated aggression. In other areas of life, the man turned out to be positive. During a conversation with a psychologist, it turned out that the man in the past "unconsciously" tuned in to the installation of revenge. How did it happen?
Most often, in this case, it turns out that the man grew up in a family in which the father was constantly suppressed and humiliated by his wife. The boy could not resist his mother to protect his father. So, as he grew older, he developed his plan ( setting for revenge).
This situation led to the fact that, being in a relationship with girls, he periodically felt strong hatred for them. When the right situation came, he took out his anger on them with his fists. The systemic arrangement should show the guy that these feelings do not belong to him. They are fixed and inspired in the subconscious from a distant childhood. And the man has a different situation, and the girls have a different character than his mother. And the most important thing is that he can be happy only when he understands this and begins to change.
This is gradual process. A lot will depend on the natural temperament of a person. Some people need two sessions, and some need much more. Hellinger's method differs in that, knowing family systems, a person will be able to avoid life's failures, as well as protect future generations from them.
Group lessons
The phenomenon of such activities is that a group of people play the role of actors in the problem of one person. Cases can be different: a person is constantly sick, cannot find a mate, or has difficulty with money.
The constellation method is difficult to explain in detail, but it goes according to the following scenario: different roles are distributed between the group. And they begin to feel similar emotions of a person who asked for help. The phenomenon is called vicarious perception».
Thus, there is a transfer from the internal images of the client to all participants. People who are selected for certain roles are called " deputies". During the session, they describe their condition aloud, trying to restore a situation that is a problem for a person.
Hellinger constellations enable a person to unravel the tangle of conflict situations, correctly build a hierarchy and restore energy. The method is built by moving "substitutes".
A session is considered successful when all participants feel no discomfort. And most importantly, the client must experience psychological and physical relief.
Arrangement with Tarot cards
Not every person can openly tell a group of people about his problem. In this case, the client can take part in a group session, but at the same time, at his request, hidden placement. Thus, a person independently doses the openness of information. An excellent way out of this situation is a systemic arrangement using Tarot cards.
In this case, the deck is diagnostic tool process. A person is asked: “What is the meaning of the problem?”. The client, without looking, selects a card and describes what he saw on it. "Deputies" are also selected taking into account the selected arcana. A person, according to his problem, with the help of the facilitator's tips, indicates to all participants in which place they should be and what needs to be done.
Next step - emotional play situations. "Deputies" share their impressions: "I got the feeling that ...", "I thought now that ...". At this time, the client is also included in the discussion. He listens to the opinion of each participant and takes the place whose participant hurt his emotions the most. And already taking into account the new role, he says the words that are important to him.
Individual placement
Can on one's own conduct this session, as not everyone has the opportunity to work in a group. In this case, an independent systematic arrangement is possible. However, for this it is necessary to closely familiarize yourself with Hellinger's theory.
So, the problem is defined, and as "deputies" there will be cards. The process has three stages:
It may seem to a person who is not very dedicated that a fortune-telling session is taking place, but this is not true. An individual way of arranging with the help of Tarot is shown only professionals. Others are advised to resort to this method under the guidance of an experienced psychotherapist.
To date, this method is gaining more and more popularity and is being developed technically and methodically in the works of Hellinger himself, who develops the constellations today, as well as through the efforts of other constellations who “groped” their way.
Hellinger Systemic Constellations (or simply "constellations") are short-term psychotherapy. To solve a problem, a person does not need to go to a psychotherapist for months and years. All that is needed to solve the problem occurs within one constellation in one and a half to two hours. This is a huge advantage of the method. The constellation quickly falls into such deep layers of the subconscious, where ordinary psychology makes its way for years or never makes its way.
But the processes themselves, launched by the arrangement, of course, take much longer than an hour and a half. And you need to understand how to live these processes correctly.
The following partly explains what is happening in the constellations and helps to put it in your soul and in your head. But these are not absolute axioms, not mathematics and physics. These are subtle matters, sometimes even difficult to describe in words. Other constellators may work from a different picture of the world, they may have a different vision of processes. They may give different explanations and recommend completely different things. Please keep this in mind.
So, what you need to know a person who wants to make himself an arrangement.
Constellations are, first of all, field practice. Everything that happens in constellations happens in the field and through interaction with the field. They call it differently - the information field of the Earth, energy-informational, morphic, morphogenetic, noosphere, etc. The essence does not change.
This field has many properties known and unknown to us. One key is that there is no time for the field. Everything in it is happening right now.
After the arrangements, wet napkins remain, filled with tears of long-dead people. We can get to the maternity hospital, where right now the mother is giving birth to our client. A captured Soviet soldier right now in front of us is trying to escape from a German concentration camp, and an adult woman in her arrangement meets herself, a two-year-old girl who is crying right now because she is being sent to her grandmother.
This fact must be taken into account when making an arrangement for yourself.
Strong (emotionally rich) events in the subtle world are smeared (duplicated, resonate) at other points of space-time. From them waves diverge into the past and the future, like circles on water. And it can help us a lot if we consider as a constellation not only the one and a half hours that it physically takes place in the group, but a larger time interval.
Several times I saw future constellations in a dream, not knowing anything about requests or about the clients themselves. I carried out constellations in a dream, and then I repeated exactly the same thing in real life. That is, in some spheres of being, the process has already taken place, and the result is known long before the actual physical event.
In general, everything has already happened, but not everything has happened yet.
Before arrangement
When does the alignment start?
Apparently, it begins at the moment when the client signs up for the arrangement. From a phone call to me or the organizer of the group. At this moment, the therapist-client energy connection is established for the first time. On the subtle plane, their interaction begins. Processes are launched in the field related to the client's intention to solve their problem.
From this moment on, it is necessary to pay attention to possible manifestations in the surrounding space of signs that may relate to the future arrangement.
Mom suddenly remembered and told some family story. A distant relative called, about whom everyone has already forgotten. The former showed up, it is not clear what he needed. An old photograph was found that had fallen out of a family album behind a closet. They threw out the garbage from the mezzanine, and I found my old medical card from the children's clinic, and read that, it turns out, in my childhood I had this, but I didn’t know. On the night before the arrangement, I had such a strange dream. And so on...
Space can manifest some things, and it would be good to notice them.
I do not urge you to start looking for mysticism in everything and to hear the voice of the Lord in every phone call. It is not at all necessary that something will happen at all, and if it does, healthy skepticism will not hurt here either.
But I do know that these things happen. I have a lot of experience and serious statistics that cannot be ignored.
So just be in the flow and pay attention to the prompts of the universe. Remember dreams, pay attention to signs. And if it is important for your soul to convey some information to you, it will find a way to do it.
During placement
All that the client needs during the constellation is to be conscious and in contact with what is happening. To understand that everything that happens is safe, everything is done for him, and all the people in this room are now here to help him.
Of course, you need to trust both the therapist and what is happening.
Since a person is sitting in a client's chair, it means that there is already trust in the therapist.
There will also be trust in the group. I always voice the confidentiality rule before starting. Nothing that we learn in a group can be taken outside the group. No stories can be discussed with anyone and ever. Everything that happened in this room will forever remain in this room.
If you came with a relative or friend, but do not want him to be present at your constellation, we will ask him to come out for the duration of your work.
It must also be remembered that becoming a client is not going to be shot. It's just a desire to finally solve your problem. No one can or will force you to do anything. At any time, you can ask to stop the arrangement, if you have had enough. Or if the process is going where you don't want to go. Or for any other reason. It is necessary to tell it to me, I will give, if necessary, time will end for some movements, some energies to pass, and I will complete the constellation in a safe place.
After arrangement
As the constellation sometimes begins long before everyone has gathered for the constellation group, so it can end long after its physical end in the hall.
I will describe the most common options for what can happen after the arrangement. And some general recommendations - what to do with it.
For example, as a result of the arrangement, you get access to a huge amount of energy. They opened the birth canal for you, removed someone else's load, brought you out of the interweaving with someone else's fate, etc.
You come home with a sea of energy that has not been there for a long time (or rather, never at all).
With this energy, you can do useful things for which it was not enough before. Launch a project, learn to draw, make repairs, fall in love...
This state will not last forever, most likely you will smoothly return to your standard energy level. There will be a sense of belonging, a sense of peace, the completion of something.
Be prepared for the fact that around you will appear those who want to "eat" this energy. Relatives, friends, passengers on public transport and colleagues at work - all these people were created by the Lord so that we do not have too much energy. Therefore, do not delay with the planned plans and deeds - do them faster ... this state will not last long. However, if you are generous with your soul, share this energy, but mostly with your loved ones and loved ones… unless you want to save and make the whole World happy.
It may have the opposite effect. You don’t want to go anywhere, you don’t have energy, you just want to lie on the couch, not see anyone, sleep or watch stupid TV shows.
This is also very good, which means that the energy from the arrangement did not go outside, but inside. It will be used for internal transformations. Changes in the deep energy and mental structures of a person are sometimes energy-consuming processes, and it would be nice to give them the opportunity to go smoothly and environmentally.
This state will also not last long. This is the state of a caterpillar that has pupated before becoming a butterfly. Important processes are taking place under the outer shell, help them, try not to interrupt them. Pupate, dedicate a week to yourself, get some sleep, don't answer the phone, don't go to parties.
Also be prepared for the fact that relatives and friends will make efforts to pull you out of this. Take care of yourself, let the processes complete.
After the arrangement, there may be an unstable emotional state. You will want to cry or laugh out of the blue, feelings and memories will come flooding back. Constellations work with repressed and blocked emotions and feelings, unpack them and bring them out. Quite deep layers are rising, and not everything can be fully lived and completed in an hour and a half of arrangement. Something will emerge and survive after it. Be ready for it, be in touch with it, let the feelings and emotions come and go.
Arrangement of internal parts
If in the constellation we worked with personal history, with your personal trauma, then as a result you will get access to your lost, cut off parts. You will connect with your subpersonality split off in the distant past and with everything that was in it.
These are not always easy processes. Together with her, you will connect with memories, qualities, states, and energies that you have long forgotten about, or maybe did not know about. You will connect with yourself, the one you have long lost.
I received feedback from clients several times that they received a new body in the constellation. It may not be so literal, but with serious work with deep psychotrauma, the elimination of a deep intrapersonal split can really feel like getting a new, young body.
It takes time to integrate all of this. Talk internally more often with that part of yourself that we found in the constellation, communicate with it. Ask her what she wants and give it to her.
For example, lost child parts want some childish joys. Go on rides, eat ice cream, feed ducks, play with other kids. Go there, walk your inner child.
Adult parts may want some adult joys that they were deprived of. If possible, give them what they ask for.
Try to make contact with this newfound part of yourself and promise it that you will never leave it again. Befriend her.
Gradually, in front of your inner eye, she will cease to be a separate person. It will merge with you, integrate, splitting will completely disappear, and you will become whole.
Here, too, you can access energy. But it will no longer be a channel and flow, not generic, and it will be your personal energy that has been blocked for many years. It may feel different. From this new energy there can be an overstrain of the body, temperature, trembling, aches, something else. Help your body integrate and process this energy package. Yoga, massage, gym, bath, swimming and other bodily things will help here.
Arrangement of disease or symptoms
There are no exact schemes of what and how will happen to your symptom. We are working with the subconscious, with the soul, and we do not know exactly what path the healing will take. There are several main options.
- Everything goes by itself. They were just symptoms in the body, like headaches. Your symptom was related to some kind of energy, emotion, feeling (yours or not) somehow ending up in your body. In the constellation, either this energy is simply discharged, or it is the owner, to whom it actually belongs. The body so manifested what lived in it.
In these cases, the symptoms usually disappear immediately after placement. They were caused by energy constructs present in the body. If we cleanly removed them, the disease disappears instantly.
Once a girl came to my group, straight from the hospital, in which she was lying with sinusitis and complications from it. The next day, she was scheduled for surgery, to drill her skull and pump out something. She wanted to have time to make a constellation so that she could increase the likelihood of a good outcome of the operation. After the arrangement, all her symptoms immediately disappeared, the sinusitis disappeared by the evening of the same day, she did not return to the hospital anymore, she asked her mother to go pick up her things.
- We need to help the body. In the constellation, we removed the cause that caused this disease. As long as there is a subconscious cause of the disease, psychosomatics, it cannot be cured. Illness is the tip of the iceberg, a small part of a larger story. The soul will stand guard and make sure that the disease remains - this is a reminder of something important. In the constellation, we work with a large, underwater part of the iceberg. If the causes are removed, then the disease has no basis, the body recovers itself. Or the disease is already successfully treated by standard methods.
Now you just need to help the body recover. Maybe drink vitamins, homeopathy, something else. Maybe those medicines that did not work will now work well, and everything will be cured.
We have changed the configuration of the field, now something can happen in your life, you will see some kind of opportunity, a new way, you will find a person, a doctor, a healer who will cure it for you.
I had a client - chronic problems in gynecology, which for 15 years could not be cured by any doctors and medicines. They set her up. Randomly met her in the city a couple of months later.
"How," I ask, "are you doing? Did the arrangement help?"
"No," he replies, "your constellations don't work."
"It's a pity," I say. "So, the problems remain?"
"No, it's over."
"How so, - I ask. - Say that they do not work."
“Yes,” she answers, “the arrangement didn’t work. But after the arrangement, I went to the dacha, where I talked with a neighbor, and she recommended me a herbalist grandmother, who also lives in our village. She cured me with herbs.”
And she, and the neighbor, and the grandmother-herbalist all these 15 years lived in the same village, but this opportunity simply did not exist in the field. Constellations change the field, and the field is already changing our lives.
- Something happens to the symptom, but it does not go away. Maybe the manifestations of the disease decrease, become weaker, but do not completely disappear. Maybe, on the contrary, things are getting worse. As when a disease is transferred from a chronic form to an acute one in order to cure it, this is how, for example, homeopathy works. In general, you see changes that are uniquely related to the placement. This confirms that the disease is exactly related to what we saw in the constellation, we have changed something, something is happening with the disease, but the symptoms do not completely go away.
It can be the same as in the second option - you need to help the body. Maybe there are some other reasons, several stories were tied to this disease, not only the one that we removed in the constellation. The body shows that we are on the right track, we are digging there, but not everything is done yet.
- Nothing happens. This happens with serious diseases that significantly spoil your life. This may be an indicator that we are dealing with a systemic disease, under which there is a lot of everything, heavy tribal or karmic histories. All this can and should be worked on further, but it would be good to understand that if this is some kind of serious, basic problem in your life, then it may not be possible to solve it quickly.
Transfer of a resource from a genus, resource constellations
This is a separate issue. When in the constellation we come to the fact that the client's problem arose due to the fact that some important resource was not transferred from the generation here, now living. We figure out why it happened, unravel all the tangles, complete the unfinished, and let the ancestors pass on what they want to pass on. In the form of a ritual, the souls of the ancestors convey something to the client.
The girl came to the arrangement with a request - "where is my life, where is my destiny?". She didn't feel like she was living her life. In the arrangement, they came to her grandmother, who carries something important, a resource of the family. This is vital to pass on. In life, my grandmother has been seriously ill for a long time, all relatives have the feeling that she wants to, but cannot leave. In the constellation, we do a ritual, and the grandmother, with relief, hands over to the client something that she calls "magical abilities." And says: "That's it, now I can leave". The field of alignment has calmed down, everything is in harmony.
The grandmother dies next week, the client remains the youngest woman in the family with this "something".
Thus, the ancestors pass on to their descendants abilities, knowledge, vitality, energy, and indeed any resource from the family. In the arrangement, it looks very beautiful and mystical. The client leaves happy and calls back two weeks later with the question: "What now?".
To be honest, I don't know. Maybe there is more to do in life. Go study, train. What didn't work before will work now. What was not capable, now they will be. What was difficult will now be easier. Maybe you still need to receive some initiations, initiations in the real world. Perhaps, in some practices, meditations, try to tune in to what is transmitted. Maybe it will open itself in a few years. Maybe it will never be revealed, it must be passed on and will be revealed in the next generations.
In the arrangement by all those present, such processes are unequivocally assessed as correct. Those who go to constellations know that it is very difficult to do something wrong in the field, to pass it to the wrong place, to the wrong person or the wrong person. But we are dealing with such things, the meaning of which we can not always comprehend. So we can only help to happen what needs to happen, and then just watch.
In conclusion
As a rule, these are simple ritual actions - light a candle, plant flowers, go to a relative's cemetery, buy a toy, visit a church, talk with your child, and the like. Then it is highly recommended to follow these recommendations.
Sometimes, after the placement, you don’t need to do anything - everything is completely completed and closed in the process. Then just put its result into your heart and live your normal life.
Watch dreams - they may contain additional puzzles to the overall picture. They can supplement or clarify some points of the arrangement.
Mom or grandmother will suddenly accidentally remember and tell something from the family history - usually something that relates to the arrangement, and which will confirm to you the correctness of what happened in it. We dug a hole in the information field - information pops up, and people related to it can unconsciously catch it.
Relatives, old acquaintances, current and former partners can become more active. Communicate with them based on the new reality that was created in the constellation.
Maybe tell them something that was impossible to say before. Give thanks. Clear something up. Let go if they need to be let go. Accept if they must be accepted. Speak up, recognize what's important.
Probably something that couldn't be said and couldn't be heard before when there were complex dynamics that didn't allow you to communicate normally. After they are filmed in an arrangement, nothing will interfere with your communication.
We complete in the constellation what can be completed in it. Maybe complete in life what needs to be completed in life.
After the arrangement, something unnecessary will leave your life. And something new will come. Not necessarily right away, and certainly not in the way you think and expect.
Everything in the world has momentum. Our feelings, our thoughts, our consciousness too. And the physical world itself around us, our life is reluctant to change the well-trodden track. If they have been moving in the same direction for many years and decades, then it may take time to completely stop and change course.
- Important!
Don't tell anyone about your setup. Treat it as an intimate, mystical process (which, in fact, it is). At the constellation, we take out some important story from our soul. We watch it and complete something in it. Then put it back into your soul and into your heart. Let the energy of the constellation go inward, to heal spiritual wounds, and not to talk.
Do not talk about your constellation and those people with whom you dealt with it. Mom, husband, child, ex. You can (and should) say some important things that you understood after the arrangement. Awareness, recognition. Change something in the relationship that the alignment showed. You can do what is important to do after the arrangement, speak out, acknowledge. Just do not tell the process itself. Leave the arrangement inside - then it will retain its strength.
Sometimes the constellation works like magic and magic, and after the constellation, the person immediately wakes up in a new reality. Sometimes the processes of transformation, inside and out, take a while.
In constellations, we are dealing with subtle things, sometimes with such mysterious areas of the human soul that it will not be possible to make any exact guarantees and forecasts. Many processes in our soul will forever remain a mystery to us.
But one thing is certain. Our physical world is a manifestation of the subtle world. Everything first happens in the subtle world, in the energy-informational field, and then it manifests itself here. As above, so below.
And the new reality created in the constellation field will definitely manifest itself here, in your life. It doesn't happen otherwise.
There are no set-ups that don't work. But sometimes they don't work the way we expected.
Just keep your eyes and heart open and allow what needs to happen to happen.
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